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August 2012

 

                                        

 

 

 

 

IN THIS NEWSLETTER:

 

  • Event Coordinator Spotlight – Matt, Seattle, WA
  • Q&A Forum From Singles Just Like You!
  • Expansion News
  • Featured Success Story & Testimonial
  • Roy's Relationship Corner
  • ARTICLE: Looking for Someone
  • Pre-Dating Teleseminar: "Bodytrading: Transforming Back From Player to Lover" with Bruce Starr
  • Crazy Dating Fact of the Month
  • Quote of the Month

 

Pre-Dating Event Coordinator

SPOTLIGHT

 

 

 

Matt from Seattle, WA

 

What got you interested in Being an Event Coordinator (EC) for Pre-Dating?

 

I had attended a Pre-Dating Speed Dating event back in 2007 and had a great time! After attending as a 'dater', I got involved by assisting my predecessor as a volunteer helper at several events. When she ultimately decided to offer this opportunity to someone else, I jumped at the opportunity to carry it forward.

 

 

What ONE Unique or Extra Thing do You Do at Your Events to Make Them More Enjoyable?

 

I do my best to keep the events light hearted and fun, often times over-doing it with the humor and zaniness. Sometimes individuals can be nervous immediately prior to the event, and doing my best to keep things in perspective and FUN can really help people loosen up and relax.  

 


What is Your Favorite Success Story?

 

We have been able to help numerous charities through special events during my tenure, such as Toys for Tots, Big Brothers Big Sisters, andOrphans of Nepal through Blinknow.org. I have been bowled over by the generosity and giving of the people who attend our events.

 


What is Your Favorite Venue and Why?

 

All of my venues offer something special and a unique experience for the daters. Some are quite lively and exciting while others offer a more upscale experience. I like to mix it up to keep things fresh!

 

 

What TIPS do You Have for Attendees of Speed Dating Events?

 

For the men I advise them to make sure the 'coast is clear' before they sit down at the start of a new round. Sometimes a woman is still making notes on her sheet about the last date and she might not be ready yet.

For the women I advise them to keep an open mind and to not overthink things! It is hard to get a complete picture of someone in just 6 minutes. If he seems like an okay guy, circle 'Let's Talk' and get to know him better over coffee!

 


What's the Biggest Mistake You See Attendees Make When Attending Events?

 

Sometimes people view the events as a big buffet where they can just pick and choose what they want. A big part of the equation is being desirable to others! Having the right attitude and thinking about how you are presenting yourself goes a long way. Smile, laugh, make eye contact - all good things to do!

 

 

Q&A  FORUM:

 

 

 

Questions From Other Singles Like You



Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them? Some other people did as well and here are their questions to us.

 

If you have a question, simply email us at Questions@Pre-Dating.com and if selected for our next Newsletter you’ll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.

QUESTION #1:

 

Hi Pre-Dating,

My number one concern about dating, whether it be online, or at a face-to-face event, such as speed dating, is my fear of who I will meet. How can I know that I am safe?

 

 

Answer from Pre-Dating

 

Dear ""Fearful", ,

 

First and foremost, I would recommend that you look into why you are fearful. Most people are fearful from what they hear on the news. When was the last time you turned on the news, and saw a HAPPY story, though? American media tends to only show the negative, and not the positive.

That being said, if you are interested in only dating people where back-ground checks are performed, you will not find that in any service less then a few hundred dollars a month. The reason being is it is expensive to do background checks. The only real service that will do this is a reputable and private matchmaker. If go through such a service, it is important to do your research on the matchmaker and look at reviews, testimonials, etc. This way you are sure you are spending your money wisely.

Furthermore, if you do not have the money to hire a matchmaker in your area, speed dating or other local singles mixers are a great alternative, as you are not required to divulge a lot of information. In fact, we recommend that you don't, until you get to know the person a bit better. Sure- you can say what you do for a living, but you don't want to say something along the lines of"I work at ABC Pharmacy on 123 Main St.". You want to leave an event with the same amount of anonymity as you walked in with, and if you are interested in someone, see where it goes, and only meet that person in a public setting.

Remember- the chances of meeting someone who has a checkered history is slim, 99% of singles out there are quality singles who are just looking to settledown with a great companion. It's only that 1% that you hear about on the news.

 


QUESTION #2:

 

Dear Pre-Dating,

 

I have come to a few events, and have not gotten picked! I am an attractive guy, I have a great job, and I consider myself a nice and easygoing person. What gives?!

 

Answer from Pre-Dating

 

Dear "Unlucky":

 

Great Question! I do have a few questions to ask you- what do you talk about? Is the conversation mostly revolving around you? How do you dress? And finally, what is your tonality? Let me break this down for you question by question, in hopes that we can find out exactly what is occurring here.

Let's start off with the question of what you talk about and if the conversation is mostly revolving around you. The reason I ask this, is the question you presented completely revolves around you and how great you are. No doubt you are a great guy, but people don't necessarily want to hear you gloat about yourself for 6 minutes- it's a HUGE turn off. The first thing you should do when you sit down with one of your daters, is compliment a certain physical trait about them, even if they are not your type; Look for something they obviously worked on. For example, if their hair looks great, or their makeup is well done, you might say something like "Wow, you look great tonight, your hair looks so healthy". This might sound a bit corny, however, you have immediately engaged this person by 1) complimenting them, 2) increasing their confidence, 3) sparked an interesting topic of conversation. Put yourself in the other persons shoes and think of how you would feel if you were on the receiving end of your conversation.

Now, how do you dress/ present yourself? Remember, as people, we make a physical judgment within 3 seconds of meeting someone. So, if you are not 'dressed to impress' or might still be 'living in the 90's' with your elastic waistband khaki's and Hawaiian button down, you might give off a bad first impression. If you are oblivious to the current fashion trends, I recommendasking for help. Most dept. stores have fashion experts that can help you reinvent your look. Go to a higher-end salon and have them give you a new hairstyle that is both appropriate for your age and professional stature.

Lastly, what is your tonality when you are talking to someone? Most people do not know what they sound like when they talk. In fact, recently, I helped afellow dater who was having the same problem as you! They were not getting any matches, however, the look was right, the subject matter was dead on, but his tonality was BORING. It was like listening to Ben Stein. What I recommended to him was to take a tape recorder and record his conversations through out a day in his normal life. He called me back the following day in horror, "I DO sound boring". He worked on this for some time, came back to an event, and to his surprise, he matched with every single lady at the event. Tonality is one of the most important aspects of communication. You may think you sound GREAT, but in reality, you may be giving the wrong impression just by the tone of your verbal delivery.

All that being said, the most important piece of knowledge I can share with you is "Be yourself"! Sure, change a few things here and there in order to better yourself, but do not be too dramatic about it. You may need a little polish, but you certainly do not need to change who you are.

ARTICLE:

 

Looking for Someone

Sex, Love and Lonliness on the Internet

By The New Yorker

In the fall of 1964, on a visit to the World’s Fair, in Queens, Lewis Altfest, a twenty-five-year-old accountant, came upon an open-air display called the Parker Pen Pavilion, where a giant computer clicked and whirred at the job of selecting foreign pen pals for curious pavilion visitors. You filled out a questionnaire, fed it into the machine, and almost instantly received a card with the name and address of a like-minded participant in some far-flung locale—your ideal match. Altfest thought this was pretty nifty. He called up his friend Robert Ross, a programmer at I.B.M., and they began considering ways to adapt this approach to find matches closer to home. They’d heard about some students at Harvard who’d come up with a program called Operation Match, which used a computer to find dates for people. A year later, Altfest and Ross had a prototype, which they called Project TACT, an acronym for Technical Automated Compatibility Testing—New York City’s first computer-dating service.

Each client paid five dollars and answered more than a hundred multiple-choice questions. One section asked subjects to choose from a list of “dislikes”: “1. Affected people. 2. Birth control. 3. Foreigners. 4. Free love. 5. Homosexuals. 6. Interracial marriage,” and so on. Another question, in a section called “Philosophy of Life Values,” read, “Had I the ability I would most like to do the work of (choose two): (1) Schweitzer. (2) Einstein. (3) Picasso.” Some of the questions were gender-specific. Men were asked to rank drawings of women’s hair styles: a back-combed updo, a Patty Duke bob. Women wereasked to look at a trio of sketches of men in various settings, and to say where they’d prefer to find their ideal man: in camp chopping wood, in a studio painting a canvas, or in a garage working a pillar drill. TACT transferred the answers onto a computer punch card and fed the card into an I.B.M. 1400 Series computer, which thenspit out your matches: five blue cards, if you were a woman, or five pink ones, if you were a man.

In the beginning, TACT was restricted to the Upper East Side, an early sexual-revolution testing ground. The demolition of theThird Avenue Elevated subway line set off a building boom and a white-collar influx, most notably of young educated women who suddenly found themselves free of family, opprobrium, and, thanks to birth control, the problem of sexual consequence. Within a year, more than five thousand subscribers had signed on.

Over time, TACT expanded to the rest of New York. It would invite dozens of matched couples to singles parties, knowing that people might be more comfortable in a group setting. Ross and Altfest enjoyed a brief media blitz. They wound up in the pages of the New York Herald Tribune and in Cosmopolitan. The Cosmo correspondent’s first match was with a gym teacher who told her over the phone that his favorite sport was “indoor wrestling—with girls.” (He stood her up, complaining of a backache.) One of TACT’sprint advertisements featured a photograph of a beautiful blond woman. “Some people think Computer dating services attract only losers,” the copy read, quoting a TACT subscriber. “This loser happens to be a talented fashion illustrator for one of New York’s largest advertising agencies. She makes Quiche Lorraine, plays chess, and like me she loves to ski. Some loser!”

One day, a woman named Patricia Lahrmer, from 1010 WINS, a local radio station, came to TACT to do an interview. She was the station’s first female reporter, and she had chosen, as her début feature, a three-part story on how New York couples meet. (A previous installment had been about a singles bar—Maxwell’s Plum, on theUpper East Side, one of the first that so-called “respectable” single women could patronize on their own.) She had planned to interview Altfest, but he was out of the office, and she ended up talking to Ross. The batteries died on her tape recorder, so they made a date to finish the interview later that week, which turned into dinner for two. They started seeing each other, and two years afterward they were married. Ross had hoped that TACT would help him meet someone, and, in a way, it had.

After a couple of years, Ross grew bored with TACT and went into finance instead. He and Lahrmer moved to London. Looking back now, he says that he considered computer dating to be little more than a gimmick and a fad.

The process of selecting and securing a partner, whether for conceiving and rearing children, or for enhancing one’s socioeconomic standing, or for attempting motel-room acrobatics, or merely for finding companionship in a cold and lonely universe, is as consequential as it can be inefficient or irresolute. Lives hang in the balance, and yet we have typically relied for our choices on happenstance—offhand referrals, late nights at the office, or the dream of meeting cute.

Online dating sites, whatever their more mercenary motives, draw on the premise that there has got to be a better way. They approach the primeval mystery of human attraction with a systematic and almost Promethean hand. They rely on algorithms, those often proprietary mathematical equations and processes which make it possible to perform computational feats beyond the reach of the naked brain. Some add an extra layer of projection and interpretation; they adhere to a certain theory of compatibility, rooted inpsychology or brain chemistry or genetic coding, or they define themselves by other, more readily obvious indicators of similitude, such as race, religion, sexual predilection, sense of humor, or musical taste. There are those which basically allow you to browse through profiles as you would boxes of cereal on a shelf in the store. Others choose for you; they bring five boxes of cereal to your door, ask you to select one, and then return to the warehouse with thefour others. Or else they leave you with all five.

Cited Sourse:

http://www.newyorker.com/reporting/2011/07/04/110704fa_fact_paumgarten

 

FREE Dating Teleseminar:

 

 

"Bodytrading" 

Transforming Back From Player to Lover

 

 

With Bruce Starr, Author and Relationship Coach

 

 

~FREE~

 

 

Tuesday, September 4th, 2012

 

8:30PM EST

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

In This Special (and free) Teleseminar Bruce Will Discuss

  • What is Bodytrading?

     

  • How has it ruined most peoples chances of ever finding love

  • How to tell the difference between Bodytraders and people looking for love

  • Removing the value of playing games andbecoming available

     

  • The role of masculine and feminine in the relationship building process

     

  • Limiting "thinking" about relationships and building and trusting "from the heart."

About our Speaker: 

Bruce Starr has been on a self-study of several different philosophies on life for the last thirty-five years. He took what he learned from these studies and is happily married and has an eight year olddaughter. He began his career in radio and television in the early 90's. After guesting on several shows, he became the radio host and producer of LuvWorks with Bruce Starr on WNN, on the highly respected South Florida “The Winners News Network.” He also produced and hosted the television show with the same name on S. Florida cable and later, on Los Angeles television.

In the early 90's, he learned about America Online when they had only 300,000 members. He opened a room on AOL called “Relationship Coaching” and became the original LUVCOACH@AOL.com. Over a ten year period, he had over 6000 intimate, detailed, documented conversations helping many, but also learning an incredible amount of information. He unlocked a never-before written about mystery that can open hearts and change things for so many people looking for love!

He took the information he acquired and wrote several books. The e-book he recently finished after a fifteen year effort is called “Bodytraders,Transforming Back from Player to Lover.” This book will eventually help a generation of people caught up in gameplaying relationships to see this type of relationship does not work and will not ever work. Only love works!

He is currently scheduling Love Adventure Tours weekend and week-long relationship workshops at exotic locations around the world and “For the Person Who Has Everything But Love” who want “Everything AND Love!” At these transformational Body, Mind and Spirit experiences, he feels that he along with his team of respected relationship experts, can help each and every person return to love.

Contact him by writing to luvcoach@aol.com

 
***PLUS RSVP NOW TO THESE FREE BONUSES***

  • A free 20 page e-book called Learning to Trust Again.
  • A free ten minute relationship coaching session with the LUVCOACH

Tuesday, September 4th, 2012

 

8:30PM EST

 

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FREE Pre-Dating Teleseminar

September 4th

  

 

 

"Bodytrading" 

Transforming Back from Player to Lover.

 

 

With Relationship Coach and Author Bruce Starr

 

 

Tuesday, September 4th, 2012

 

– Free-

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

In This Special (and free) Teleseminar Bruce Will Discuss

 

 

  • What is Bodytrading

     

  • How has it ruined most peoples chances of ever finding love

  • How to tell the difference between Bodytraders and people looking for love

  • Removing the value of playing games and becoming available

     

  • The role of masculine and feminine in the relationship building process

     

  • Limiting "thinking" about relationships and building and trusting "from the heart."

 

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 

TESTIMONIALS

 

 

 

 

Just wanted to say Hey! and share that on my first event with you, on an event that I should not have come (I canceled out and reinstated myself), I met Doris. We have been together since and it has been amazing.


Thanks!


- Mahesh (July 2012) 

 

 

 

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EXPANSION NEWS:

 

New Pre-Dating.com Cities!


GREAT NEWS! With the recent addition of April in Austin, TX and Renne in Philadelphia, PA; we offer monthly events in over 75 US cities!

Work With Pre-Dating - Become an Event Coordinator

If you live in one of the cities below and are interested in playing matchmaker and adding a new adventure and challenge to your life (part time).

Please apply online HERE!

(http://www.pre-dating.com/coordinator.php3)

• Lansing, MI
• Miami, FL

• Fort Myers/ Naples, FL

• Portland, ME

...And other event locations available!

Please apply online HERE!

 

(http://www.pre-dating.com/coordinator.php3)

  

•    Lansing, MI
•    Miami, FL

•    Fort Myers/ Naples, FL

•    Portland, ME

 

...And other event locations available!

 

QUOTE OF THE MONTH

 

 

"However successful you are, there is no substitute for a close relationship. We all need them."

 

-Francesca Annis

 

 

 

CRAZY DATING FACTS OF THE MONTH

 

 

During the early twentieth century, dating evolved out of a courtship ritual where young women entertained male callers under the watch of a chaperone. By the 1960s and 1970s, "hooking up" increasingly replaced dating, mainly because the age at which people marry for the firsttime had begun creeping up.

 

 

About Pre-Dating

 

Pre-Dating Speed Dating is the world's largest Speed Dating service for busy single professionals with monthly events in over 70 cities. If you have a busy life and don't have time to meet new people, don't like to date clients or co-workers, and are not interested in the bar scene then try Pre-Dating Speed Dating.

 

 

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July 2012

 

                                        

 

 

 

 

IN THIS NEWSLETTER:

 

  • Event Coordinator Spotlight – Erica, Gainesville, FL
  • Q&A Forum From Singles Just Like You!
  • Expansion News
  • Featured Success Story & Testimonial
  • Roy's Relationship Corner
  • ARTICLE: How To Flirt!
  • Pre-Dating Teleseminar: "Navigating in Today's NEW World of Dating: A Conscious Approach to Internet Dating, Mobile Dating, Speed Dating and the First Dates they Create" with Roy Biancalana
  • Crazy Dating Fact of the Month
  • Quote of the Month
  • Monthly Contest

 

Pre-Dating Event Coordinator

SPOTLIGHT

 

 

 

Erica from Gainesville, FL

 

What got you interested in Being an Event Coordinator (EC) for Pre-Dating?

 

I personally think it's a GREAT way to meet people. I loved the

idea & didn't want it to fade in Gainesville. The past Coordinator's life became way too hectic, and I didn't want it to end for Gainesville. Plus I met someone through an event I attended, in fact, it was the first one I attended!

 

 

What ONE Unique or Extra Thing do You Do at Your Events to Make Them More Enjoyable?

 

I try to be personable with each person and talk with each participant.  Whether it's a confidence booster before or after. 

 


What is Your Favorite Success Story?

 

I'm not sure how far along it has gotten. But I had a past attendee call me the day after an event to make sure he got the right results. There was a woman that attended that said 'yes' to him. But he did not say 'yes' to her b/c he didn't think there was a chance she would ever say yes to him. He was soooo overjoyed on the phone.  It was the cutest thing ever. He told me if I didn't see him at another event - then it was a success. I haven't seen or heard from him, Nor her (& she was on an attending spree too). It was just sooo cute.

 


What is Your Favorite Venue and Why?

 

Bombay (it's now an Indian restaurant).

 

They decorate it so cutely for my events. They re-arrange

the furniture, put up 'inspired' decorations (hearts) on the wall, play nice music & put candles on the tables.

 

 

What TIPS do You Have for Attendees of Speed Dating Events?

 

Confidence, confidence, confidence. It's a huge turn-on.  Whether you're a female or a male, go in it as a confident person. Oh, and smile!  :)

 


What's the Biggest Mistake You See Attendees Make When Attending Events?

 

The confidence thing. You tend not to make good eye contact, look away, fidget while on your mini-dates. And that's not a cute look.

 

 

Q&A  FORUM:

 

 

 

Questions From Other Singles Like You



Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them? Some other people did as well and here are their questions to us.

 

If you have a question, simply email us at Questions@Pre-Dating.com and if selected for our next Newsletter you’ll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.

QUESTION #1:

 

Hi Pre-Dating,

 

Summer is in full swing, and, being a parent with my kids out of school for the next few months, I find it hard to date, what do you suggest?

 

Answer from Pre-Dating

 

Dear "Summer Lovin' ",

 

Fantastic question! Many single parents fall into this issue every summer, and there is really no simple solution, except to say, what has really changed? Sure- maybe you have a vacation planned with the kids, or maybe your weekends are now filled with fun activities for them, as opposed to helping them with homework. At the end of the day, you are still going to work, and coming home to them. 

 

There are many options for dating in the summer. Obviously, you can try out one of our events which are quick, and fun, or maybe a local Lock and Key event. You can even check out Meetup.com for some fun singles events in your area. Most cities have several fun and entertaining events occurring, you just have to find the one that is right for you.

 

That being said, there is also the question of, if you meet someone you are interested in, when do you have time to spend with them while all these summer activities are happening? Make the time! Grab a baby sitter for the day, or talk to a friend of yours and set up a play date with your kids and theirs while you enjoy a nice lunch or dinner with that special someone. 

 

Family always comes first, but the point is, you need to enjoy some 'YOU' time as well. Don't let the these crazy summer months stop you from meeting someone great! Embrace this wonderful season and enjoy yourself. 

 


QUESTION #2:

 

Dear Pre-Dating,

 

I really want to try one of your upcoming events, but I have a set criteria for women I would want to date. I am nervous that I will not meet anyone who fits into my standards, thus wasting my time. What type of women tend to attend your events?

 

Answer from Pre-Dating

 

Dear "Mr. Picky":

 

The greatest part about speed dating is you never know who you are going to meet! The one thing you do know, is that the people you are going to meet are within a certain age range, and that they are local single professionals. The next greatest thing is,if the person you are talking to is not a fit, it's only 6 minutes, simply make the most of it and move on.

 

Now, per your 'criteria', as any true match maker will tell you, the first step of finding your best soulmate is to toss out your 50-point inspection list. We aren't buying a car here, we are looking for someone who is compatible with you. 

 

Step 2 to finding 'that someone special', is to narrow your list of criteria to 3 absolute "No's". For example, if you refuse to date a smoker, or you refuse to date someone who is not as athletically inclined as you, or maybe it's that you want to find someone who is financially stable enough to where you don't need to worry about carrying their weight. Whatever the 3 are, you now you have a reasonable set of expectations that you are willing to seek out in someone. 

 

As men, we tend to also focus on the aesthetic components of everything, from cars, to homes, and to our potential love interests. It's human nature to do this, but you need to be realistic with your expectations as well. Do not sell yourself short by only looking at physical beauty. Some of the best matches that come out of any dating service are made due to both parties reevaluating what is important when seeking out a potential partner.

Roy's Relationship Corner:

 

 

 

With Roy Biancalana, Relationship Coach and Author

 

 

This is the final installment of our “movies with a message” series. So far we’ve learned to “reveal rather than conceal” from Mr. & Mrs. Smith. Then we learned from Runaway Bride that you have to establish a strong sense of “you” before there can be an “us.”

 

This month’s focus is on another highly entertaining movie: Jerry McGuire. I believe this is the best relationship message movie ever made. It’s loaded with a number of great messages. Let me discuss a couple before I get to what I believe is the movie’s best message.

First, there’s a message about the importance of authentic male friendships. Tom Cruise and Cuba Gooding, Jr. play characters that challenge one another to wake up and live lives of integrity. Many men have friends, but not many men have friends willing to tell them the truth.

 

Secondly, this movie has a terrible message that has become a cliché: “You complete me.” I have written an entire book addressing this dangerous belief. If you have even a hint of the “you complete me” mindset (and almost everyone does!), you will never have a satisfying relationship. You are complete. To believe otherwise leads to relationships filled with drama, control and conflict because the other person will never be able to meet your emotional needs consistently—nor are they supposed to.

 

The movie’s best message, however, is one I fear will be missed by most. It’s the scene where Renee Zellwegger is ending her relationship with Cruise as they talk in the backyard. She has realized that Cruise is not interested in, or maybe not even capable of intimacy. (Sound familiar ladies?) Yet she doesn’t blame or criticize him for it. She’s in pain, certainly, but there’s absolutely no drama, conflict or controlling.

While this movie is famous for such lines as, “You had me at hello,” and “you complete me,” the best line, the most conscious line in the movie and the one I wish it was famous for is when Zellwegger says, “I did this and I can do something about it.”

 

“I did this…” She refuses play the victim and blame him, and instead, she takes responsibility for the condition of their relationship. She sees her part in attracting an unavailable man. She was lonely and she wanted a father figure for her son. Those unconscious needs required an unavailable man like Cruise.

 

I work with many single people who’ve made poor choices in partners. Some of them end up repeating these patterns because they believe it’s the other person’s fault. But some live by the message of this movie. They take responsibility for their relationship experiences and become curious about how their unmet emotional needs have led to their choices. When they see themselves clearly, miracles happen.

 

Take a careful look at your love life. It hasn’t happened “to you.” It’s happened “because of you.” Do you know why? If not, it will continue happening. I’d love to support your effort in waking up and attracting an appropriate partner. Reach out to me if you’re interested.

 

Roy Biancalana

Author & Relationship Coach

www.coachingwithroy.com

407-687-3387.

ARTICLE:

 

How to Flirt: Flirting Tips Help You Show Interest

 

By TopDatingTips.com

 

 

You're hanging out at a party when, out of nowhere, you suddenly notice someone standing close to you.  In fact, you realize he or she keeps turning up nearby, trying to catch your eye. The two of you start talking and your new friend smiles, laughs, finds excuses to touch you and holds your gaze. This person is clearly flirting with you. How do you know? Because, although you may not realize it, you are already an expert in flirting and body language.

 

Flirting Demystified

 

What would dating be without flirting? Flirting is fun, it signals that we're interested in someone and it initiates most successful relationships. Flirting means giving someone your full attention; it means smiling, touching and playing. In the right circumstances, it is a powerful tool. In the wrong circumstances, it can lead to embarrassment and be a complete turn off.

 

For most people, flirting comes naturally. Many forms of flirting are simply outgrowths of the way you behave when you meet someone you really like and are interested in having a romantic relationship with. However, some flirting is more subtle, making it hard to tell whether you're reading something that's not there into an interaction simply because you want the other person to flirt with you.

 

For these reasons, it's useful to examine some of the key indicators of flirting, which can prove extremely helpful when trying to figure out if the person across the table is interested in you – and help you express your interest in them!

 
Body Language
  • Prolonged eye contact
  • Dilated pupils
  • Arched eyebrows
  • Winking
  • Rapid eye movement and blinking
  • Stroking or toying with hair
  • Smiling
  • Licking of lips
  • Touching the lips or teeth with tongue
  • Thrusting chest or breasts outward
  • Mirroring or copying posture
  • Crossing legs
  • Leaning inward
  • Open-legged posture
 
Other Behavior
  • Any form of touching
  • Playing with hands
  • Fidgeting nervously
  • Shy avoidance of eye contact
  • Standing on one leg or shifting weight back and forth

 

Conversation
  • Laughter
  • Whispering
  • Personal questions, especially about relationship status
  • Singling someone out in a group for conversation and questions

 

However you flirt, keep in mind that flirting should indicate your interest in getting to know someone -- in a polite, respectful and tactful way.  Using cheesy pickup lines, being too aggressive, touching inappropriately or being in any way vulgar or rude will get you not only turned down but also probably slapped. Flirting is designed to make the person you're flirting with feel attractive and special, not intimidated.

 

Once you've established that someone is flirting with you – or your own flirting has gotten a positive response – it's time to start thinking about how to propose a first date. Mutual flirting of the type listed above usually means the other person is interested in getting to know you better. However, be wary of people who are flirtatious, even though they're in committed relationships. Some people either can't help being flirty, have an open relationship or simply don't care whether their partner is hurt by their behavior. While it can be tempting to flirt with this kind of person -- particularly if they're attractive, interesting and initiate the flirting – keep in mind that the point of flirting is to show interest in someone you'd like to get to know better, and people who're already attached to someone else are off limits.

 

Being confident about your flirting is the best way to make sure it is well-received. Nothing is sexier than confidence – nothing, that is, except someone who knows how to flirt effectively. Now get out there and start smiling!

 

FREE Dating Teleseminar:

 

 

"Navigating in Today's NEW World of Dating:" 

A Conscious Approach to Internet Dating, Mobile Dating, Speed Dating and the First Dates they Create.

 

 

With Roy Biancalana, Author and International Relationship Coach

 

 

~FREE~

 

 

Wednesday, August 1st, 2012

 

8:30PM EST

 

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In This Special (and free) Teleseminar Roy Will Discuss

 

 

  • Three questions to determine if you are ready to meet the love of your life

     

  • Four critical rules to finding love through speed dating, Internet dating or mobile dating

  • The Do's and Dont's of on-line first dates

  • Writing an online profile or introducing yourself in a way that captures your essence and attracts your ideal partner

     

  • How to end a first date when you know there won't be a second one

 

About our Speaker: 

 

Roy Biancalana: is known as "The Intimacy Guru," and is a nationally recognized leader in the field of attraction, intimacy and conscious relationships. He appears regularly on Fox35 TV in Orlando, FL as their relationship expert and is the author of the book, "A Drink with Legs" sold worldwide.

 

Roy is a certified relationship coach, spiritual teacher and was a PGA Tour player. His passion is working with men and women who are committed to awakening to their true spiritual nature and experiencing the love life they most desire. He specializes in supporting single people in attracting the love of their lives and also helping those who are in committed partnerships experience a deeper level of intimacy. He has clients all over the world and coaches by phone, Skype or in person.

 

For more information, visit his website: www.CoachingWithRoy.com or call him directly at 407-687-3387.

 

 

 
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"Navigating in Today's NEW World of Dating:" 

A Conscious Approach to Internet Dating, Mobile Dating, Speed Dating and the First Dates they Create.

 

 

With Relationship Coach and Author Roy Biancalana

 

 

Wednesday, August 1st, 2012

 

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In This Special (and free) Teleseminar Roy Will Discuss

 

 

  • Three questions to determine if you are ready to meet the love of your life

     

  • Four critical rules to finding love through speed dating, Internet dating or mobile dating

  • The Do's and Dont's of on-line first dates

  • Writing an online profile or introducing yourself in a way that captures your essence and attracts your ideal partner

     

  • How to end a first date when you know there won't be a second one

 

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 

TESTIMONIALS

 

 

 

 

Alan and I met each other at the speed dating event you hosted on April 4, 2011 in San Diego. We've been dating ever since and got engaged in November. We are getting married in May 2012. :) Thought you might like to hear about the happy ending. THANK YOU!


- Laura 

 

 

 

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EXPANSION NEWS:

 

 

New Pre-Dating.com Cities!


GREAT NEWS!  With the recent addition of April in Austin, TX and Renne in Philadelphia, PA; we offer monthly events in over 75 US cities!
 
Work With Pre-Dating - Become an Event Coordinator

If you live in one of the cities below and are interested in playing matchmaker and adding a new adventure and challenge to your life (part time).

 

 

Please apply online HERE!

 

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•    Lansing, MI
•    Miami, FL

•    Fort Myers/ Naples, FL

•    Portland, ME

 

...And other event locations available!

 

 

QUOTE OF THE MONTH

 

 

"When you're looking for someone, you're looking for some aspect of yourself, even if you don't know it ... What we're searching for is what we lack."

 

SAM SHEPARD, The Observer

 

 

 

CRAZY DATING FACTS OF THE MONTH

 

 

Women who post a photo on Internet dating sites receive twice as many email messages as women who don’t. The same study found that men who reported incomes higher than $250,000 received 156% more email than those with $50,000.

 

 

 

 

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LAST MONTHS WINNER:

 

 

**Vanessa from Tampa, FL**
 
Congratulations to Vanessa! She has won a FREE Speed Dating Event!

 

 

About Pre-Dating

 

Pre-Dating Speed Dating is the world's largest Speed Dating service for busy single professionals with monthly events in over 70 cities. If you have a busy life and don't have time to meet new people, don't like to date clients or co-workers, and are not interested in the bar scene then try Pre-Dating Speed Dating.

 

 

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IN THIS NEWSLETTER:

 

  • Event Coordinator Spotlight – Ellen from Jacksonville, FL
  • Q&A Forum From Singles Just Like You!
  • Expansion News
  • Featured Success Story & Testimonial
  • Roy's Relationship Corner
  • ARTICLE: Online Dating Can Be Improved
  • Pre-Dating Teleseminar: 

    "The Ex-Factor": How and If You Should Maintain Friendships With an Ex While In A Relationship With Someone Else. With Our Panel Of Relationship Experts

  • Crazy Dating Fact of the Month
  • Quote of the Month
  • Monthly Contest

 

Pre-Dating Event Coordinator

SPOTLIGHT

 

 

 

Ellen, Event Coordinator from Jacksonville, FL

 

What got you interested in Being an Event Coordinator (EC) for Pre-Dating?

 

 

My sister Anna was one of the first helpers for the company and then became part of the original group of EC's in 2002 where she ran events until just a couple years ago.  I assisted her with her events in Sarasota. I loved hosting the events – it was so much fun! When she moved to Jacksonville and started hosting events there, I continued to run the events in Sarasota for her. Then I moved to Jacksonville and continued as her helper. When she decided she was too busy to continue being an Event Coordinator it was only natural that I step in. And I am still having fun hosting these events.

 

What ONE Unique or Extra Thing do You Do at Your Events to Make Them More Enjoyable?

 

 

I try to make my events FUN!  Everyone is nervous coming into an event. I find humor helps the participants relax.  I joke about the six minutes being the shortest or longest six minutes in their life, about what NOT to say in the first six minutes you meet someone…basically I get everyone laughing.


What is Your Favorite Success Story?

 

 

A wedding of course!  I had a couple meet at Pre-Dating Speed Dating.  They had never met each other before but I had previously met both of them.  About 6 months later I saw an engagement announcement on FaceBook. I then received a call asking if I would be a bridesmaid in their wedding!  In October they were married here in Jacksonville.  I love feeling that I might have had something to do with their happiness.


What is Your Favorite Venue and Why?

 

 

I host events in several different venues.  I like to move my events around to different venues and different areas of town.  I find I attract a better variety of participants that way. Each venue provides something unique to our events…whether it be ambiance, tasty appetizers, great drink specials, or excellent service, they are all wonderful!  I couldn’t pick a favorite as I love them all!  Without these venues we would have no Pre-Dating Events.

 

What TIPS do You Have for Attendees of Speed Dating Events?

 

 

Be open to what might happen at a Pre-Dating event.  Don’t come with pre-conceived notions of what will happen, or judge the other attendees by looks, age or how they are dressed before you talk to them. Come with a positive attitude.  Sometimes you find love where you least expect it!  Plus a negative attitude is a turn off! SMILE!  A smile will make you more approachable and set the other person, who is probably nervous, at ease. Be prepared…have some questions in mind before the event so the conversation flows, but make the questions fun so it doesn’t feel like an interview or inquisition! And smile…did I already say that?


What's the Biggest Mistake You See Attendees Make When Attending Events?

 

 

Sharing the wrong information in the first six minutes is a big mistake! You only have six minutes to share info…use it wisely.  This is NOT the time to talk about extreme political or religious views, the fact you like to practice a “clothing optional” life style, or how much you hate your ex (yes, these have all been shared at my events). This is the time to talk about what you love to do, your interests, hobbies and passions, and what you want to do in life.  Too many people waste the time with information on where they were born, their job, information about the past. You are looking for someone to possibly spend the future with so talk about what you would like to do and maybe you will find someone with similar passions to do these with!

 

Q&A  FORUM:

 

 

 

Questions From Other Singles Like You



Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them? Some other people did as well and here are their questions to us.

 

If you have a question, simply email us at Questions@Pre-Dating.com and if selected for our next Newsletter you’ll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.

QUESTION #1:

 

Hi Pre-Dating,

 

I am recently single, I had been married for 24 years, and now I find myself in the dating scene yet again, however, dating is totally different then what I had known it to be. Any suggestions? 

 

Answer from Pre-Dating

 

Dear "Divorced and Confused",

 

The first thing you have to understand, is you are NOT alone! The baby boomers have set a precedent with the divorce rate being over 40%, which has left many people in their 40's and 50's single again. In the age of technology and computers, the dating scene has changed dramatically. That being said, the idea of dating in and of itself, has not. 

 

There are many options for you, as a recent divorcee, to look at. Of course, there are our events, but there are many other avenues you can look at including online dating and other social mixers occurring in your area, such as Lock and Key events (www.LockAndKeyEvents.com use Promo Code PDNL to save $6.00). One thing we recommend is getting out there and meeting new people through localized events, as this helps you get back into the groove of things and allows you to meet other people who are going through the same thing as you. Pretty much anywhere you look, there is some kind of single's social outing being offered, and we highly recommend getting out there. 

 


QUESTION #2:

 

Dear Pre-Dating,

 

I am curious to know what I should wear when I go out to social mixers. I tend to get people who are more interested in "hooking up" rather then taking me seriously in the relationship aspect in my cocktail outfits, however, when I dress more 'refined' I don't get hit on at all. I am baffled! 

 

Answer from Pre-Dating

 

Dear "Problemista Fashionista":

 

This is probably one of our most asked questions when it comes to attending our events (what to wear)! The answer is simple, you want to wear something that is not as intimidating as a 'business suit', but also not something that screams 'easy' like a 'Little Black Dress'. 

 

Sure- skin is great, but the old rule of thumb 'If you got it, flaunt it', doesn't necessarily work to your advantage for either extreme. Many singles choose their outfits for what is going to garner the most attention from the crowd they want to appeal to. For example- if you are going for attention, you may show off some more skin (this goes for men too), however, if you are looking for a more sophisticated look, you may lean towards a suit- which tends to give off an 'I'm better then you' appearance. 

 

So, for the answer- for Women- A nice blouse complimented by a pair of nice jeans and shoes tends to work well in a social mixer, as you are not showing off too much skin, but at the same time, these choices can compliment the assets you want to accent!

 

For Men- the best choice is a nice pair of jeans, matched with a button down shirt (that is buttoned appropriately and tucked in) and a nice pair of shoes- not sneakers.  Accessories are great for both genders, but always follow the rule of "less is more" in this area, as too much can take away from your overall look.

 

By utilizing the above, you are giving off a business casual look, which makes you approachable while not giving off that 'easy' vibe. 

Roy's Relationship Corner:

 

 

 

With Roy Biancalana, Relationship Coach and Author

 

 

 

Last month I began a three part series on movies that have great relationship messages. As a relationship coach and a long time movie buff, I’m excited when a movie is fun to watch and has something positive to say about our loves lives.

 

In part one, we looked at Mr. & Mrs. Smith. The movie’s message was that intimacy is created and sustained by “revealing rather than concealing.” Being open, honest and transparent is the way to an amazing relationship.

 

This month I want to talk about Runaway Bride, another entertaining movie that has a very powerful message. Though the movie stars Richard Gere and Julia Roberts, it is really about Roberts’ evolution as a woman and her being ready for intimacy. If there was ever a Pre-Dating movie (emphasis on “Pre”), this is it.

 

Julia Roberts plays a character who has left a number of men “at the Alter,” thus the title. As the movie progresses, we learn that in her relationships, she continuously morphs into the woman the men in her life want her to be. When her man loves sports, she loves sports. When her man wants to climb a mountain on their honeymoon, she wants to climb a mountain on their honeymoon. If her man likes scrambled eggs, she likes scrambled eggs, and so on.

 

When she falls in love with Gere and is about to marry him, she hasn’t woken up to this pattern and so she runs away again. But this time, she doesn’t run into the arms of another man, as she’s done in the past. Instead she spends some significant time alone, finding herself, discovering who she is and what she wants.

 

As the movie ends, she returns to Gere telling him she likes Eggs Benedict. Gere doesn’t understand so she shares her realization that she’s been a chameleon when it comes to men. She’s had no sense of herself, but became the women her men wanted her to be. Now that she knows who she is, she’s ready for a lasting relationship.

 

The message is clear and true. You have to establish a strong sense of self before you can establish a strong intimacy. If you are afraid of being alone, if you are so desperate for love that you’ll become whoever you need to be in order to get someone to commit to you, you’re love life is doomed. This seems obvious, but in my experience as a relationship coach, it is THE most common “mistake” people make. In fact, I’ve written a whole book on the subject (see my website for details). There has to be a “you” before you can create an “us.”

 

Do you need to do a little Pre-dating work yourself? In my experience, most do, especially if they’ve been through a serious break-up or divorce. I’d love to talk with you about that, for I’m a genius at getting people ready to attract, build and sustain authentic intimacy. Reach out to me if you’re interested in what I do.

 

Roy Biancalana

Author & Relationship Coach

www.coachingwithroy.com

407-687-3387

ARTICLE:

 

Online Dating Can Be Improved

 

By Rick Nauert PHD

 

Senior News Editor PsychCentral.com

 

 

 

The growth of the online dating industry has been nothing short of spectacular. But a new Northwestern University study suggests the current science behind the industry is weak as cyber matchmakers use ineffective algorithms and profiles for finding potential love interests.

 

Researchers say improvements are on the horizon as mobile dating, the latest iteration in digital dating, holds promise as it brings together potential partners face-to-face fast to see if “sparks” exist.

 

Although the research on mobile dating is scarce, Eli Finkel, associate professor of psychology at Northwestern and lead author of the study, is optimistic about this approach.

“GPS features on smartphone apps can tell you who is nearby and willing to be browsed,” Finkel said. “With a little bit of basic information, potential daters can get together right away for a quick face-to-face meet-up.”

 

Experts say that face-to-face contact is critical in finding that special someone — and, that the faster this happens, the better.

 

The human-to-human connection has been found to be superior to viewing online profiles. Previous research by Finkel and colleagues has shown that the ‘ideal’ preferences of daters (from viewing online profiles) were significantly altered after in-person meetings with potential partners.

 

The research will be published by Psychological Science in the Public Interest, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science.

 

Finkel believes the online dating industry has advanced from a version 1 to a version 3. His discussion on the evolution of online dating follow.

 

• The first generation in 1995—the launch of Match.com:

 

“We use the analogy that dating sites like Match.com are like supermarkets of love,” Finkel said. “You check out the wares (online profiles) and see what you like. Upon first blush, this approach seems reasonable, but there are two major problems with it: People really don’t learn much from a profile, and people get overloaded by choice.”

 

• The second generation in 2000—enter eHarmony:

 

Sites like eHarmony market themselves less as supermarkets of love than as something akin to real estate brokers of love. They use “matching algorithms” in an effort to identify which potential partners are especially compatible with a given online dater. The choice issue, Finkel observed, is somewhat solved by the algorithm approach. Only a handful of people are chosen as compatible matches.

 

“But there is no compelling evidence that any of these algorithms work,” he said. “Limiting the number of potential partners is only helpful if the algorithmic-selection process favors compatible partners over incompatible ones, which it fails to do. Even if the algorithms are cutting 2,000 potential partners down to five, if that process is random, is it really any better than strolling into the neighborhood bar?”

 

• The third generation in 2008—mobile dating:

 

With the advent of smartphone apps, mobile dating was launched. Mobile dating’s ability to get people face-to-face fast may make a big difference, according to the new Northwestern research.

 

“You have a little bit of basic information,” Finkel said. “Is this person below threshold or above threshold for a five-minute meet-up—five minutes from now? There’s no better way to figure out whether you’re compatible with somebody than talking to them over a cup of coffee or a pint of beer.”

Researchers hope their report will stimulate industry leaders to utilize available scientific methodologies to enhance online dating services.

 

 

Cited Source: Article is Copyright (C) PsychCentral.com and NorthWest University.

http://psychcentral.com/news/2012/02/07/online-dating-can-be-improved/34529.html

 

FREE Dating Teleseminar:

 

 

"The Ex-Factor"

 

"How and If You Should Maintain Friendships With an Ex While In a Relationship With Someone Else"

 

 

With our Panel of Relationship Experts:

 

 

 

Roy Biancalana- Author And International Relationship Coach

 

Julie Ferman- Dating Coach, Match Maker and CEO of Cupid's Coach and eLove

 

Nancy Wall- Relationship Coach, Match Maker and President/Founder of Tampa Bay MatchMakers

 

 

~FREE~

 

 

Tuesday, June 26th, 2012

 

8:30PM EST

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 

In This Special (and free) Telesemianr The Panel Will:

 

 

  • Discuss Their Viewpoints on the Appropriateness (or lack thereof) of Maintaining Friendships with An Ex (or Multiple Ex's)

  • Tactics to Maintain an Appropriate Friendship While Remaining Respectful With a Current Boyfriend, Girlfriend or Spouse

  • The Implications of Whether Someone has no Friendships or Many Friendships with Ex's - What does Each Tell You About a Person, if Anything?

  • Answer Listener Questions or Comments About Their "EX-Factors"

  • How to Handle a "Crazy Ex" Especially When it Starts to Impact a Current Relationship

 

ABOUT the Panel:

 

 

Roy Biancalana: is known as "The Intimacy Guru," and is a nationally recognized leader in the field of attraction, intimacy and conscious relationships. He appears regularly on Fox35 TV in Orlando, FL as their relationship expert and is the author of the book, "A Drink with Legs" sold worldwide.

 

Roy is a certified relationship coach, spiritual teacher and was a PGA Tour player. His passion is working with men and women who are committed to awakening to their true spiritual nature and experiencing the love life they most desire. He specializes in supporting single people in attracting the love of their lives and also helping those who are in committed partnerships experience a deeper level of intimacy. He has clients all over the world and coaches by phone, Skype or in person.

 

For more information, visit his website: www.CoachingWithRoy.com or call him directly at 407-687-3387.

 

 

 

 

Julie Ferman: Is the founder of Cupid’s Coach, awarded Best Matchmaker in 2012, 2011, and 2010. 

 

Julie founded her personal matchmaking and dating coaching service, Cupid’s Coach in 2001 to dignify and simplify the love search process for selective, relationship-minded professionals.  A subsidiary of eLove, with offices in over 60 locations throughout the U.S. and Canada, Cupid's Coach provides a full range of services to relationship oriented single men and women. 

 

Register privately here and Cupid's Coach will be in touch with options, based on where you live and the type of dating opportunities that might interest you. www.CupidsCoach.com

 

Julie met her husband of 20 years through a proactive love search of her own, and has spent every day since helping the rest of us fall in love and stay in love.  With over 1,150 marriages to her credit, Julie Ferman knows the love business and is eager to share her secrets with us.

 

 

Dr. Nancy H. Wall: Is a certified Life Coach and Matchmaker, is President and Founder of Tampa Bay MatchMakers.   She is passionate about helping singles connect, and through her targeted relationship advice and singles’ introductions, numerous life-long partnerships and marriages have resulted. 

 

Dr. Wall has dedicated herself personally and professionally to help others discover and create what they want most from their lives and relationships.  As a noted international speaker, she has inspired thousands of singles and couples.  She has been seen on ABC Action News, Tampabays10, My Fox 13, and featured in the St. Petersburg Times, duPont REGISTRY, South Tampa Magazine, and Tampa Bay Wellness.

 

Dr. Wall earned her PhD in Adult Education from the University of South Florida, an MBA from Crummer Graduate School/Rollins College, a BS in Psychology from Duke University, and holds certifications in Matchmaking from the Matchmaking Institute in New York, Life Coaching from Coach Training Alliance, and Project Management from George Washington University.

 

For more information, visit her website at www.TampaBayMatchMakers.com, or contact her directly at Nancy@TampaBayMatchMakers.com or (813) 907-0410.

 
 
***PLUS RSVP NOW TO GET THESE FREE BONUSES***
 

 

  • Roy Biancalana welcomes all those who sign up to a FREE 30 minute coaching session.
  • Julie Ferman has offered All men and women who sign up to register with Cupid's Coach for free, to be eligible for personal matchmaking referrals nationwide.  www.CupidsCoach.com
  • Dr. Nancy H. Wall has offered a FREE consultation for all who have signed up for this telesminar.

 

 

Tuesday, June 26th, 2012

 

8:30PM EST

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 

 

SAVE THE DATE - Our July Teleseminar will be held on Tuesday, July 17th!

 

 

 

 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit

www.Pre-Dating.com

 

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

 

You are receiving this Newsletter because you have either been to or registered for a Pre-Dating Speed Dating (formerly Cupid.com/PreDating) event in the past, have requested and currently receive our twice monthly event schedule notifications for your city, or have interacted with one of our Event Coordinators at a networking event, trade show, etc. and requested to be kept in the loop. We only send emails to those who request them (what's the value of sending stuff to people who never asked for it anyway?). If you no longer wish to receive our emails, follow the instructions below. Keep in mind by opting out of our National Newsletter, you also opt out of our local singles event schedule email notifications.

 

FREE Pre-Dating Teleseminar

June 26

  

 

 

"The Ex-Factor"

 

"How and If You Should Maintain Friendships With an Ex While In a Relationship With Someone Else"

 

With our Panel of Relationship Experts:

 

Roy Biancalana- Author And International Relationship Coach

 

Julie Ferman- Dating Coach, Match Maker and founder of Cupid's Coach 

 

Dr. Nancy H. Wall- Certified Life Coach, Match Maker and President of Tampa Bay MatchMakers

 

Tuesday June, 26th 2012

 

– Free-

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

In This Special (and free) Teleseminar The Panel Will:

 

 

  • Discuss Their Viewpoints on the Appropriateness (or lack there of) of Maintaining Friendships with An Ex (or Multiple Ex's)
  • Tactics to Maintain an Appropriate Friendship While Remaining Respectful With a Current Boyfriend, Girlfriend or Spouse
  • The Implications of Whether Someone has no Friendships or Many Friendships with Ex's - What does Each Tell You About a Person, if Anything?
  • Answer Listener Questions or Comments About Their "Ex-Factors"
  • How to Handle a "Crazy Ex" Especially When it Starts to Impact a Current Relationship

 

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 

TESTIMONIALS

 

 

 

 

 

 

"Shortly after getting divorced at age 48 in July 2006, I began attending Pre-Dating events. I figured meeting up to 10 women in under two hours would be a great way to get back into the dating game. I went 5 or 6 times and ended up going out with several women. Then, at the November event I met Maria, a divorcee' around my age who also had attended several Pre-Dating events. We had great chemistry and selected each other as prospects.

 

Well, to make a long story short, we were engaged in April 2009 and married in February 2010. I don't see how we would have met without Pre-Dating.

 

To anyone considering attending: you really owe it to yourself to give it a try! And to anyone who has attended before, you owe it to yourself to keep trying as we did because you never know who you may meet at that next event."


-Lou (South Florida)

 

 

 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit

www.Pre-Dating.com

 

 

877-i-PreDate

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The State Of Dating

 

 

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EXPANSION NEWS:

 

 

New Pre-Dating.com Cities!


GREAT NEWS!  With the recent addition of Glo in Palm Beach and Debby in Hudson Valley, NY; we offer monthly events in over 75 US cities!
 
Work With Pre-Dating - Become an Event Coordinator

If you live in one of the cities below and are interested in playing matchmaker and adding a new adventure and challenge to your life (part time).

 

 

Please apply online HERE!

 

(http://www.pre-dating.com/coordinator.php3)

  

•    Lansing, MI
•    Miami, FL
•    Austin, TX

•    Fort Myers/ Naples, FL

•    Portland, ME

 

...And other event locations available!

 

 

QUOTE OF THE MONTH

 

 

"Dating is a place to practice how to relate to other people. "

 

    - Henry Cloud

 

 

 

CRAZY DATING FACTS OF THE MONTH

 

 

Do Women Hit Their Sexual Peak At 28?!

 

 

Are you in your sexual prime? If you’re around 28 years old, according to a recent survey, the answer is yes.

 

Through a poll of 1,281 British men and women, British sex toy company Lovehoney found that women have their best sexual experiences around 28 while men “peak” at 33.

 

-DailyMail.co.uk

 

 

 

MONTHLY CONTEST!

 

Become a Fan of our Facebook page

 

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Pre-Dating Facebook Giveaway – Win a FREE event in your city!

 

Simple: Just ‘like’ us on our page by clicking the ‘like’ button and you’ll be entered in our monthly contest.  You will be notified on your Facebook page!

 

Good Luck!

 

LAST MONTHS WINNER:

 

 

**George A. from Houston, TX**
 
Congratulations to George! He has won a FREE Speed Dating Event!

 

 

About Pre-Dating

 

Pre-Dating Speed Dating is the world's largest Speed Dating service for busy single professionals with monthly events in over 70 cities. If you have a busy life and don't have time to meet new people, don't like to date clients or co-workers, and are not interested in the bar scene then try Pre-Dating Speed Dating.

 

 

Contact Us

 

National Customer Service Loyalty Team

 

Email: Service@Pre-Dating.com

 

Phone:1-877-iPreDate (877-477-3328)

 

Hours: Open 7 Days a Week!

 

Monday-Thursday: 9AM-10PM (EST)

Friday: 9AM-5PM (EST)

Saturday: 10AM-2PM (EST)

Sunday: 3PM-6PM (EST)

 

Follow us on Facebook

 

 

 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit:

 

www.Pre-Dating.com

 

 

 

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

 


www.Pre-Dating.com

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

May 2012

 

                                        

 

 

 

 

IN THIS NEWSLETTER:

 

  • Event Coordinator Spotlight – Ann from Cincinnatti, OH
  • Q&A Forum From Singles Just Like You!
  • Expansion News
  • Featured Success Story & Testimonials
  • ARTICLE: Speed Dating: A New Form Of Match Making
  • Pre-Dating Teleseminar: "Creating Attraction": 5 Must Know Steps to "Create" Love and End Your Attempts Of "Finding" Love. With Guest Speaker Adam Gilad
  • Pre-Dating in the Media: Featured News Segment
  • "Roy's Coaching Corner" with Relationship Coach and Author Roy Biancalana
  • Crazy Dating Fact of the Month
  • Quote of the Month
  • Monthly Contest

 

Pre-Dating Event Coordinator

SPOTLIGHT

 

 

 

Ann, from Cincinnatti, OH

 

 

What got you interested in Being an Event Coordinator (EC) for Pre-Dating?

 

 

I became interested in becoming an EC for "Pre-Dating" after I

attended several speed dating events as a client.  The process can be very successful if you FOLLOW UP ...just like anything else in life.  I enjoy sharing my knowledge and experience with my clients.  They, too, can have success with "Pre~Dating" if they follow the formula for success.

 

What ONE Unique or Extra Thing do You Do at Your Events to Make Them More Enjoyable?

 

 

What makes my events unique is my personal experience with speed dating events.  I tell my participants what is effective and key to executing a successful speed dating event...in short, I am "real" with them.  


What is Your Favorite Success Story?

 

 

I had my first speed dating event in 4/2008.  I was aware that Kim & Todd in the younger age group had double matched and

started dating exclusively.  Over 2 years later I found out via an email from Kim that the two of them were married in 6/2010. Imagine that...a marriage was the end result of my first event...TOTALLY COOL!  


What is Your Favorite Venue and Why?

 

 

My favorite venue is the "Old Spaghetti Warehouse", where I have hosted my events exclusively for over 2 years.  Following are the reasons why it is the best venue I have ever used:

 

***SPACIOUS***  They have 2 private rooms that I am welcome to use on any given Tuesday night.  The large room seats over 150 people; that said...I can run 2 events simultaneously and even a third one if I have a helper who can run it in the other private room.

 

***LARGE BAR AREA***  At any given event I may have 50+ people in the waiting area prior during registration.  My customers patronize the bar...and they can accommodate the large volume.

 

***LOCATION***  I have a large geographical area in my region; this venue is basically in the middle of the territory, and it is located right off of a major interstate with plenty of parking.

 

***MANAGEMENT***  There is absolutely no drama at all with this venue. We are partners...and it is a win-win for both of us.  They are glad to do whatever they can for me and my customers to maximize their "Pre~Dating" experience.    

 

***GREAT FOOD / VALUE PRICING***  I probably have an average of at least 10 customers who eat dinner at my venue before or after every event. The food is phenomenal and is reasonably priced.  If my customers can have dinner after an event and get additional face time with each other...that adds to the value of their speed dating experience.

 

What TIPS do You Have for Attendees of Speed Dating Events?

 

 

***It is so important that customers maximize their face time with other speed daters.  Early arrival and late departure lends itself to extra time to socialize.

 

***Be unique in your 6~minute conversations...tell the person across from you something that differentiates you from everyone else.  Avoid a standardized interview process or inquisitions...my events are FUN!

 

***Have the right mind set.  This process is not about finding your soulmate right out of the gate...this process is about meeting other single professionals in an effort to determine potential for a one~on~one date. Realistic expectations are key to success with speed dating.


What's the Biggest Mistake You See Attendees Make When Attending Events?

 

 

Ironically...I see the same mistake OVER & OVER again.  Pre~judging goes without saying...it is human nature. We are all told at an early age not to judge a book by it's cover...yet we all do it.  That said...I refer to that as human nature versus an actual mistake.  Above and beyond that...the biggest mistake is lack of follow up once matching is received.

 

Every event I do usually has a minimum of 10 double matches; yet, based on feedback upon my inquiries...only a fraction of those double matches actually get together for a second meeting. This blows me away...prompt and consistent follow up is mandatory for the success of the whole speed dating process. Yes...this is common sense...yet so few people do the follow up. For clarification...I am not referring to just follow up emails...but actually executing a second meeting.

 

Q&A  FORUM:

 

 

 

Questions From Other Singles Like You



Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them?

 

Some other people did as well and here are their questions to us.

 

If you have a question, simply email us at Questions@Pre-Dating.com and if selected for our next Newsletter you’ll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.

QUESTION #1:

 

Hi Pre-Dating,

 

I am a 57 year old man who is looking to meet women in their 30's or 40's, however, I see all of your event in my age group are 50+, what gives?

 

Answer from Pre-Dating

 

 

Dear "Young At Heart",

 

As you can probably imagine, this is one of the most commonly asked questions, and yes, we offer special interest events from time to time which include "younger women / older men" and conversely "younger men / older women" and these events cover various age differences.

 

While many people say "age is just a number" at the same time, some people do have preferences relating to the age of those they date (both younger or older) and for a variety of reasons. 

 

One thing some people don't know until they actually attend one of our events is that for most events more men tend to be at the upper end of the age range, while more women tend to be at the lower end of the age range. So if you saw we had an event for single professionals ages 49-59, then on average, most women would be closer to 49 while most men would be closer to 59. There are of course some women and men in the upper or lower part of the range respectively, but our statistics show men trend older while women trend lower within a posted age range for an event.

 

Lastly, while we do strive to ensure attendees are within the stated age range for an event, we cannot guarantee it and we do often allow an exception or two maximum (both under or over an age range). It's up to your local Event Coordinator (EC) so be sure to contact your EC, let he or she know you are a bit outside the stated age range and if you can attend. If there are not already other people of your gender on the registration list that are outside the age range, then odds are it may be fine.

 

So what does this mean to Mr. Young At Heart? It means if you don't see a special event for younger women / older men, you should still consider attending an event based on what we've stated in our answer to you plus you can always email your EC to see if you can squeeze into an event you are slightly outside the age range of.

 


QUESTION #2:

 

Dear Pre-Dating,

 

I am hesitant to try an event, as I feel like this is something people do out of desperation. I am nervous that the people there are not going to be my type and are going to be far below my standards. What are your thoughts? 

 

Answer from Pre-Dating

 

Dear "Overzealous":

 

You are not the first person to feel this way, infact, this is one mindset that is most often changed when someone actually attends an event, whether it be ours, or someone elses.

 

To dive into this question a bit further, do you go out to bars and nightclubs to meet people? Maybe you put a profile online? What's the difference in going to a singles event? Of course there are going to be some people in the room for whom you may not be interested in, however, you will be (not may be, but WILL be) surprised with who you will meet. 

 

A large majority of our client base tends to be busy single professionals who, like yourself, have busy work and social calendars and have little time to find a person they wish to share a romantic connection with. What's 6 minutes anyway? Even if you don't like the person romantically, maybe there is a potential for a business connection or a new friendship. Don't necessarily look at our events as a way to find your next husband or wife (although it happens all the time!), look at them as a night out with the potential of meeting some great people and have a blast. Hey, at least you have something to talk about other then what happened on "Family Guy" at the office Water Cooler the next day, right?!

ARTICLE:

 

 

"Speed Dating: A New Form of Matchmaking"

 

By Discovery Health

 

 

 

If you're dating in this day and age, you know that time constraints can have a big impact on your social life. Many television shows and cities have a solution called "speed dating." What is speed dating? In this article we will address the most common speed dating questions and provide you with speed dating answers from our experts.

 

Love and marriage have always gone hand in hand. With the efficiency of shotgun weddings and quickie divorces, it would only seem natural for dating to follow suit.

Enter the fast-paced world of speed dating, where singles have the opportunity to date up to ten other lovelorn singles in one evening.

 

How is this possible, you ask? Each date lasts a mere seven minutes. What makes speed dating different from the typical bar scene is that participants have the same objective — to meet a potential companion.

Rules of the Game

The rules of speed dating are quite simple. A group of singles gathers at a cafe or similar venue. Armed with a nametag, a scorecard and their sparkling personality, couples are paired up to begin their first date. They are allowed to discuss anything, except their careers, or where they live.

 

Following seven minutes of conversation, a bell is rung, and the men move on to meet their next date. Think of it as a flirt's version of musical chairs.

 

Following each date, participants mark on a card whether they would have an interest in meeting their date again. If a mutual interest is noted, speed-dating organizers provide each party with the other's phone number.

Where Did Speed Dating Come From?

Speed dating, established by Rabbi Yaacov Deyo in 1999, is based on a Jewish tradition of chaperoned gatherings of young Jewish singles. Originally intended as a way of keeping Jewish singles from marrying outside the faith; the speed-dating movement has flourished in both Jewish and secular communities throughout the world.

 

For many singles tired of the bar scene and weary of blind dates, speed dating offers a fun and safe alternative.

But Does Speed Dating Work?

Speed dating has proven to be fairly successful, with approximately half of all participants coming away with a potential match. While some may be uncomfortable with the notion of making repeated small talk ten times in one evening, advocates of speed dating believe that the success of this "unconventional" arrangement lies in "conventional" — simple chemistry.

 

But the question remains: Is seven minutes enough time to fairly assess someone? Afterall, in this short time, you may have written off someone you might have otherwise found interesting in a traditional dating scenario.

 

Conversely, you may think you've met your dream date. But had you more time — even one more minute — you may have discovered that "dreamboat" has a toe-nail clipping collection under his bed.

 

Regardless, the popularity of speed dating is growing at a rapid pace. Is speed dating the new revolution in relationships or is this fad's seven minutes up?

Roy's Coaching Corner

 

 

With Roy Biancalana, Relationship Coach and Author

 

I love watching good movies. Whether it’s a comedy, action/adventure or a drama, there’s nothing like a good flick. Additionally, since I’m a relationship coach dedicated to supporting single people in creating and sustaining conscious, loving relationships, I get excited when I go to the theater or rent a DVD and I’m not only entertained by the movie, but it communicates a powerful message about relationships.

 

In this newsletter (and the two that follow), I’m going to discuss an entertaining movie that has something important to say to us about relationships. If you’ve seen it, I invite you to watch it again, for you might have missed its powerful message.

 

This month’s movie is Mr. & Mrs. Smith, starring Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. It’s a fun action/adventure film and opens with the two of them in marriage counseling. Now, right off the bat, you may be wondering why I’m mentioning this movie, since the people reading this newsletter are single and the movie is about a married couple.

 

Here’s the reason: If you’re attending Speed Dating events, you will eventually meet a great person and start dating. What I have found in my coaching practice is that new relationships often fizzle out because of poor communication skills. This movie addresses this issue in a humorous, yet poignant way. If you want to make a relationship last, this movie tells you how. So, back to our movie.

 

In counseling, we learn that Brad and Angelina’s relationship has become emotionally distant and that their sex life is non-existent. We soon discover why. They are both CIA type operatives, trained killers in fact, yet neither of them knows that about the other! Their real identities are a secret. In fact, neither of them knows much of anything about the other. As the movie progresses, the truth comes out and it’s fun to watch the drama that ensues.

 

However, at the end of the movie, we see them back in the same therapist’s office discussing their relationship after their true identities have been revealed. Their relationship is completely transformed! There’s warmth and closeness between them and they make a point of telling the therapist how great their sex life has become.

 

The message is clear. Secrets create emotional distance, while revealing creates intimacy. The movie asks us to look for how we are hiding our authentic selves from our partner’s and commit, instead, to revealing our true thoughts, feelings and wants to the other. The principle is this: Reveal rather than conceal. That’s how intimacy is built and sustained.

 

I’m guessing this principle might bring up some “Ya butts,” “What if’s,” or “How to’s.” I am willing to have a conversation with anyone about this issue (or any other relationship issue for that matter). Feel free to reach out to me.

 

Roy Biancalana

Author & Relationship Coach

www.coachingwithroy.com

 

407-687-3387

 

 

Pre-Dating Teleseminar:

 

"Creating Attraction": 5 Must Know Steps to "Create" Love and End Your Attempts Of "Finding" Love.

 

Guest Speaker: Adam Giland, World Renowned Author
 
 

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Thursday, May 17th, 2012

 

8:30PM EST

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 

In This Special (and free) Telesemianr You will:

  • Learn the #1 attraction-KILLER

  • Replace the search for “characteristics” with THIS.

  • Learn How to turn any moment into a romantic “movie moment”

  • Learn How to electrify otherwise dull conversations – and how to “get real, real fast”

  • Learn How to polarize your potential partner into their most electrifying sexuality

  • Learn How to turn the search for love into a sexy dance…

 

 

 

ABOUT the Speaker:

 

 
  Adam Gilad, author of the forthcoming book, “Epic Dating” is an internationally—known leader in inspirational dating and communication.  His books on online dating, www.DeepOnlineAttraction.com for men, and www.TheRightManOnline.com for women teach searchers for love how to bring out their deepest hearts and intentions in language that the other gender can actually heal and fear.  Adam brings an extraordinary mix of skillsets to helping you craft your success in love, having served as a Graduate Humanities Fellow at Stanford University, an Emmy Nominated Executive Producer and screenwriter of several movies, and as a leader of workshops such as “The Boldness Code” and “The Enlightened Communications Intensive.”  Men can learn more at www.ApproachConnectinspire.com and women at www.TheRightManOnline.com.  Adam can be contacted for personal coaching at AdamGilad@gmail.com

 
 
PLUS RSVP NOW TO GET THESE FREE BONUSES:
 

 

 

Adam is giving away a free chapter from one of his top selling programs - Masters Of Approach. If you’ve ever wanted to sit around a table with the most skilled and the best teachers of how to approach women in any situation, day or night, holding the authoritative position in full confidence and authenticity – then Masters of Approach is for you. One-by-one, Adam draws out the most effective and important lessons on how to open a conversation with women, how to escalate talk into something with sexual energy – all in a spirit of fun, truth, adventure and daring.  After you go through this program, you will have enough material to quickly and effectively engage women anywhere in the world.

 

 

 

Thursday, May 17th, 2012

 

8:00PM EST

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 

 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit

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Pre-Dating Teleseminar:

  

 

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Adam Gilad

 

 

"Creating Attraction": 5 Must Know Steps to "Create" Love and End Your Attempts Of "Finding" Love 

 

Thursday May, 17th 2012

 

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RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

In This Special (and free) Telesemianr You will:

  • Learn the #1 attraction-KILLER

  • Replace the search for “characteristics” with THIS.

  • Learn How to turn any moment into a romantic “movie moment”

  • Learn How to electrify otherwise dull conversations – and how to “get real, real fast”

  • Learn How to polarize your potential partner into their most electrifying sexuality

  • Learn How to turn the search for love into a sexy dance…

 

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 

TESTIMONIALS

 

 

 

 

 

Stephanie and I met last September at a Pre-Dating event in Harrisburg, PA. We hit it off and recently celebrated 7 months of being together.


We're planning the rest of our lives together, and the Pre-Date format
allowed me to meet the woman I love in a non-stress, fun environment.

 

- David

 

 

 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit

www.Pre-Dating.com

 

 

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

 

 

 

Pre-Dating in the Media!

 

Every month, we are featured in local or national media outlets!

 

Check out Sharon's event in Omaha, NB that was featured on CBS Action News!

 

Watch HERE!

 

 

 

EXPANSION NEWS:

 

 

New Pre-Dating.com Cities!


GREAT NEWS!  With the recent addition of Eric in DC and Deb in Hudson Valley, NY; we offer monthly events in over 75 US cities!
 
Work With Pre-Dating - Become an Event Coordinator

If you live in one of the cities below and are interested in playing matchmaker and adding a new adventure and challenge to your life (part time),

 

 

Please apply online HERE!

 

(http://www.pre-dating.com/coordinator.php3)

  

•    Des Moines, IA
•    Albany, NY
•    Austin, TX

 

...And other event locations available!

 

 

QUOTE OF THE MONTH

 

 

Dating is pressure and tension. What is a date, really, but a job interview that lasts all night?

 

    - JERRY SEINFELD

 

 

 

CRAZY DATING FACTS OF THE MONTH

 

 

 

It turns out we all have a little something in common with Narcissus-the mythical fellow who fell in love with his own reflection.

 

Scientists at the University of Liverpool recently concluded that our brains favor people with familiar faces. The research team asked over 200 participants to view a number of digitally altered human faces. They found that subjects preferred the features they were most familiar with-whether that means our own visage or that of a family member. This may explain that common phenomenon of couples looking like they could be siblings.

 

By: Laura Schaefer

 

 

 

MONTHLY CONTEST!

 

Become a Fan of our Facebook page

 

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Pre-Dating Facebook Giveaway – Win a FREE event in your city!

 

Simple: Just ‘like’ us on our page by clicking the ‘like’ button and you’ll be entered in our monthly contest.  You will be notified on your Facebook page!

 

Good Luck!

 

LAST MONTHS WINNER:

 

 

**Dan M. from Los Angeles, CA!**
 
Congratulations to Dan! He has won a FREE Speed Dating Event!

 

 

About Pre-Dating

 

Pre-Dating Speed Dating is the world's largest Speed Dating service for busy single professionals with monthly events in over 70 cities. If you have a busy life and don't have time to meet new people, don't like to date clients or co-workers, and are not interested in the bar scene then try the NEW Pre-Dating Speed Dating.

 

 

Contact Us

 

National Customer Service Loyalty Team

 

Email: Service@Pre-Dating.com

 

Phone:1-877-iPreDate (877-477-3328)

 

Hours: Open 7 Days a Week!

 

Monday-Thursday: 9AM-10PM (EST)

Friday: 9AM-5PM (EST)

Saturday: 10AM-2PM (EST)

Sunday: 3PM-6PM (EST)

 

Follow us on Facebook

 

 

 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit:

 

www.Pre-Dating.com

 

 

 

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

 


www.Pre-Dating.com

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

April 2012

 

                                        

 

 

 

 

IN THIS NEWSLETTER:

 

  • Event Coordinator Spotlight – Martine Davis, Milwaukee and Madison, WI
  • Q&A Forum From Singles Just Like You!
  • Expansion News
  • Featured Success Story & Testimonials
  • ARTICLE: Commitment Phobia: Why Men Disappear
  • Pre-Dating Teleseminar: 

    "Is Your “GPS” (Girl or Guy Picking System) Broken? H

    ow to Avoid Dead Ends and Map Your Way to Relationship Success With a Working G.P.S."

     With Guest Speaker Dawn Maslar
  • Crazy Dating Fact of the Month
  • Quote of the Month
  • Monthly Contest

 

Pre-Dating Event Coordinator

SPOTLIGHT

 

 

 

Martine, from Milwaukee and Madison, WI

 

 

What got you interested in Being an Event Coordinator (EC) for Pre-Dating?

 

As a single, I stayed home way too much and wanted to get out and meet singles like me. I thought, what better way to find love than to help OTHERS find it? Well I got my karmic reward because I met the most wonderful guy and we've been together ever since, but I continue being a coordinator because I find it very rewarding to encourage singles to get out there and meet each other.

 

What ONE Unique or Extra Thing do You Do at Your Events to Make Them More Enjoyable?

 

Events are typically very hectic and busy so I reach out to each

individual participant BEFORE the event so by the time they arrive at the event, we already have a rapport. During the reminder phone call, I will ask if they have any questions about what to wear or if they are nervous.

 

Several participants confessed they were actually so nervous they would probably have not gone to the event without our "discussion". I think the personal attention in advance allows people to come to the event more relaxed and confident.


What is Your Favorite Success Story?

 

A couple who met at a Speed Dating event had their wedding at the same venue where they met. They asked the venue to decorate the very table where they sat during Speed Dating with candles and rose petals.


What is Your Favorite Venue and Why?

 

When it comes to venues, I'm always searching for that elusive BEST VENUE. I have tried numerous ones and have come to the conclusion that one factor affects my events more than any other and that is the ATTITUDE of the venue staff. Every venue has advantages and disadvantages but when the staff is on-board and excited to have speed dating there, participants have a much better experience.  

 

What TIPS do You Have for Attendees of Speed Dating Events?

 

Come with no expectations, no checklist and be who you are. Someone out there loves you exactly as you are and wouldn't want you to change a thing!

 

As for that checklist ... the divorce rate for first marriages is 50% and those individuals selected what they thought was the ideal mate based on that "checklist". 


What's the Biggest Mistake You See Attendees Make When Attending Events?

 

Ruling out great potential matches for the silliest reasons or looking for a strong physical chemistry. In talking with happy couples, I have learned that in many instances, they did not match each other's idea of the perfect mate initially and weren't necessarily THAT attracted to each other. People tend to be quite restrictive when building the "ideal mate" profile in their head and end up passing up wonderful candidates who could have been a good mate.      

 

Q&A  FORUM:

 

 

 

Questions From Other Singles Like You



Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them?

 

Some other people did as well and here are their questions to us.

 

If you have a question, simply email us at Questions@Pre-Dating.com and if selected for our next Newsletter you’ll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.

QUESTION #1:

 

Hi Pre-Dating,

 

I have attended your events in the past, and I have to say, they are GREAT fun, however, is 6 minutes really enough time? Sometimes I feel rushed. 

 

Answer from Pre-Dating

 

Dear "Rushed",

 

Have you ever been on an amazing date and you both cannot seem to get enough of each other and you end up ticking off the waiters at the restaurant because it is after hours and you both are not done talking yet (Yea, we've all done it!)? Or, maybe a horrible date, and it feels like the time goes by at a snails pace? 

 

This is why we limit the time to 6 minutes! Sometimes the time flies, but other times you feel like you are pulling teeth to just a response from the other party.

 

Scientifically, it takes 30 seconds for there to be a sexual attraction, for the remaining 5 minutes and 30 seconds, you may find that the person is not only attractive but has a WONDERFUL personality to boot! Or not, but that's why we like to limit the time to 6- minutes! NEXT! 

 


QUESTION #2:

 

Dear Pre-Dating,

 

I'm single on Valentine's Day, YET AGAIN! I have not tried your service yet, but have tried online dating, and though I get responses to my profile, nothing ever seems to come to fruition. What am I doing wrong?!

 

Answer from Pre-Dating

 

Dear "Lonely on Valentines Day":

 

We have all heard it in some context, but we will say it again, Dating is a NUMBERS GAME!

 

Online dating is a great way to put yourself out there, and sometimes, a great confidence booster (Who doesn't like to get attention)! But, at the end of the day, if you are serious about dating, why not get out from behind the computer screen? Put down that spoon and tub of ice cream, and Brush off that hot number you have collecting dust in your closet and mingle! 

 

 

Wait, what's that you say? You don't have the time to mingle- well, who does anymore? While we'd love you to attend attend one of OUR events there are a lot of other great options out there as well. Almost every city has great events on most nights of the week, some are focused on singles others are activity based and as it usually turns out has a lot of single people attending. Check out meetup.com and eventbrite.com for events in your city.

 

Can we also say one more thing- Take some time out for YOU! Regardless of what makes you too busy to have a social life, whether it be children, work, etc., you need to start to create a good balence of work and play! You have one life to live, so live it to the fullest! 

ARTICLE:

 

Commitment Phobia:

Why Men Disappear

 

By Jill Di Donato

 

Professor of English, FIT, NY

 

 

"There's a term for when a guy stops calling," my hairdresser tells me as he curls my tresses into a Joan Crawford wave à la Mildred Pierce. "It's called dating."

 

Has dating really devolved into something so cynical? And why is it the man who's always pulling the disappearing act? I don't know whether it was the noir-inspired hair, or the fact that I read too many Agatha Christie books as a kid, but suddenly, I became obsessed with figuring out the key to this mystery. Fortunately, or maybe unfortunately, I had to look no further than my own friends, and my own dating dalliances for cases that would give me some insight into what I call The Casper Effect.

 

There are varying degrees of Casperian behavior, I've found. Exhibit A: My friend Jane (all names have been changed) calling to tell me that the guy she'd gone home with the night before had vanished. "I wake up in the morning and he's gone! No note, nothing. Who does that?" As many of us know from experience, lots of people to that -- I'm guessing lots of women, too. It's not okay, but it's not unusual -- though this didn't seem like the appropriate moment to tell Jane that.

 

Then there's the more shameless Casper. Searching the annals of my dating past, I realized that I've been ghosted a couple times by men. When I was 17, I dated a hot skateboarder who would literally say, "I'll be ghost," before he took off. (It was the 90s, and I think this was a line from a rap song.) After dating me for about three or four months and getting close to my mom, this boyfriend told me he had to "visit family in Virginia." After waiting about 2 months without a word, I realized he was never coming back. He never did. I found out later that he'd moved in with his ex-girlfriend somewhere down south.

And then there's the adult Casper, who's playing a more serious game.

 

"I thought I'd found the perfect guy; what the hell happened?" My friend Angie called me crying after her boyfriend disappeared off the face of the earth, or the island of Manhattan, anyway.

 

Angie's news was unsettling. I'd been out with her and this guy several times, and each time he was kind, generous, doting to my friend and gracious to me. I'm loathe to use the word "perfect" when it comes to romantic escapades, but by all accounts, it had seemed like Angie had met her match. She'd met and liked his friends. She hadn't slept with him immediately so she could make sure there was more to the relationship than sex - but the sex, when they had it, was good. After several weeks of dating, they'd made the decision to be exclusive. He'd even met her parents. Angie thought she'd done everything you're supposed to do when you meet a guy you can see yourself being with for a while.

 

Which is why too many unreturned calls and emails later, Angie couldn't believe that he had vanished into thin air. There had been a couple of red flags, but the excuses he gave seemed to make "perfect" sense: In the two months they'd been dating, she never went to his place -- he said his condo in a trendy Manhattan neighborhood was being renovated. They hadn't friended each other on Facebook -- he wanted to build intimacy through real life interactions. He didn't want to talk about his family -- he said a rough childhood left him estranged from them, and besides, they lived across the country.

 

And then nothing. She was not only distraught; she was pissed. Not only was it like he had ceased to exist, his disappearing act negated all of the time they spent together -- time she now felt was a complete waste.

 

I didn't know what to tell her. It's one thing to be "ghosted" by a hot skateboarder when you're 17, but now ? It's 2012. We're grown women, with degrees we've earned, homes we own, and jobs we love. We're smart, funny, attractive, and have learned some things about life and the world. We're worth it. So why are men still pulling this, and why are women left playing detective?

 

Here are a few of my theories:

 

1. More than ever, men are feeling disenfranchised and insecure. Even if they're employed and earning as much or more than they used to (although many of them aren't), the masculine ideal of the "breadwinner" has taken a severe hit since the 1970s, and even more so in the past ten years, as Hanna Rosin pointed out in her wildly popular Atlantic article "The End of Men." Because he has less of a chance than ever of fulfilling that ideal, he's . more likely to look to a woman for validation. If he feels that her world doesn't revolve around him, that she's not going to offer the level of validation he's seeking, he'll disappear and find someone who does.

 

2. Similarly, women need men less than ever. Women no longer require a man to have a child or support that child, which if I were a man, I think would leave me feeling a little irrelevant. I think I'd probably feel like the chances of a woman keeping me around were pretty slim - unless I was amazing in every way. And having to be totally amazing all the time is a lot of pressure for anyone. Maybe men can't take that heat. And maybe the fact that you don't need him also makes it easier for him to justify not telling you he's leaving. You'll hardly notice -- you'll be fine, he tells himself.

 

3. Technology makes it easy for poor communicators to bail. We all have a friend who's learned her relationship is over because her ex suddenly changed his relationship status on Facebook. Sadly, these types of stories don't shock me any more. And while there are plenty of wonderfully expressive men out there, many of us assume that men are worse communicators than women. In fact, a recent study indicated that women can "out talk men" because women have more dexterity with words. Whether or not this is true, our hi-tech culture makes life easier on bad communicators. Men who ghost have obvious issues with communication skills, but we also live in a world where it's easy to defriend our partners, not respond to a text message, send a call to voicemail or ignore an admirer on an online dating site. Unfortunately, these advances in technology have an impact on how we socialize, and I'm assuming make it easier for a man to justify an unexplained exit. Therefore, savvy women will make an effort to date through offline networks - through mutual friends, work, or community effort. This will help secure an investment, because a man won't be able to unexpectedly disappear without ruffling feathers of your shared social group.

 

4. You're so worried about not choosing the wrong guy that you scare off the right guy. Maybe you're protecting yourself after experiencing heartbreak; maybe you're eager to "know where things stand" in the tenuous early stages of a relationship. Either way, explains Evan Marc Katz, dating coach and author of Why He Disappeared, you could undermining the relationship before it even gets started. "You become vigilant. You look for the signs. You ask him probing questions on the first date... You ask where your relationship is going after the third date. Men are not heartbreakers looking for our next victim. It is never our goal to hurt you at any point in time. Like you, we're not sure what will make us happy. All we know is that we'll know it when we see it. But you've gotta give us the chance to reveal ourselves over time." In other words, don't jump the gun with a man -- not just because as Katz points out, it's a turn off for him, but because you deserve to put yourself first. You should be asking yourself those questions: is this guy really someone I can see myself with? Has he proven himself to me?

 

5. He's just a jerk. If none of the above resonates with your situation, you could always chalk the guy's ghosting habit up to his being a bad person. In that case, exorcise his number, email, and fake name from your phone. Try not to waste another thought on his immature antics, and focus instead on finding yourself a flesh and bone man who knows you're worth sticking around for. 

 

 

Cited Source: Article is Copyright (C) 2012 Huffington Post.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jill-di-donato/commitment-phobia-men-disappear_b_1290515.html

 

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Dawn Maslar is the award-winning author of From Heartbreak to Heart’s Desire Developing a Healthy GPS (Guy Picking System or Girl Picking System). She is a coach, public speaker, and advice blogger for the social media website “In The Rooms”. Her blog: LoveInTheRooms, provides help and healing for those struggling with relationship issues.

 

She is also a biology professor and a former radio talk show host of Healthy Relationships on Holistic Lifestyles Radio WWNN 1470 AM in Boca Raton FL.

 

Her passion is help people stuck in frustrating relationship patterns find the love they truly deserve. She has clients all over the world and coaches by phone, skype or in person. For more information visit her website at www.dawnmaslar.com and www.learnhowtofindlove.com or call her directly at (954) 817-1966.

 
 
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TESTIMONIALS

 

 

 

 

 

 

Hi Tammy [Pre-Dating Event Coordinator- San Diego, CA],

 

My name is April. I've attended two of your events in Riverside CA, the last one being in February. I know that I talked to you for a while about your job and possibly helping out. Anyway, I wanted to ask you if you would take me off the mailing list because I met a guy at the February Pre-Dating. His name is Ronan and we have been dating ever since. We are happy and I've never been so certain of a relationship.

 

Thank you for giving us the opportunity to meet.


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QUOTE OF THE MONTH

 

 

No one can understand love who has not experienced infatuation. And no one can understand infatuation, no matter how many times he has experienced it. 

 

    - Mignon McLaughlin

 

 

 

CRAZY DATING FACTS OF THE MONTH

 

 

 

Jan 2 - Finding love online can be tough – especially if you’re called Kevin. Researchers say that people using dating sites are less likely to pursue a relationship with someone called Mandy, Justin, Chantal or Kevin, because the names are all associated with "troublemaking".


Psychologists at the Humboldt University in Berlin reached the conclusions after testing how often 47,000 dating site members would open messages from English-sounding suitors. ‘Mails sent from an Alexander were clicked on
102% more times than those from a Kevin,’ said the study’s leader, Jochen Gebauer.

 

-DailyMail.co.uk

 

 

 

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  • Event Coordinator Spotlight – Sandy: Providence, RI
  • Q&A Forum From Singles Just Like You!
  • Expansion News
  • Featured Success Story & Testimonials
  • ARTICLE: Holiday Dating Tips
  • Pre-Dating Teleseminar: "Getting Ready for Something Real: 5 Stratagies to Produce an Amazing Relationship" With Guest Speaker Roy Biancalana 
  • Crazy Dating Fact of the Month
  • Quote of the Month
  • Monthly Contest

 

Pre-Dating Event Coordinator

SPOTLIGHT

 

 

 

Sandy, from Providence, RI

 

 

What got you interested in Being an Event Coordinator (EC) for Pre-Dating?

 

I was interested in learning more about event planning, as well as wanting to socialize more.  It led me to an event in Providence and being a volunteer helper.   This was great, as it gave me a “sneak peek” into the role of an Event Coordinator. 

 

What ONE Unique or Extra Thing do You Do at Your Events to Make Them More Enjoyable?

 

I Think it starts with the confirmation phone calls I do before the events.  I Try to use this time to reach out and make sure each attendee has all his or her questions answered.  This way they have all the basics like how to find the venue, what to expect at one of our events (expect FUN!), etc. so they don’t have those things to worry about. 


What is Your Favorite Success Story?

 

Happy to say I have a few.  A recent one is a woman who at 50 was single after her 20 year marriage ended.  She called me several times trying to build up the confidence to come to a Pre-Dating Event.  It took some convincing, but she finally registered.  Once over those initial nerves, she had a fantastic time!  After her 14 Pre-Dates that evening, she’s gone out on 3 “full” dates and is thrilled she finally got back out there! So Success Stories don't always have to be about meeting "the one".


What is Your Favorite Venue and Why?

 

My favorite venue is Waterplace Restaurant & Lounge in Providence.  It’s in a great location which overlooks the River and Boat Basin.  There’s a romantic ambience.  Great offerings to our daters from free valet parking, drink specials and complimentary appetizers.  Many have returned to this venue for their first dates after meeting on a "pre-date" at our event.

 

What TIPS do You Have for Attendees of Speed Dating Events?

 

I know it's easier said than done, but try your best to relax.  Keep in mind this is a Pre-Date, so put aside some of the typical nervousness we all experience on first dates.  It’s a 6 minute conversation with someone.  Think of it as a opportunity to learn more about the person sitting across from you and to feel if there’s that spark to say “let’s talk” at the end of the evening.


What's the Biggest Mistake You See Attendees Make When Attending Events?

 

Under dressing!  No matter man or woman, we all like to see that someone put the effort in to dress to impress a bit.  Remember to put on your easiest accessory, as clichéd as it may sound - your smile.  It will make you and your personality sparkle.

 

Q&A  FORUM:

 

 

 

Questions From Other Singles Like You



Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them?

 

Some other singles did as well and here are their questions to us.

 

If you have a question, simply email us at Questions@Pre-Dating.com and if selected for our next Newsletter you’ll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.

QUESTION #1:

 

Hi Pre-Dating,

 

Whenever I meet someone, it always seems that either they are interested in me, but they are not what I am looking for, or, I am interested in them, but they are not interested in me, what am I missing? 

 

Answer from Pre-Dating

 

Dear "Not Interested",

 

To answer this question, you will want to first think of the reason you are NOT interested in the people who have shown interest in you. Is it physical? It is their personality? Maybe it's their income level, or a combination of all three. 

 

Once you have answered this question, you will want to evaluate yourself a bit. Why do you think the people you are interested in are not interested in you? Are you less outgoing due to fear of rejection? Is it possible you are acting differently when you find something you are interested in? These things can be subtle, so it takes a bit of "stepping out of yourself" to objectively ascertain if it's you or simply that it's just the luck of the draw and therefore just a matter of time until both of you share the same interest.

 

It is important to realize these dating "mistakes", as they often lead to rejection. Be social, be yourself and most importantly, don't get caught up in the thought that the person you are interested in will never pick you. Sure, you will still get rejected here and there, but keep positive and the more experience you have, the more confidence you will gain!


 


QUESTION #2:

 

Dear Pre-Dating,


 

I found someone GREAT! But he is ready to get married, while I enjoy dating him casually and go back and forth between doubt and excitement, HELP!

 

Answer from Pre-Dating

 

Dear "On the Fence":

 

Ok, so you found someone who wants to settle down, GREAT! But what's that?! You aren't ready?! This is a NORMAL feeling (It's called cold feet)! You have been enjoying your casual dating, and BAM! You are at a crossroad, and you think to yourself, "I can either settle down, or try to find someone else, possibly better then this person."

 

Here is where you have to be completely honest with the person you are dating and tell them EXACTLY how you feel. In every relationship, especially in the beginning, both partners should sit down and discuss the items that they enjoy about the other person and the items that drive them crazy. These thoughts should be shared in a constructive way to inform the person of their good and bad qualities as it relates to you. At the end of this conversation, you should be at a point of pure honesty and you both need to evaluate, either together or separately, if this is a worthwhile venture. More often then not, couples that do this excersize realize that settling down with this person is probably the right path for them afterall. You notice that your list of good far out weighs the bad. And hey, they got issues with you too!

 

 

Of course sometimes your list of bad may outweigh the good and your path becomes clear as well but as the song says "breaking up is hard to do" and most people tend to stay longer in relationships than they know they should.

 

In short- be honest with yourself, but don't shortchange yourself. Remember what your mother told you growing up, "the grass is not always greener on the other side."

ARTICLE:

 

“Holiday Dating Tips

By Dr. Helen Fisher

Scientific Advisor to Chemistry.com

 

 

To help make your holiday dating a success, Chemistry’s scientific advisor Dr. Helen Fisher offers the following tips:

 

1. Family and romance don’t always mix. Be careful about including him or her in family holiday activities.

 

2. Curb your generosity when buying your date presents or she/he may think you are more serious than you really are.

 

3. Do something “different” with your date like a carriage ride, skating, sledding or driving around to see outdoor Christmas lights. Unique activities drive up dopamine in the brain and can stimulate romance.

 

4. Holding hands with your date can affect oxytocin levels in the brain and increase feelings of trust and attachment.

 

5. At holiday parties, introduce your date to your friends, explain who people are, how you know them, and then continually include your date in your conversations.

 

6. There is a fine line between bragging and telling your date about yourself.

 

7. If you are drinking alcohol, be aware of how much you are drinking during your date.

 

8. Don’t listen to everything your friends and family say about your date. You’re dating this person not them.

 

9. Be on time or call your date and let them know you are running late.

 

10. If you have the holiday blues, try not to let it affect your date or consider waiting to date until after the holidays.

 

 

 

 

Source: Chemistry.com

 

Helen Fisher, Ph.D., is a research professor, department of anthropology; author of Why We Love; and is chief scientific advisor to www.chemistry.com.

 

 

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In This Special (and free) Telesemianr You'll Learn:

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  • Understand why people keep attracting the wrong kinds of partners.
  • How to turn chemistry into lasting commitment.
  • How to attract your ideal partner without using the Internet or frequenting bars (not that there's anything wrong with those methods).
  • Leveraging your "masculine or feminine energy" to attract your ideal partner.
  • How to eliminate self-sabotoging patterns that keep us stuck.

 

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  Roy Biancalana is known as "The Intimacy Guru," and is a nationally recognized leader in the field of attraction, intimacy and conscious relationships. He appears regularly on Fox35 TV in Orlando, FL as their relationship expert and is the author of the book, "A Drink with Legs" sold worldwide.

 

Roy is a certified relationship coach, spiritual teacher and was a PGA Tour player. His passion is working with men and women who are committed to awakening to their true spiritual nature and experiencing the love life they most desire. He specializes in supporting single people in attracting the love of their lives and also helping those who are in committed partnerships experience a deeper level of intimacy. He has clients all over the world and coaches by phone, Skype or in person.

 

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Guest Speaker:

 

Roy Biancalana

Author and Relationship Coach

 

 

 

"Getting Ready for Something Real:

5 Strategies Guaranteed to Produce an Amazing Relationship

 

– Free-

 

Tuesday, December 13th, 2011

 

8:30PM EST

  

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

In This Special (and free) Telesemianr You'll Learn:

  • Learn the #1 reason why you haven't found your ideal partner.
  • Understand why people keep attracting the wrong kinds of partners.
  • How to turn chemistry into lasting commitment.
  • How to attract your ideal partner without using the Internet or frequenting bars (not that there's anything wrong with those methods).
  • Leveraging your "masculine or feminine energy" to attract your ideal partner.
  • How to eliminate self-sabotoging patterns that keep us stuck.

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 

TESTIMONIALS

 

 

 

 

 

 

On September 3, 2005, Tom and I were married at Mohonk Mountain House in New York state's beautiful Hudson Valley. Tom and I would not have met had it not been for a Pre-Dating event we both attended in April, 2003 in Dallas, Texas.


Fate must have intervened that day, since I was wait listed to attend that event. That afternoon, I received an email from Pre-Dating notifying me that there was an opening for two women at that evening's event. While I had a riding lesson scheduled that evening, the scheduled 8:30 start time allowed me to attend both my lesson and the Pre-Dating event. Fortunately, the schedule didn't allow time for dinner. Tom arrived at my table with potato skins and asked it I would like one. Since I was starving I took him up on the offer, and the rest is history! Tom says I married him because he feeds me (he loves to cook), and while that isn't the primary reason, his good cooking certainly didn't hurt! 

 

-- Wendy from Dallas, TX

 

 

 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit

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877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

 

 

EXPANSION NEWS:

 

 

New Pre-Dating.com Cities!


GREAT NEWS!  With the recent addition of Cassie in Detroit and Shelley in Chicago; we offer monthly events in over 70 US cities!
 
Work With Pre-Dating - Become an Event Coordinator

If you live in one of the cities below and are interested in playing matchmaker and adding a new adventure and challenge to your life (part time),

 

Please apply online HERE!

 

(http://www.pre-dating.com/coordinator.php3)

  

•    Hudson Valley, NY
•    Orlando, FL
•    Albany, NY
•    Austin, TX
•    Washington DC

 
 
And other event locations available!

 

 

QUOTE OF THE MONTH

 

 

"Remember, we all stumble, every one of us.  That's why it's a comfort to go hand in hand."

 

 ~Emily Kimbrough

 

 

 

CRAZY DATING FACTS OF THE MONTH

 

 

 

The US census calculates that of the nation’s 87 million singles, 40 million (nearly half) have tried online dating.

 

Annual revenues from dating sites are $1.2 billion in the US and $3.5 billion worldwide, according to
Courtland Brooks, an internet dating consultancy.

 

 

 

MONTHLY CONTEST!

 

Become a Fan of our Facebook page

 

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Pre-Dating Facebook Giveaway – Win a FREE event in your city!

 

Simple: Just ‘like’ us on our page by clicking the ‘like’ button and you’ll be entered in our monthly contest.  You will be notified on your Facebook page!

 

Good Luck!

 

LAST MONTHS WINNER:

 

 

**Kara H. from Milwaukee!**
 
Congratulations to Kara! She has won a FREE Speed Dating Event!

 

 

About Pre-Dating

 

Pre-Dating Speed Dating is the world's largest Speed Dating service for busy single professionals with monthly events in over 70 cities. If you have a busy life and don't have time to meet new people, don't like to date clients or co-workers, and are not interested in the bar scene then try the NEW Pre-Dating Speed Dating.

 

 

Contact Us

 

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