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March 2015









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  • Featured Client Review
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  • Roy's Relationship Corner- Special FREE Offer for Roy's Dating Advice Website!
  • FREE Pre-Dating Teleseminar: "How to Not Let Your Relationship Past Poison Your Dating Future" with Roy Biancalana
  • Crazy Dating Fact of the Month
  • Quote of the Month




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For quite awhile, many of the single professionals who receive our event emails and monthly newsletter have been asking for MORE. Asking for Dating and Relationship tips and useful information and resources to help them in today's hectic and often confusing dating environment.


In the coming weeks, as a benefit to being on our list, you'll start getting a dating and relationships tips / resources email direct to your inbox multiple times a week. You'll be able to discontinue receiving that valuable content any time you want. Although some people may opt-out once they enter into a relationship, the emails you'll be receiving will have a solid amount of relationship advice for newly coupled people as well.


Keep an eye on your inbox for our separate, free, Dating & Relationship email series!







Questions From Other Singles Like You

Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them? Maybe just a relationship question in general? Some other people did as well and here are their questions to us.


If you have a question, simply email us at and if selected for our next Newsletter youÕll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.





Hi Pre-Dating,


Whenever I meet someone, it always seems that either they are interested in me, but they are not what I am looking for, or, I am interested in them, but they are not interested in me, what am I missing? 



Answer from Pre-Dating


Dear "Not Interested",


To answer this question, you will want to first think of the reason you are NOT interested in the people who have shown interest in you. Is it physical? It is their personality? Maybe it's their income level, or a combination of all three. 


Once you have answered this question, you will want to evaluate yourself a bit. Why do you think the people you are interested in are not interested in you? Are you less outgoing due to fear of rejection? Is it possible you are acting differently when you find something you are interested in? These things can be subtle, so it takes a bit of "stepping out of yourself" to objectively ascertain if it's you or simply that it's just the luck of the draw and therefore just a matter of time until both of you share the same interest.


It is important to realize these dating "mistakes", as they often lead to rejection. Be social, be yourself and most importantly, don't get caught up in the thought that the person you are interested in will never pick you. Sure, you will still get rejected here and there, but keep positive and the more experience you have, the more confidence you will gain!




Dear Pre-Dating,


I have come to a few events, and have not gotten picked! I am an attractive guy, I have a great job, and I consider myself a nice and easygoing person. What gives?!


Answer from Pre-Dating


Dear "Unlucky":


Great Question! I do have a few questions to ask you- what do you talk about? Is the conversation mostly revolving around you? How do you dress? And finally, what is your tonality? Let me break this down for you question by question, in hopes that we can find out exactly what is occurring here.


Let's start off with the question of what you talk about and if the conversation is mostly revolving around you. The reason I ask this, is the question you presented completely revolves around you and how great you are. No doubt you are a great guy, but people don't necessarily want to hear you gloat about yourself for 6 minutes- it's a HUGE turn off. The first thing you should do when you sit down with one of your daters, is compliment a certain physical trait about them, even if they are not your type; Look for something they obviously worked on. For example, if their hair looks great, or their makeup is well done, you might say something like "Wow, you look great tonight, your hair looks so healthy". This might sound a bit corny, however, you have immediately engaged this person by 1) complimenting them, 2) increasing their confidence, 3) sparked an interesting topic of conversation. Put yourself in the other persons shoes and think of how you would feel if you were on the receiving end of your conversation.


Now, how do you dress/ present yourself? Remember, as people, we make a physical judgment within 3 seconds of meeting someone. So, if you are not 'dressed to impress' or might still be 'living in the 90's' with your elastic waistband khaki's and Hawaiian button down, you might give off a bad first impression. If you are oblivious to the current fashion trends, I recommendasking for help. Most dept. stores have fashion experts that can help you reinvent your look. Go to a higher-end salon and have them give you a new hairstyle that is both appropriate for your age and professional stature.


Lastly, what is your tonality when you are talking to someone? Most people do not know what they sound like when they talk. In fact, recently, I helped a fellow dater who was having the same problem as you! They were not getting any matches, however, the look was right, the subject matter was dead on, but his tonality was BORING. It was like listening to Ben Stein. What I recommended to him was to take a tape recorder and record his conversations through out a day in his normal life. He called me back the following day in horror, "I DO sound boring". He worked on this for some time, came back to an event, and to his surprise, he matched with every single lady at the event. Tonality is one of the most important aspects of communication. You may think you sound GREAT, but in reality, you may be giving the wrong impression just by the tone of your verbal delivery.


All that being said, the most important piece of knowledge I can share with you is "Be yourself"! Sure, change a few things here and there in order to better yourself, but do not be too dramatic about it. You may need a little polish, but you certainly do not need to change who you are. 







Every Month, Pre-Dating wants to offer you personally selected training courses and/or Books which are offered to help you get the most out of dating in the real world. Please find our special partner offers below!


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Roy's Relationship Corner





Do you ever feel like youÕre living The Relationship Groundhog Day Syndrome, attracting the same kinds of partners, patterns, problems and pain over and over again? ItÕs a very strange dynamic and I deal with it nearly every day in my coaching practice.


In my new book, Attracting Lasting Love: Breaking Free of the 7 Barriers that Keep You Single, I directly address this issue and how to break free of it.


This is part five of a series of articles in which IÕm addressing each one of the 7 barriers and IÕm doing so by sharing an excerpt directly from the book. (If you missed the previous articles, email me at and IÕll send them to you.)

Of the 7 barriers discussed in my book, this one is the most frustrating and discouraging. Why do we experience the same relationship dynamics over and over again? HereÕs how I describe it in the book:


An excerpt from Attracting Lasting Love:


ÒMost of us have put puzzles together at one time or another, so we know that every puzzle piece has a particular shape and the idea is to find the piece that matches it. We canÕt put any two random pieces together. They have to match. They have to fit together. This is the exact reason why we attract the same partners and the same patterns over and over again.


We are like pieces of a puzzle with a particular psychological and emotional Òshape,Ó which was formed by past experiences and early childhood conditioning. And just as an actual puzzle piece doesnÕt fit with any random piece, so our particular ÒshapeÓ doesnÕt fit with just any random personÕs ÒshapeÓ either. We fit only with those whose ÒshapeÓ matches ours. In a sense, we are the ÒcookiesÓ to their Òmilk,Ó and vice versa. We go together.


Relationship Personas


This psycho-emotional ÒshapeÓ is called a relationship persona. It is not the real you, but a ÒpersonÓ you become, or a role you play, in order to get the love and attention you desire. For example, my relationship persona, the role I played, has always been ÒRoy the Rescuer.Ó My past experiences and childhood conditioning taught me that if I wanted to be close to a woman, I had to take care of her every need.


Now, in order for ÒRoy the RescuerÓ to operate, he has to have someone to rescue, doesnÕt he? Superman needs Lois Lane. My ÒshapeÓ as ÒRoy the RescuerÓ REQUIRES a woman with a complimentary, matching Òshape,Ó someone we could call, ÒDebbie the Damsel.Ó The two are a perfect match! They go together like cookies and milk. Rescuers need victims and vice versa. In fact, they more than need each other; they require each other.


Furthermore, notice that as long as I remain ÒRoy the Rescuer,Ó IÕll always attract, ÒDebbie the Damsel.Ó It cannot be otherwise. My ÒshapeÓ demands it. Groundhog Day will never end because sheÕs the only puzzle piece that fits my Òshape.Ó


This leads to what I hope will be an ÒahaÓ insight:


As long as your ÒshapeÓ remains the same, you will always attract the same kinds of partners into your life.


Until we identify our particular ÒshapeÓ and shift it, we will forever be stuck in Relationship Groundhog Day, repeating our relationship history over and over again.Ó


If youÕd like to learn more about the 7 barriers and how they might be sabotaging your ability to attract lasting love, you can preview and/or purchase the e-book or the paperback by clicking HERE.


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FREE Dating Teleseminar

April 7th, 2015


"How to Not Let Your Relationship Past Poison Your Dating Future"



With Certified Relationship Coach and Author,

Roy Biancalana



Tuesday, April 7th, 2015


8:30PM EST





In this Teleseminar you will learn how to:

  • 3 ways your past is poisoning your love life RIGHT NOWÑand what to do about it
  • How to let down your walls and allow yourself to trust again
  • How to let go of someone you still love (or loathe!)
  • The 3-step process on how to let go of any negativity from your past
  • How to avoid being someoneÕs Òrebound relationshipÓ


About Our Speaker- 

Roy Biancalana: is known as "The Intimacy Guru," and is a nationally recognized leader in the field of attraction, intimacy and conscious relationships. He appears regularly on Fox35 TV in Orlando, FL as their relationship expert and is the author of the book, "A Drink with Legs" sold worldwide.


Roy is a certified relationship coach, spiritual teacher and was a PGA Tour player. His passion is working with men and women who are committed to awakening to their true spiritual nature and experiencing the love life they most desire. He specializes in supporting single people in attracting the love of their lives and also helping those who are in committed partnerships experience a deeper level of intimacy. He has clients all over the world and coaches by phone, Skype or in person.





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FREE Dating Teleseminar

April 7th, 2015

"How to Not Let Your Relationship Past Poison Your Dating Future"



With Certified Relationship Coach and Author,

Roy Biancalana


Tuesday, April 7th, 2015 at 8:30PM EST


Ð Free-





In this Teleseminar you will learn how to:

  • 3 ways your past is poisoning your love life RIGHT NOWÑand what to do about it
  • How to let down your walls and allow yourself to trust again
  • How to let go of someone you still love (or loathe!)
  • The 3-step process on how to let go of any negativity from your past
  • How to avoid being someoneÕs Òrebound relationshipÓ





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