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September 2014









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  • Pre-Dating's NEW Ralationship Column Launches SOON!
  • Featured Client Review
  • Special Partner Offer for both Men and Women!
  • Roy's Relationship Corner- Special FREE Offer for Roy's Dating Advice Website!
  • FREE Pre-Dating Teleseminar: "11 Damaging Lies Single People Tell Themselves" with Rosalind Sedacca and Amy Sherman
  • Crazy Dating Fact of the Month
  • Quote of the Month

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For quite awhile, many of the single professionals who receive our event emails and monthly newsletter have been asking for MORE. Asking for Dating and Relationship tips and useful information and resources to help them in today's hectic and often confusing dating environment.


Soon, as a benefit to being on our list, you'll start getting a dating and relationships tips / resources email direct to your inbox multiple times a week. You'll be able to discontinue receiving that valuable content any time you want. Although some people may opt-out once they enter into a relationship, the emails you'll be receiving will have a solid amount of relationship advice for newly coupled people as well.





Questions From Other Singles Like You

Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them? Maybe just a relationship question in general? Some other people did as well and here are their questions to us.


If you have a question, simply email us at and if selected for our next Newsletter you’ll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.




Hi Pre-Dating,


I am recently single, I had been married for 24 years, and now I find myself in the dating scene yet again, however, dating is totally different then what I had known it to be. Any suggestions? 


Answer from Pre-Dating


Dear "Divorced and Confused",


The first thing you have to understand, is you are NOT alone! The baby boomers have set a precedent with the divorce rate being over 40%, which has left many people in their 40's and 50's single again. In the age of technology and computers, the dating scene has changed dramatically. That being said, the idea of dating in and of itself, has not. 


There are many options for you, as a recent divorcee, to look at. Of course, there are our events, but there are many other avenues you can look at including online dating and other social mixers occurring in your area, such as Lock and Key events ( use Promo Code PDNL to save $6.00). One thing we recommend is getting out there and meeting new people through localized events, as this helps you get back into the groove of things and allows you to meet other people who are going through the same thing as you. Pretty much anywhere you look, there is some kind of single's social outing being offered, and we highly recommend getting out there. 




Dear Pre-Dating,


I am curious to know what I should wear when I go out to social mixers. I tend to get people who are more interested in "hooking up" rather then taking me seriously in the relationship aspect in my cocktail outfits, however, when I dress more 'refined' I don't get hit on at all. I am baffled! 

Answer from Pre-Dating


Dear "Problemista Fashionista":


This is probably one of our most asked questions when it comes to attending our events (what to wear)! The answer is simple, you want to wear something that is not as intimidating as a 'business suit', but also not something that screams 'easy' like a 'Little Black Dress'. 


Sure- skin is great, but the old rule of thumb 'If you got it, flaunt it', doesn't necessarily work to your advantage for either extreme. Many singles choose their outfits for what is going to garner the most attention from the crowd they want to appeal to. For example- if you are going for attention, you may show off some more skin (this goes for men too), however, if you are looking for a more sophisticated look, you may lean towards a suit- which tends to give off an 'I'm better then you' appearance. 


So, for the answer- for Women- A nice blouse complimented by a pair of nice jeans and shoes tends to work well in a social mixer, as you are not showing off too much skin, but at the same time, these choices can compliment the assets you want to accent!


For Men- the best choice is a nice pair of jeans, matched with a button down shirt (that is buttoned appropriately and tucked in) and a nice pair of shoes- not sneakers.  Accessories are great for both genders, but always follow the rule of "less is more" in this area, as too much can take away from your overall look.


By utilizing the above, you are giving off a business casual look, which makes you approachable while not giving off that 'easy' vibe. 







Every Month, Pre-Dating wants to offer you personally selected training courses and/or Books which are offered to help you get the most out of dating in the real world. Please find our special partner offers below!


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Roy's Relationship Corner




As many of you know, I'm an author, relationship coach and Orlando TV personality. I work exclusively with single people who wish to attract their ideal partners, and in recent months, I've been challenging single people everywhere to adopt the 7 commitments that make up what I call, The Conscious Dating Manifesto.


In this month's newsletter, we look at commitment #6 and if you want to catch up on those you've missed, email me at, and I'll send them to you.


The sixth conscious commitment is something I call, Source. As I do every month, I'm going to explain the commitment, but I'm also going share its "evil twin," the opposite of the commitment. Choosing the commitment over its "evil twin" is the key to enjoying your dating experience and attracting your ideal partner.






I commit to being the source of my emotional needs, including my desire for love, security, worthiness, happiness, specialness and connectedness. I commit to releasing my future partner from the responsibility of having to heal a wound, end a story, fill a hole or meet a need.


Now, here's its "evil twin." This is how most people live…






I commit to out-sourcing my emotional needs, making my future partner responsible for alleviating my loneliness and making me feel safe, wanted, seen, loved, happy, or whole. And when they don't, I commit to manipulating, blaming, controlling or punishing them for not "being there for me."


Taking full responsibility for your emotional needs, and not projecting them on your future partner, is the pillar of what I stand for in the world. Nearly 95% of all single people have this "you complete me" mindset to one degree or another. And I should know, because I had this "disease" for decades and it ruined every single relationship I had.


Yet, alarmingly, most people think the purpose of a relationship is to actually find someone who will meet your emotional needs! That's tragic because this out-sourcing is THE root cause of all our relationship drama, pain and heartache. Life partners make lousy life sources.


Even though I had just a mild case of the "you complete me" mindset, it still caused a divorce, a break up with a fiancée and numerous dating disasters. Friends, this out-sourcing is ruining your love life and most people don't know they're doing it, and yet almost everyone is! But I've learned how to be the source of my own needs and now I have a relationship most people would die for. I'd love to share how it happened right here, but there's no room. Besides, I've already told the whole story in my book.


If you have questions about this commitment, send me a note at, and if you'd like to learn more about me and my coaching practice, click those links.



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FREE Dating Teleseminar:


"11 Damaging Lies Single People Tell Themselves"




With Relationship Coaches and Authors, Rosalind Sedacca and Amy Sherman



Tuesday, October 7th, 2014


8:30PM EST





Have you been telling yourself lies about why you're still single? About why you attract undesirable partners -- or partners who leave? Is your self-talk self-defeating? Are you pretending to be who you're not -- or attracted to unavailable partners? Join Dating & Relationship Mentors Rosalind Sedacca, CCT and Amy Sherman, LMHC as they reveal 11 damaging lies singles often tell themselves … to hide their pain, cope with challenges or avoid facing reality.


You'll discover the truth about:  

  • Why we attract undesirable partners
  • Why so many promising relationships don't last
  • How we overlook or repel worthwhile partners
  • How past behavior predicts future relationships
  • Why self-deceit becomes self-sabotage



About Our Speakers- Rosalind Sedacca and Amy Sherman


Rosalind Sedacca is a Dating & Relationship Coach, a Divorce & Parenting Coach and co-author of 99 Things Women Wish They Knew About Dating After 40, 50 & Yes, 60! She is also the founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network for parents and author of How Do I Tell the Kids About the Divorce? Rosalind is an Expert Blogger for The Huffington Post, an Advisor at as well as a Contributing Writer for Exceptional People Magazine and the 2008 First Place Winner of the Victorious Woman Award and co-creator of the Create Your Ideal Relationship Kit for singles.
Amy Sherman has a master's degree in counseling/psychology and is a coach, trainer and co-author of 99 things Women Wish They Knew Before Dating After 40, 50, and Yes, 60! Amy understands the needs, challenges and insecurities singles face in finding meaningful relationships and helps them avoid the disasters and disappointment they often experience when dating in mid-life.  She is also the author of Distress-Free Aging: A Boomer's Guide to Creating a Fulfilled and Purposeful Life and The Joy of Optimism 10-Lesson eCourse, which offer strategies for overcoming adversity and other challenges of middle age.




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Tuesday, October 7th, 2014


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FREE Dating Teleseminar

October 7th, 2014


"11 Damaging Lies Single People Tell Themselves"



With Relationship Coaches and Authors, Rosalind Sedacca and Amy Sherman


Tuesday, Oct. 7th, 2014 at 8:30PM EST


– Free-





You'll discover the truth about:  

  • Why we attract undesirable partners
  • Why so many promising relationships don't last
  • How we overlook or repel worthwhile partners
  • How past behavior predicts future relationships
  • Why self-deceit becomes self-sabotage




Featured Testimonial


Hi there, Ann...

Wanted to update you...I met a wonderful man at one of your events in April 2012 and we have formed a lovely relationship! I must say, I am very happy. :)

Best of luck on making additional connections.


Jennifer (Cincinnati, Jan 2014)   


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 New Cities!

GREAT NEWS!  With the recent addition of Chris in Washington DC, Joey Lynn in Pittsburgh, PA and Jodi in Baltimore, MD,  we now offer monthly events in over 90 US and Canadian cities!
Work With Pre-Dating - Become an Event Coordinator

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Please apply online HERE!




We Are Currently Looking For An Event Coordinator in the Following Cities, and MORE! 


  • New York City, NY
  • Las Vegas, NV
  • San Francisco, CA

...And other event locations available!






"You don't develop courage by being happy in your relationships everyday. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity."


- Epicurus (Philosopher)








People tend to make decisions on whether or not they're attracted to someone within 3 seconds


This factoid comes to you courtesy of the University of Pennsylvania, where researchers studied data from over 10,000 speed daters. Just goes further to prove the power of the first impression!




About Pre-Dating


Pre-Dating Speed Dating is the world's largest Speed Dating service for busy single professionals with monthly events in over 90 cities. If you have a busy life and don't have time to meet new people, don't like to date clients or co-workers, and are not interested in the bar scene then try Pre-Dating Speed Dating.



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