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November 2014









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  • Q&A Forum From Singles Just Like You!
  • Expansion News
  • Pre-Dating's NEW Ralationship Column Launches SOON!
  • Featured Client Review
  • Special Partner Offer for both Men and Women!
  • Roy's Relationship Corner- Special FREE Offer for Roy's Dating Advice Website!
  • FREE Pre-Dating Teleseminar: 

    "Are You Cuffing? Now is the Time!" 

    with Dr Nancy H. Wall
  • Crazy Dating Fact of the Month
  • Quote of the Month

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For quite awhile, many of the single professionals who receive our event emails and monthly newsletter have been asking for MORE. Asking for Dating and Relationship tips and useful information and resources to help them in today's hectic and often confusing dating environment.


Soon, as a benefit to being on our list, you'll start getting a dating and relationships tips / resources email direct to your inbox multiple times a week. You'll be able to discontinue receiving that valuable content any time you want. Although some people may opt-out once they enter into a relationship, the emails you'll be receiving will have a solid amount of relationship advice for newly coupled people as well.





Questions From Other Singles Like You

Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them? Maybe just a relationship question in general? Some other people did as well and here are their questions to us.


If you have a question, simply email us at and if selected for our next Newsletter you’ll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.




Hi Pre-Dating,


Whenever I meet someone, it always seems that either they are interested in me, but they are not what I am looking for, or, I am interested in them, but they are not interested in me, what am I missing? 


Answer from Pre-Dating


Dear "Not Interested",


To answer this question, you will want to first think of the reason you are NOT interested in the people who have shown interest in you. Is it physical? It is their personality? Maybe it's their income level, or a combination of all three. 


Once you have answered this question, you will want to evaluate yourself a bit. Why do you think the people you are interested in are not interested in you? Are you less outgoing due to fear of rejection? Is it possible you are acting differently when you find something you are interested in? These things can be subtle, so it takes a bit of "stepping out of yourself" to objectively ascertain if it's you or simply that it's just the luck of the draw and therefore just a matter of time until both of you share the same interest.


It is important to realize these dating "mistakes", as they often lead to rejection. Be social, be yourself and most importantly, don't get caught up in the thought that the person you are interested in will never pick you. Sure, you will still get rejected here and there, but keep positive and the more experience you have, the more confidence you will gain!




Dear Pre-Dating,


I am hesitant to try an event, as I feel like this is something people do out of desperation. I am nervous that the people there are not going to be my type and are going to be far below my standards. What are your thoughts? 

Answer from Pre-Dating


Dear "Overzealous":


You are not the first person to feel this way, infact, this is one mindset that is most often changed when someone actually attends an event, whether it be ours, or someone elses.


To dive into this question a bit further, do you go out to bars and nightclubs to meet people? Maybe you put a profile online? What's the difference in going to a singles event? Of course there are going to be some people in the room for whom you may not be interested in, however, you will be (not may be, but WILL be) surprised with who you will meet. 


A large majority of our client base tends to be busy single professionals who, like yourself, have busy work and social calendars and have little time to find a person they wish to share a romantic connection with. What's 6 minutes anyway? Even if you don't like the person romantically, maybe there is a potential for a business connection or a new friendship. Don't necessarily look at our events as a way to find your next husband or wife (although it happens all the time!), look at them as a night out with the potential of meeting some great people and have a blast. Hey, at least you have something to talk about other then what happened on "Family Guy" at the office Water Cooler the next day, right?!vibe. 







Every Month, Pre-Dating wants to offer you personally selected training courses and/or Books which are offered to help you get the most out of dating in the real world. Please find our special partner offers below!


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Roy's Relationship Corner





As a relationship coach, I find that all the approaches people use to find their life partner fall into two major categories. There are conventional approaches and there's the conscious approach.


Playfully, I call the conventional approaches "The 6 F-Words." They're "bad" words, mostly because they don't work very well. They are: relying on Fate, Fishing online, being Fixed up, Faking it by becoming what others want, reconnecting with Former lovers and trying the myriad of empty, shallow Formulas espoused by so many these days.


I tried all those conventional approaches and they seemed to attract more pain than partners. So out of frustration I tried the conscious approach, which is to focus inward rather than outward.

When I made that shift, I was amazed to discover 7 barriers within myself that kept me single, and when I broke free of them, I quickly met and married the love of my life. The same thing can happen to you.


My new book, Attracting Lasting Love: Breaking Free of the 7 Barriers that Keep You Single, describes these self-sabotaging ways and what to do about them. Over the next several months, I'm going to address each one of the 7 barriers by sharing an excerpt directly from the book. In this issue, I'm going help you better understand the conscious approach by sharing an excerpt from the book's introduction.


An excerpt from Attracting Lasting Love:


"What I have learned from my own personal experience and in my work with hundreds of clients is this: we sabotage ourselves from experiencing the very thing we want most. Although we desperately want to be in a loving, lasting, long-term relationship, we are somehow blocking love from entering our lives. Discovering how we're doing this and breaking free of it is the conscious approach.


I opened this chapter with a quote from the mystic poet, Rumi, and it bears repeating:


Your task is not to seek love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.


This is why the conventional approaches don't work. How can you attract lasting love if you have barriers built against that very thing? Think of it this way: The offensive linemen on a football team block the defenders from getting to the quarterback. Likewise, Rumi says you have "blockers" in your life, things that keep love from getting to you.


Let's look closer at what he's saying.


"Your task is not to seek love" That phrase, alone, should make your head spin, for it's the exact opposite of everything you hear today! He's saying not to bother with any of the conventional approaches that tell you how to find love. In fact, you should drop the entire search. Don't concern yourself with where to go, who you want, what to wear, how to approach and what to say. Instead, Rumi says, "seek and find all the barriers within yourself" that you have built against love.If you're going to seek for anything, seek the barriers.


Seek and find all the ways in which you're keeping yourself single.


However, that's easier said than done because the barriers are hidden from your awareness, which is why Rumi says you need to look for them. But you must, because they're destroying your ability to attract lasting love. Like the Wizard of Oz who was controlling everything from behind the curtain, so these barriers are "behind the curtain" of your awareness controlling your ability to attract and sustain a meaningful relationship.


Your task, then, is to seek, find and then break free of the barriers you've built against love and this book will show you how.

This is the approach that's changed my life and hundreds of my client's lives. If you drop the conventional approaches to finding a life partner and adopt this conscious approach, you too will attract lasting love.


If you'd like to learn more about the 7 barriers and how they might be sabotaging your ability to attract lasting love, you can preview and/or purchase the e-book or the paperback by clicking HERE.


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FREE Dating Teleseminar:


"Are You Cuffing? Now is The Time!"




With Certified MatchMaker and Author, Dr. Nancy H. Wall



Tuesday, Dec 2nd, 2014


8:30PM EST





What is Cuffing Season?

Cuffing season, as defined by, is a yearly occurrence around the fall and winter months when normally promiscuous singles begin to look for serious relationships (becoming "cuffed" or tied down) due in part to colder weather creating a high propensity for canoodling indoors.

In this Teleseminar you will learn:

  • Are you actively or subconsciously participating in Cuffing?
  • How do you hone your Cuffing skills?
  • Can you separate your heart from your head, or do you??



About Our Speaker- Dr. Nancy H. Wall

Dr. Nancy H. WallIs a certified Life Coach and Matchmaker, is President and Founder of Tampa Bay MatchMakers. She is passionate about helping singles connect, and through her targeted relationship advice and singles' introductions, numerous life-long partnerships and marriages have resulted.

Dr. Wall has dedicated herself personally and professionally to help others discover and create what they want most from their lives and relationships. As a noted international speaker, she has inspired thousands of singles and couples. She has been seen on ABC Action News, TampaBays10, My Fox 13, and featured in the St. Petersburg Times, duPont REGISTRY, South Tampa Magazine, and Tampa Bay Wellness.

Dr. Wall earned her PhD in Adult Education from the University of South Florida, an MBA from Crummer Graduate School/Rollins College, a BS in Psychology from Duke University, and holds certifications in Matchmaking from the Matchmaking Institute in New York, Life Coaching from Coach Training Alliance, and Project Management from George Washington University.

For more information, visit her website, or contact her directly at or (813) 907-0410.





  • One free 20 minute introductory coaching session
  • Special Deals on Nancy's many programs
  • And Much More!

Tuesday, Dec 2nd, 2014


8:30PM EST





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FREE Dating Teleseminar

Dec. 2nd, 2014


"Are you Cuffing? Now is the Time!"



With MatchMaker and Author, Dr. Nancy H. Wall


Tuesday, Dec. 2nd, 2014 at 8:30PM EST


Ð Free-





In this Teleseminar you will learn:
  • Are you actively or subconsciously participating in Cuffing?
  • How do you hone your Cuffing skills?
  • Can you separate your heart from your head, or do you??




Featured Testimonial




Hi Mindy/Julie!


Are either of you going to be at the 40s & 50s speed dating event that's

happening tonight at Cadillac Ranch in Kendall? My mom is going to that

one and Anthony and I are going to go with her just because she's really

nervous about going. We won't be there for the whole thing but we'll

stick around for a little to make sure she's okay.


On a side note, Anthony and I are doing SOOO good. We got engaged on 9/17! :) (see the attached pic of when he proposed to me) Thank you

again for introducing us :)

Leah (South Florida, Oct 2014)   




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We Are Currently Looking For An Event Coordinator in the Following Cities, and MORE! 


  • New York City, NY
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...And other event locations available!






"Never let a fool kiss you, or a kiss fool you."


- Joey Adams (Actress)








Research shows that it takes women 14 dates to know if they're falling in love, while it only takes men 3


Let's face it: Men are creatures with short attention spans. They frequently lose interest in something quickly after getting it. The flip side is that, when they decide they like something, they get fixated on it quickly. So women, stop trying to win your man, but men, don't give up!





About Pre-Dating


Pre-Dating Speed Dating is the world's largest Speed Dating service for busy single professionals with monthly events in over 90 cities. If you have a busy life and don't have time to meet new people, don't like to date clients or co-workers, and are not interested in the bar scene then try Pre-Dating Speed Dating.



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