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March 2013

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Event Coordinator Spotlight – Michael, Raleigh/Durham, NC
Pre-Dating Gives Back!
Q&A Forum From Singles Just Like You!
Expansion News
Featured Client Reviews
Roy's Relationship Corner
FREE Pre-Dating Teleseminar: "5 Ways to Know They ARE Just THAT Into You" with Guest Speaker Lydia Belton, Relationship Expert, Author and
Psychotherapist
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Crazy Dating Fact of the Month
Quote of the Month

Pre-Dating Event Coordinator

SPOTLIGHT

Michael, from Raleigh/ Durham, NC

WHAT GOT YOU INTERESTED IN BEING AN EVENT COORDINATOR (EC) FOR PRE-DATING?

What can I say? Matchmaking is in my blood. I’ve been running singles events in my area for 20 years, mainly as a volunteer with a group called Triangle Jewish Singles (Triangle = Raleigh/Durham/Chapel Hill NC). Then I graduated to running Meetup events. At some point, I attended a few Pre-Dating speed dating events, which at that time were being run by a friend of mine. Eventually he asked me to be a helper, and one thing led to another…

WHAT ONE UNIQUE OR EXTRA THING DO YOU DO AT YOUR EVENTS TO MAKE THEM MORE ENJOYABLE?

Two things:

I put out a basket of mints at my check-in table. Attendees grab them by the handful.
I always end my events with an inspirational story, i.e., a speed dating success story.

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SUCCESS STORY?

There are so many, it’s hard to choose. But here’s one: A woman in her mid-50s had attended about 5 events over several years. A guy friend of mine in his early 60s had attended 2 or 3 events. Eventually they attended the same speed dating event, and they’ve been together ever since, which is about 2 or 3 years now.

**Editors Note** This just goes to show it can take a few events to make the right connection so if at first you don't succeed come out to another event and meet a whole new batch of people. Unfortunately dating can be a numbers game.

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE VENUE AND WHY?

The best venues are ones that are independently owned, whose owners appreciate the business that I am bringing them. Venues are like children: I don’t have a favorite. Each has its positives and differentiating fetaures. And I’m always seeking out new and unique venues.

WHAT TIPS DO YOU HAVE FOR ATTENDEES OF SPEED DATING EVENTS?

I always share two things, which I call "Michael’s Mantras":

Dating is a numbers game (Get yourself out there!)
Strike while the iron is hot (follow up with your matches ASAP)

Pre-Dating Gives Back!

For over 10 years Pre-Dating has been involved in charitable causes. From Toys for Tots where attendees bring unwrapped toys to events for a discount to more local charities. Last year, Pre-Dating Speed Dating's C.O.O., Michael Clarke started the trend of local, community based, charity events in Tampa, FL where 100% of the money generated went directly to a non-profit local charity.

Since the very first event where donations were sent directly to patient care for Moffitt Cancer Center, dubbed "Singles For a Cure: A Cancer Benefit", many of Pre-Dating's 50+ local Event Coordinators throughout the country have done the same thing, with other local charities.

"As a local, member driven service that Pre-Dating offers, it just makes sense to give back to localized not-for-profit charities that our individual Event Coordinators can relate to." says Michael Clarke, who, prior to delivering Pre-Dating's first charity event where 100% of profits went directly to charity, lost a close friend to cancer. "This horrible situation truly motivated me to get out there and do something for our city and those families who are suffering due to this horrible disease. This event touched and humbled me, and there was such a strong sense of community. I am excited to hold my second annual Singles For A Cure Benefit in June!"

Since last June, Pre-Dating has also run singles events where 100% of profits went to benefit such charities as "Jersey Rising" to help the victims of Hurricane Sandy, Earth Ltd. which helped a private animal sanctuary in the Boston/ Providence area, The Crohn's and Colitis Foundation of America in Detroit, Habitat For Humanity in Baltimore, Austism Speaks in Pittsburg, among many more throughout the country!

Are You Involved With A Charity? Pre-Dating can organize a fun singles fundraising event with you! Contact us to discuss this exciting option to raise more funds for your charity while helping your community's singles potentially make a lasting connection. Contact us at: Charity@Pre-Dating.com

Q&A FORUM:

Questions From Other Singles Like You

Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them? Maybe just a relationship question in general? Some other people did as well and here are their questions to us.

If you have a question, simply email us at Questions@Pre-Dating.com and if selected for our next Newsletter you’ll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.

QUESTION #1:

Hi Pre-Dating,

I am currently dating someone, but he drinks a lot, and though he is never angry, I still feel like I am second priority. I have brought up AA, but he continues to say that he is not an alcoholic. What do you suggest?

Answer from Pre-Dating:

Dear "Helping Hand",

One thing that I want you to look at, is are you an enabler? Are you someone who likes to "help" people who are down, or are slowly getting down? My guess is you just answered yes to both of these questions.

You are absolutely right by saying that you are second best if you have brought up this problem to him, and he is refusing to acknowledge your feelings and shape up. Studies show that the best you can do, is to simply walk out, and that this relationship is both toxic to you, and him- more you then him, as you are seeing a loved one fall through the cracks. Though I will not discredit this theory, chances are, you are not willing to let him go, or you would have already. So, what can you do?

Don't stop at one conversation about his drinking habits, bring it up whenever he drinks too much. Most people are fine with drinking a beer or a glass of wine when they come home from a busy day at work to just relax, but if he is consistently drinking to get drunk, there is a reason why. Alcoholism tends to develop from deeply seeded issues from the person's past.

Seek a professional’s help. Go as far as threatening to leave him if he does not go to couples therapy. If he refuses, you know what you have to do- you need to walk out- this relationship is not healthy, and you need to get out and find someone who will treat you as their number one. By going to therapy, he may be able to let go of his inner issues that you may or may not know about which is causing this downward spiral. This is an investment though, are you willing to invest the time and money on someone who may not be able to give you the return on your investment? This is truly something you need to think about before hand.

Lastly, seek therapy for you- on your own. You need to talk about why you feel the need to help someone who is so low on themselves, putting yourself in the potential path for heartache. My guess, this is not the first time you have fallen for someone who has put you second to something. It tends to be a trend, and a trend you may need help to break.

Alcoholism and drug abuse are both very serious problems worldwide. If you or a loved one suffer from alcohol or drug abuse, please seek help before it is too late.

1-800-Crisis is a national 24 hour Drug abuse and Alcohol abuse hotline.

QUESTION #2:

Dear Pre-Dating,

I am a well-educated, African American man, and I am looking for a woman in my area, but I do not see any events specifically geared towards African American Singles. Any chance you will have one?

Answer from Pre-Dating:

Dear "Looking":

Fantastic question! Over the last 3 years, Pre-Dating Speed Dating has been collecting specific information from our members to find out their interests, and what they want to see in their local area. Earlier this year, we launched our "Specialty Events" segment so our local event coordinator can decide if there is enough interest in your market to hold a specialty event.

One thing I will mention, is most events have a variety of people from different backgrounds, cultures and ethnicities. So, even if the event coordinator does not see a high enough number of people within the region that share your interest, it is highly recommended to attend an event, as you will likely meet some single ladies who are of your background.

Lastly, reach out to your local event coordinator and see if this is something they feel would be a success. The number one thing we need to prevent is cancelling or postponing an event due to low turnout. We value your time and we've made it 12+ years because we work really hard to ensure the events we schedule are held, that we have quality people in attendance and that the turnout meets with your expectations. While not perfect, we fully realize these things are critical and that we are only as good as our last event. As a customer service driven company, we take the feedback of our members very seriously.

Are you part of or represent a specific group of people where you'd like to meet others in your interest group? We often partner with people to do specific interest events such as GLBT, Tall Men / Tall Women events, ethnicity-specific events and others. Contact us at Service@Pre-Dating.com if you want to discuss.

Roy's Relationship Corner

“What Kind of Partner are You Planning to Be?"

Roy Biancalana

Author and Relationship Coach

Part 2

Are you ready for a real relationship? Though we all want to be in a great relationship, most of us haven’t thought about or devoted ourselves to a set of commitments or behaviors that form the foundation for authentic intimacy.

In my relationship coaching practice, I often work with my single clients on 8 different commitments that make them the kind of partner the opposite sex dreams of being with.

We have been discussing these 8 commitments in recent newsletters. Last time we focused on the commitment to openness. Here we talk about sexual fidelity. It’s my hope that you’ll deeply consider each of these commitments and say to yourself, “This is the way I am going to function in my relationship.” If you have questions, or if you want to work with me on any of the commitments, my contact information is below.

Ok, here is the second commitment:

The Commitment to Sexual Fidelity

“I commit to seeking my complete sexual and emotional fulfillment within the boundaries of my relationship and to openly share with my partner all of my sexual behavior, including any attractions, temptations, fantasies and flirtations.”

I’m guessing you felt good about the first part of this commitment, but by the end, your stomach clenched up and maybe even felt a bit queasy. We have a lot of fears, hurts and hang-ups when it comes to sex and our sexuality.

But let’s back up a minute. It should be noted that not all couples desire a monogamous relationship. People do have “open” or “swinging” relationships and they can design their own sexual vows. But for the vast majority of heterosexual and homosexual relationships, monogamy is what best serves each person in opening fully to God.

So, then, let’s just be honest, shall we? We are sexual beings. All of us encounter people we’re attracted to, tempted by and sometimes even flirt with. While we want exclusivity—we know it’s best for our souls and everyone else involved—it’s not always easy, because being in a great relationship doesn’t change our sexual nature. To keep our heads in the sand about this, as most do, actually makes infidelity more likely.

So what this commitment is really about is revealing our complete sexual nature and behavior to our partner. This can be scary—and even risky—for it can trigger deep insecurities about our bodies and resurface old sexual hurts and wounds. But in a healthy relationship, people share their sexual truth, no matter the risk. They talk about their use of porn, strip clubs, romance novels, masturbation, fantasies. These things are seen as natural for sexual beings and discussing them usually leads to greater self-awareness and deepening intimacy.

Please reach out to me if you want to talk about any of things mentioned in this or any article I’ve written. I offer a complimentary 30-minute session to anyone interested in working with me. 407-687-3387.

FREE Dating Teleseminar:

"5 Ways to Know They ARE Just THAT into You"

With Lydia Belton Ph.D.,Ct.H.A., AKA Dr. Tranquility, Relationship Expert, Author and Psychotherapist.

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Tuesday, May 7th, 2013

8:30PM EST

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In this Free Teleseminar You’ll discover:

Why they can't bear to be without you

How to get them to invite you on a second and third date

How to show more then lust after a 3rd date

How the Eyes have it

How Physical Gestures get you to the next level

About Our Speaker - Lydia Belton:

Lydia Belton aka Dr. Tranquility: is a mental health expert with a background in Psychology, Relaxation Physiology for Mind-Body Medicine from Harvard University's Mind- Body Institute, now called the Benson-Henry Institute for Mind-Body Medicine and Columbia University's Rosenthal Center in Botanical Medicine. Lydia has helped numerous people address Personal Empowerment & Goal Attainment as well as Relationship Goals.

Through the platforms of her FM radio show, and through her other platform B WELL TV, her production company, and of course her popular wellness website, DrTranquility.com she has delivered relationship, mental health and self empowerment advice to hundreds of thousands of listeners. In 2002 Dr.Tranquility released a new protocol Date Therapy. A mind-body protocol that helps clients get in touch with their dating criteria & bliss. Under Date Therapy she has penned and has been published in numerous outlets; Among them, Forbes.com and has a monthly column on CupidsPulse.com. She has also been featured in numerous media outlets such as a Glamour UK pictorial, is a REDBOOK featured expert, has been seen on abcnews.com, as well as others.

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Lydia will also be offering a special deal on her Relationship Package which includes a 45-minute coaching session as well as video tutorials that will help you find lasting love.

Limited Time discounts on both Pre-Dating Speed Dating Events, and Lock and Key Events.

Tuesday, May 7th, 2013

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In this Free Teleseminar You’ll discover:

Why they can't bear to be without you

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How to show more then lust after a 3rd date

How the Eyes have it

How Physical Gestures get you to the next level

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Featured Testimonial

"Michael,

I went to 2 of your events over a year ago, or bit more, with having some dates, which was good. However the Feb. 7th, which was my 3rd, I actually met a great girl who I can now call my girlfriend! Thought you may like to hear about a good match made.

Thanks,

Ryan, Tampa FL"

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EXPANSION NEWS:

New Pre-Dating.com Cities!

GREAT NEWS! With the recent addition of Alexis in Boston and Connie in Naples, FL; we now offer monthly events in over 85 US cities!

Work With Pre-Dating - Become an Event Coordinator

If you are interested in playing matchmaker and adding a new adventure and challenge to your life (part time).

Please apply online HERE!

(http://www.pre-dating.com/coordinator.php3)

We Are Currently Looking For An Event Coordinator in the Following Cities, and MORE!

• Lansing, MI
• Chicago, IL

• Los Angeles,CA

• Portland, OR

...And other event locations available!

QUOTE OF THE MONTH

”People will not remember you for what you did or what you said – but for how they felt when they were around you.”

~ Mary Angelou

CRAZY DATING FACT OF THE MONTH

QUESTION: According to an online study, women with what color hair are more likely to cheat?

a) Black

b) Blonde

c) Red

d) Brown

ANSWER: Blondes

Apparently, blondes really do have more fun. According to a recent online survey conducted by Cheaterville.com, a support website for those who've been cheated on, a whopping 42 percent of users said female cheaters had blonde hair, while 23 percent cited red hair, 20 percent cited brown and 11 percent cited black.

For men, it's brunette spouses you have to worry about. According to the site, 40 percent of male cheaters had brown hair.

About Pre-Dating

Pre-Dating Speed Dating is the world's largest Speed Dating service for busy single professionals with monthly events in over 70 cities. If you have a busy life and don't have time to meet new people, don't like to date clients or co-workers, and are not interested in the bar scene then try Pre-Dating Speed Dating.

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February 2013

IN THIS NEWSLETTER:

Sent to over 110,000 Single Professionals!

Win The Ultimate Blind Date to Tampa, FL! Today's the last day to enter!
Event Coordinator Spotlight – Denia, Toronto, ON
Q&A Forum From Singles Just Like You!
Expansion News
Featured Client Reviews
Roy's Relationship Corner
FREE Pre-Dating Teleseminar: "If I'm Such a Great Catch, How Come I'm Still Single?" with Guest Speakers Rosalind Sedacca and Amy Sherman, Authors and Life Coaches
Crazy Dating Fact of the Month
Quote of the Month

The Ultimate Blind Date Contest

-Presented by Pre-Dating Speed Dating and Tampa All-Star Group-

Two lucky winners will receive the following:

Round Trip Flight to and from Tampa, FL*
Airport Transfer to and from the hotel
Limo Transfer to and from the Hotel to the Blind Date location by Advantage Limousines
Dinner and a VIP table with Bottle Service provided by Jackson’s Entertainment Complex
Separate Massages by ReVive Massage and BodyWork
For Him: A fun day at "The Golf Club" with complimentary virtual golf
For her: A makeup makeover by Michelle Seelbach

All you have to do, is "Like" our Facebook Fan Page, upload a video of why you think you should be picked for the Ultimate Blind Date on our contest page (located on our Facebook Fan page), and get your friends and family to vote for you! Pre-Dating Speed Dating will then review the top twenty video’s (10 men and 10 women), and our panel of 5 judges will judge each video on a scale from 1-10 on the creativity of the video. The couple with the highest votes will be notified by March 15th.

Be creative, and have fun!

For more Info, Click HERE!

*Maximum of $300.00 round trip airfare.

Pre-Dating Event Coordinator

SPOTLIGHT

Denia, from Toronto, ON

WHAT GOT YOU INTERESTED IN BEING AN EVENT COORDINATOR (EC) FOR PRE-DATING?

Actually, my story is a little different! I started with Pre-Dating 4 years ago, going on 5 this year, as a customer service representative, and am now the event manager for Pre-Dating. Since day 1, I have wanted to be an EC, as it seemed like so much fun. Because I live in Toronto, and not in the US, I was unable to host speed dating events until Pre-Dating went international. In December of 2012, Pre-Dating finished the final details of bringing speed dating to Canada, and now, here I am, an event coordinator, finally! I am excited to bring Toronto's Singles together!

WHAT ONE UNIQUE OR EXTRA THING DO YOU DO AT YOUR EVENTS TO MAKE THEM MORE ENJOYABLE?

I try to make everyone feel as comfortable as possible. I put myself in their shoes. I also have raffle prizes and try to make my event as interactive as possible. I want people to have a fun night out even if they don't find the one special person.

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SUCCESS STORY?

Success stories are tough. Unless people call me and let me know I have no idea if they had a connection. But I do know a couple of other coordinators that have received wedding invitations and that is wonderful.

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE VENUE AND WHY?

I am very picky about my venues. A venue can make or break an event.

I really enjoy having events at the Rakia Bar here in Toronto. It has a fantastic fun atmosphere. Very cozy and comfortable. Staff is friendly and very accommodating. It's easy to get to and lots of free parking.

WHAT TIPS DO YOU HAVE FOR ATTENDEES OF SPEED DATING EVENTS?

Come with no expectations, no checklists or interview questions. Just be who you are. Someone out there loves you exactly the way you are.

Q&A FORUM:

Questions From Other Singles Like You

Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them? Some other people did as well and here are their questions to us.

If you have a question, simply email us at Questions@Pre-Dating.com and if selected for our next Newsletter you’ll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.

QUESTION #1:

Hi Pre-Dating,

I recently attended one of your events, and had a lot of fun, however, I did not receive a match! What did I do wrong?

Answer from Pre-Dating:

Dear "Recipient of a Free Event",

Every once and a while, at our events, singles, no matter their attractiveness, do not get picked which is why we have the "Match Guarantee" program, which allows you to attend your next event free of charge. The question is though, why does this happen? The honest answer is that there are many possibilities.

The first thing you have to look at is what you discussed. One of the biggest mistakes singles make is talking about their ex. Since you are only meeting someone for 6 minutes, it's important to bring your most confident and non-confrontational self forward.

Bringing up failed relationships tend to turn people off, as they feel more like a counselor then a potential love interest. On top of that, they will automatically feel there is baggage already coming into what could be a future relationship. Other topics to avoid would be political beliefs, talking ill of other daters, and talking too much about yourself and your accomplishments. Sure, you are an accomplished person, however, you may not want to over-speak on this, as that makes you come across self-centered, or cocky (not to be confused with confidence).

Secondly, how was your presentation? We find that daters that dress too conservatively tend to come across "snooty". So, what do you wear? Women- either a cocktail dress, or a nice and fun blouse accompanied by comfortable and attractive shoes and a skirt or slacks is appropriate. Men: a simple and stylish button down short or polo, accompanied by slacks or a nice pair of jeans (age appropriate), with a nice pair of shoes (not sneakers or flip flops/ sandals). That said, what should you NOT wear? Women- avoid business suits, cocktail dresses that expose too much (you will get picked, but not for the reason you want to be picked!), ill fitting outfits, outdated outfits and avoid over-accessorizing. Also, make sure your hair is done, and looks well groomed. Men, avoid wearing jeans that are ripped or have holes in them, avoid T-Shirts, if you choose to wear jeans, make sure to they are age-appropriate, be sure your clothing is rid of any stains, and that you put on a dash of cologne (don't take a bath in it!), and lastly, be sure that your outfit is up-to-date... no Hawaiian shirts! Men, also be sure that your hair is cut, and the style is appropriate for your age. Lastly, bring a mint with you, so, your breath is fresh.

Ok, so, you dressed appropriately, and you also engaged your dates with your amazing conversational skills, what else could you have possibly done wrong? Oh- The unspoken word, aka, body Language! Do not cross your arms, this is a signal that you are closed off. Posture is important as well, so, do not hunch over, or slump in your seat. Smile, and keep an open, engaging stature throughout the event.

Lastly, laughter is important, as it is an instant sign of engagement in a conversation. Who cares if what the person said was not the funniest joke, hell, it could have been the lamest joke you have ever heard, however, you are engaging the person, and opening yourself up to a great conversation.

QUESTION #2:

Dear Pre-Dating,

I am in my late twenties, and have been single now for about 3 years. I have been on many, many, many first dates, a few have turned into a short term (3 month max) relationship. I can't seen to get past the honeymoon phase of the relationship, but want to. Any advice?

Answer from Pre-Dating:

Dear "Serial Dater":

Fantastic question! The first thing I want you to analyze for yourself, is are you comparing these men to your past relationship? Many people, both men and women, who have once been in a long term relationship, and find themselves single, tend to see certain "red flags" in people they date that directly reflects things that either bothered you, or triggers some kind of emotion from your past relationship(s).

The most concerning part of this question is that you are getting through the "fun" part of the relationship (the "Honeymoon Phase"), and then something happens, and the relationship breaks apart. The reason I say that this is concerning, is that it seems like there is a lack of trust, or that you are not allowing your partner into your heart. I bet you have heard the phrase "You are getting closed off" or "You seem distant". Why is that? It is very common for this to happen, you'll have fun, then things "get real".

So, how do you combat that? The best thing you can do, if you really like the person, is be honest about where you feel the relationship is going, and talk about your differences and expectations in an open forum conversation. In order for a relationship to blossom, it is vital for you both to be on the same page. Do not fear the word "marriage" early on in the relationship, especially not at this age. Society expects a marriage at a certain age, and late twenties/ early thirties is the expectation. Sure, explain your "relationship timeline" and needs, but also let him explain his desires for what he sees in the future.

Additionally, sex is a very important part of a relationship at this point. How much is too much? How much is too little? Really, there is no simple answer here, however, no matter how uncomfortable it is to talk about sex at an early stage, it is important to discuss your sexual needs, as well as his. Keep sex fun, also. Ask about your fantasies, and possibly play one out. Sex can kill a relationship, or it can make one blossom. The only way to keep sex fun for both is to be open about your sexual needs.

With that all said, know that breakups are not always because of YOU! The other person could have issues you are unaware of, or that they do not want to divulge, but at the end of the day, do you want to be with someone who does not share with you their ups and downs? Of course not! The healthiest relationships are honest, and open. No one has time for someone who is not willing to open themselves up to all they have to share. As the kids say today "Aint nobody got time for that!"

Roy's Relationship Corner

“What Kind of Partner are You Planning to Be?"

Roy Biancalana

Author and Relationship Coach

Part 1

In my relationship coaching practice, I often work with my single clients on 8 different commitments that make them the kind of partner the opposite sex dreams of being with.

Over the next eight installments of this newsletter, we’re going to cover these critical commitments. It’s my hope that you’ll deeply consider each one and say to yourself, “This is the way I am going to function in my relationship.” If you have questions, or if you want to work with me on any of the commitments, my contact information is below. Ok, here is the first commitment:

The Commitment to Openness

“I commit to revealing rather than concealing my thoughts, feelings, choices and actions, especially the ones I fear might threaten the relationship.”

Though these commitments don’t appear in order of importance, this probably is the most important one of all. True intimacy can only occur if you commit to living out loud, sharing your inner conversation with your partner. They need to know what you’re thinking, feeling and doing. There can be no secrets—about anything. Openness must be the primary characteristic of your relationship and you must discuss the issues you fear talking about the most.

FREE Dating Teleseminar:

"If I'm Such a Great Catch, How Come I'm Still Single?"

With Rosalind Sedacca and Amy Sherman, Authors and Life Coaches

~FREE~

Tuesday, March 5th, 2013

8:30PM EST

RSVP HERE NOW!

In this Free Teleseminar You’ll discover:

What causes so many singles to repeat the same mistakes again and again.

The most common challenges all singles face that result in struggle and disappointment.

Success strategies that can make dating more fun and fulfilling.

How to hone in on partners more aligned with who you truly are.

Ways to become the great catch you really want to be!

About Our Speakers - Rosalind Sedacca and Amy Sherman:

Rosalind Sedacca is a Dating & Relationship Coach, a Divorce & Parenting Coach and co-author of 99 Things Women Wish They Knew About Dating After 40, 50 & Yes, 60! She is also the founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network for parents and author of How Do I Tell the Kids About the Divorce? Rosalind is an Expert Blogger for The Huffington Post, an Advisor at ParentalWisdom.com as well as a Contributing Writer for Exceptional People Magazine and the 2008 First Place Winner of the Victorious Woman Award and co-creator of the Create Your Ideal Relationship Kit for singles.

Amy Sherman has a master's degree in counseling/psychology and is a coach, trainer and co-author of 99 things Women Wish They Knew Before Dating After 40, 50, and Yes, 60! Amy understands the needs, challenges and insecurities singles face in finding meaningful relationships and helps them avoid the disasters and disappointment they often experience when dating in mid-life. She is also the author of Distress-Free Aging: A Boomer’s Guide to Creating a Fulfilled and Purposeful Life and The Joy of Optimism 10-Lesson eCourse, which offer strategies for overcoming adversity and other challenges of middle age.

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All attendees will receive:

Rosalind and Amy will be giving all who sign up to this informative teleseminar, a free copy of their tips sheet: "A Simple Guide to Finding the Partner For You!"

Tuesday, March 5th, 2013

8:30PM EST

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FREE Dating Teleseminar

March 5th

"If I'm Such a Great Catch, How Come I'm Still Single?"

With Authors, and Life Coaches, Rosalind Sedacca and Amy Sherman

Tuesday, March 5th, 2013 at 8:30PM EST

– Free-

RSVP HERE NOW!

In this Free Teleseminar You’ll discover:

What causes so many of us to repeat the same mistakes again and again.

The most common challenges all of us face that result in struggle and disappointment.

Success strategies that can make dating more fun and fulfilling.

How to hone in on partners more aligned with who you truly are.

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WHAT GOT YOU INTERESTED IN BEING AN EVENT COORDINATOR (EC) FOR PRE-DATING?

I had attended a Speed Dating event with a friend and had a blast. Since I'm a very social person and love meeting new people and learning about different personalities and different backgrounds, I thought that this would be the perfect opportunity.

Everyone’s got a story and it fascinates me! In addition, helping people is a passion of mine. Whether someone is trying to find "The one", is trying it for fun, or simply even trying to make new friendships, it is such a beautiful thing to be able to help, and contribute to their happiness.

WHAT ONE UNIQUE OR EXTRA THING DO YOU DO AT YOUR EVENTS TO MAKE THEM MORE ENJOYABLE?

I Love talking to every single person at my event and get to know them because I truly want to help them. I also like to joke about everything and make things very light because I know a lot of people are nervous and when you smile, laugh and keep it fun, that usually helps to take the edge off.

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SUCCESS STORY?

My Favorite Success Story is when I had received an e-mail a year later from one of my attendees from my 2nd event. He had told me how grateful he was that I had called him to confirm his attendance, because he actually had cancelled twice prior to that. However, if he would've attended he would have not met that special lady. The funny thing is, she was also hesitant and wanted to cancel! Fate is a funny thing!

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My Favorite Venue is Kimera Restaurant and Lounge in Irvine. I Love that Place, it almost feels like home.

Kimera has awesome food and drinks, it’s a great location, and they have amazing bartenders. They have separate patios, which works great for my large groups because it is private.

They are very accommodating and they always tell everyone about my events and how fun they are!

WHAT TIPS DO YOU HAVE FOR ATTENDEES OF SPEED DATING EVENTS?

Since Speed dating takes place on weekday evenings, which limits your outfit to business attire, Spice up your appearance before you leave the office, and be a bit casual. For Men, a more date ready shirt and a sportier tie. Ladies can wear some sparkly Jewelry and re-apply their makeup.

Don't start the conversation by asking: "what do you do?", it is one of the least interesting questions to ask, it should be a last resort question! Mention any interesting hobbies that you like. Don't say that you enjoy going to the movies and eating out, everyone likes to eat out and go to the movies, unless you have something fascinating to add to that!

Most importantly, be yourself, don't come with too many expectations and you may be pleasantly surprised. You need to try speed dating at least twice, your 2nd time around is always better, usually because people know what to expect and are not as nervous as their first time.

Speed dating is a great experience, so have fun.

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QUESTION #1:

Hi Pre-Dating,

A few years ago, my husband passed away, and now I am dating someone, but the problem is, he yells at me, and makes me feel horrible (sometimes even embarrassed). My husband and I never fought, so, this is new to me. What is your suggestion?

Answer from Pre-Dating:

Dear "Future Warrior",

I am going to preface this answer with the fact that couples always fight at some point or another, maybe not in the same way, but they always do at some point. I think what you are experiencing here, is that you are not used to someone who is more vocal about their feelings. I am certain your husband and yourself disagreed on certain topics, but, dealt with it in a different manner.

Now, I want you to think about these questions; How does it make you feel? Can YOU deal with this? What does he do when he realizes you are upset?

At the end of the day, there is NO excuse for anyone to make you feel hurt or upset, this is NOT a healthy relationship for either party. The number one thing you need to look at here, is if this is a repetitive trend, what can he do to help control his outbursts. Obviously, these outbursts make you very uncomfortable, and if he wishes to continue to be in a relationship with you, he needs to work on himself to control those outbursts.

Lastly, though this is very personal, but, has there been any physical actions against you? This can be as simple as grabbing you in a forceful way. If so- leave now! There is no reason to be with an abusive partner. No matter the excuses he may give, experts agree that 90% of people who have been physical once, will be physical again, and in over 50% of cases, the physical abuse gets worse over time.

I would like to add one item here, and this is to ALL readers, if you or a friend are facing any kind of abuse, and you need someone to talk to, please take action and call the National Domestic Abuse Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE.

QUESTION #2:

Dear Pre-Dating,

I find myself always falling for the wrong girl, I go on a few dates, we have a great time, then, without fail, a month or two down the line, she says "I met someone else"! What am I doing wrong here?

Answer from Pre-Dating:

Dear "Falling for a line":

Ok, this is probably one of the oldest, and most hurtful lines people use to get out of a relationship they are simply not 'feeling" it. Why use such a hurtful line you ask? Simply- there is NO comeback! What are you really going to say to change their mind? You are just going to be left blind sided, and angry. There is virtually no way to get them back. Obviously, this is not always the case, but 9 times out of 10, it is.

So, now we need to figure out why this is happening so frequently. First though, we need to look at why they say this. As mentioned above, they are simply not "feeling" the relationship, but why? Often times, when first dating someone, one person is more into it then the other. It is important to hold back somewhat, but not completely close yourself off from the other person. Being honest is important, but being overly forward with your plans of a future can scare someone away.

If you are one of those people who puts their heart on their sleeves, it's not that that is a bad thing, but hold back a little- remember that old quote your mom told you? "No one will buy the milk if you give away the cow for free"- though, that tends to be more sexual, it still works in this case. Leave a little something to the imagination, and see what happens.

We have all heard "don't say I Love You" too early, it will scare the person away, and it's true! It's a beautiful thing that you feel that way, but if you want to see things blossom, take the correct steps to develope a relationship. Look- building a relationship is very much like building a house, you have to start with a solid foundation of trust and understanding, then start building up from there. If you speed through the steps, what’s going to happen to your house? It's going to fall apart, right? Take your time, go slow, and build from there.

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Agreeing to Disagree: Overcoming Communication Conundrums in Relationships

By JANE COLLINGWOOD

Even in the strongest of relationships, there will be times when small irritations can cause mountains to grow out of molehills, so it’s important to keep striving for better communication.

As the essence of relationships, communication has a great impact on every aspect of life. Yet the channels of communication can sometimes become blocked, even among people who care deeply for each other. It’s often difficult to put our feelings into words or concentrate fully when our partner speaks. Unhelpful silences or verbal attacks can arise and drive us further apart.

Common barriers to communication include: threatening or unpleasant behavior such as criticism and bossiness; only hearing what we want to hear; getting bored or distracted; and not expressing our point clearly. Fortunately, working on our communication skills helps us to break through this sort of impasse. So follow these tried and tested tips to stop you reaching for the expletives and reach an understanding instead.

No matter what else is going on, try to make time for your partner on a day-to-day basis. Good communication is about deepening your understanding of each other, not simply avoiding arguments. Easier said than done, of course, but making time to talk is worth the effort. All being well, these occasions will be enjoyable and bring great rewards, so make a dinner date, share a bath or go for a walk together and let the conversation flow.

Secondly, remember the importance of intimate, non-sexual contact. Hugs and kisses are the glue which holds a relationship together, and consider activities such as sport to reconnect non-verbally. Psychologists believe the vast majority of communication takes place without words through body language.

Do you believe you know everything there is to know about your partner? It may be worth checking this out by asking them questions to reveal more about themselves. To deepen the communication and understanding between you, try talking about the times when you feel happiest or your hopes and dreams for the future. Don’t assume that your partner feels the same way you do.

This could bring up relationship ‘hot spots’ – work, money, childcare – which can then be dealt with openly. Experts suggest setting up reciprocal arrangements in which you both agree to take on an equal number of tasks and chores.

If you find yourself slipping into an argument, there are many ways to keep the row healthy. Most importantly, own your emotions by using “I” statements. For example, rather than “You make me angry,” or “This is all your fault,” try saying, “I feel concerned/upset…”. This keeps things calmer and makes it easier to compromise, as your partner will not become so defensive. Then keep to the point rather than slipping into attack and counter-attack, or emotional withdrawal.

But talking this way is only possible if you are aware of your own feelings. For this, you must recognize them, be accepting of them, and able to express them. We each have our own way of dealing with conflicts – your style may be to avoid the issue, give in, or blame the other person. Being aware of your style and that of your partner will help you resolve the situation.

In the heat of the moment, try to stay calm and accentuate the positive. See the other’s point of view while showing respect, and then look for a compromise that you can both accept. Listen carefully, give empathy and positive responses, and overlook the insults. Respond to criticism as useful information, if at all possible! Remember, the objective is not to stop every argument but to stop the escalating bitterness.

If either partner gets beyond the point of being civil and rational, ask for a “time-out” to calm down. But be sure to agree on continuing the discussion when you have had time to think about it.

Bear in mind that one of the secrets of happy couples is learning to tolerate or accept the other person’s faults. So-called “perfect relationships” do not exist, therefore small faults need to be accepted.

Couples counseling encourages reaching an acceptance of one another through compassion and empathy, so you both come to truly understand the other person and become able to share your own feelings in depth. Then you can see the underlying reasons for their criticism or silence, perhaps they are really feeling unloved, rejected or hurt.

Having awareness of these techniques and skills is only half the battle – you need to develop them through practice until they become second nature. It will be an effort to change long-standing habits, but improving communication in your relationship is worth doing, as poor communication is one of the top causes of unhappy relationships.

Work Cited:

http://psychcentral.com/lib/2006/agreeing-to-disagree-overcoming-communication-conundrums-in-your-relationship/

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The curve of the counter in a bar is designed so other customers can easily “check out” other customers. Bars also purposely place mirrors to help create a larger sense of place and to allow a person to scope out other people behind them.

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Kathy, from Baton Rouge, LA

What got you interested in being an Event Coordinator (EC) for Pre-Dating?

I've attended Speed Dating events in the past as a guest and I really enjoyed them. Since I've been on the "other side of the fence" with these events and I believe in them and know how much fun they are, as well as know how extremely hard finding love can be these days (because, I too, am single), I knew it would be pretty easy for me to sell the idea to others. I couldn't sell something I didn't believe in.

What ONE Unique or Extra Thing do You Do at Your Events to Make Them More Enjoyable?

I'm a bit of a comic sometimes, and I like to add laughter to the "routine" to try to put the guests at ease. For example, when I'm explaining about what they need to write on the match sheet, I'll say something like "I don't need to know that she's got pretty blue eyes, or he smells dreamy, that's not going to help me, I just need to know YES or NO" I always get a big laugh from that. Also, I always ask them to be sure they send me an invite to the wedding. Again, I get laughs. I believe laughter is the best mecidine to put people at ease.

What is Your Favorite Success Story?

I don't always hear about success stories but the match rate at my events as well as the company's is always very high. I obviously can't control what happens after that, so instead I focus on the event and overall experience people have with me and my events. To me; if they paid, showed up and even though they didn't meet anyone special, but they had fun, got to check out a cool venue they never went to before, and THEY feel like they got value from the event and had a great experiece, THAT is a success story.

What TIPS do You Have for Attendees of Speed Dating Events?

Don't over analyze things people say. If there's an attraction there, but you're not sure about it because the way the conversation went, give it a second shot, because people have six minutes to capture your interest, and on top of that, they're nervous. Come with an open mind and heart.

Q&A FORUM:

Questions From Other Singles Like You

Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them? Some other people did as well and here are their questions to us.

If you have a question, simply email us at Questions@Pre-Dating.com and if selected for our next Newsletter you’ll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.

QUESTION #1:

Hi Pre-Dating,

I find that when I go on dates, I have a hard time opening up and being myself. What do you suggest?

Answer from Pre-Dating:

Dear "Closed",

Do realize, that this is a very common feeling to have. This mainly comes from the feeling of being nervous about opening up and talking about yourself. For some people, this could be a sign of insecurity, but for others, it could just be due to the anxiety of meeting someone new.

One thing you can do prior to going on a date is prepare yourself for the topics you would like to talk about. Dating is very much like interviewing for a job. I am sure you do not go into a job interview with nothing prepared, right? Same with dating. Always have a set idea of what you would like to talk about so you don't stumble around.

Lastly- the person on the other side of the table from you is most likely feeling the SAME way you are. First-time meetings tend to be stressful and emotionally exhausting. To break the tension, simple say these words "Let's not call this a "date", that is too formal, let's call this a fun night out to get to know one another". This will exude confidence and break the "tension wall" in order to open up and talk about each other in a low-stress atmosphere.

QUESTION #2:

Dear Pre-Dating,

I am divorced with two kids, and though they know I am dating, I am not sure when it is appropriate to have them meet the person I am dating.

Answer from Pre-Dating:

Dear "Single Parent":

Great question, and one that effects over 50% of singles today. Obviously dating can be a difficult venture for anyone, but add kids to the mix, and it can be down-right next-to-impossible. As a parent, you instinctively want to protect your kids regardless of their age.

So, the question is, when is it right? Well, that's entirely up to you. Obviously, you want to wait a little bit until you really get to know the person, but if you are asking this question, my guess is, you have been dating this person for some time and you feel comfortable with him or her. You are most likely more uncomfortable with this as you are fearful that the kids will get attached, and you don't want them to be hurt in the case you break things off with this person.

Many experts feel it is always important to talk to your partner about the fact that you want to introduce them to your children, and listen to what they say. Their response may be "I would love to meet them", or it may be "Are you sure you are ready for this?". These two answers, or similar variations of them should give you a clear answer as to where your relationship stands. Obviously if they are excited to meet them, this person is someone who is excited about taking things to the next level with you. If they are wary of it, this may mean that they may not be as confident in the relationship as you are. This is obviously a red flag that should be discussed further.

Now, let's discuss the kids- many experts recommend speaking to them, and listening to their feedback. Though some people might guard their kids from these things, it is scientifically proven, that when you are honest with your kids about a potential partner in your life aside from their biological parent, that they tend to not be as negative towards the notion of meeting this new person. You may get some flack from them, but being honest about your intentions, and being honest with them as far as the fact that this is not their new "mom or dad", is extremely important.

The actual introduction should be a family "group time", where there is an open forum for all parties to speak. Remember to be open to feedback from the children, and your partner as well. Discuss with your partner the questions the children may ask, and get him or her prepared with thoughtful responses, this will help the child trust this new person in their life.

In closing, the most important thing to do here is listen to all parties prior, during and after the introduction. This is a big step in a relationship, and should not be taken lightly.

Roy's Relationship Corner:

Questions Women Ask About Love, Sex and Dating (part 2)

Roy Biancalana

Author and Relationship Coach

In the last installment of this newsletter, we began a multi-part series on questions my female clients ask me as their relationship coach. Here is another frequently asked question. And as always, reach out to me if you want to discuss this or any issue pertaining to your love life. I offer a complimentary 30-minute session to anyone interested in working with me. 407-687-3387. Now, on to this month’s question.

Does moving in together before marriage scare men and does it decrease the chance that he will propose to me and put a ring on my finger?

My Answer:

Finding a man who isn’t a little afraid, if not outright terrified of commitment, is like trying to find a woman who doesn’t like chocolate and shopping! It happens, yes, but it’s extremely rare. The hard-wired priority of the masculine nature is to pursue his chosen mission free of constraint. So at the masculine’s most primitive level, the idea of moving in with a woman (not to mention getting married to her!), feels constraining and therefore puts the fear of God into him. However, a mature evolved man, the kind of man an evolved woman wants, realizes that his life partner enhances his ability to give his gift to the world, not detracts from it.

That said, living together will not decrease your chances of getting a ring—only you can do that. If you want to get married, if that’s your heart’s desire, then tell your man that you love him and that getting married is really important to you. If the two of you are close enough to live together, you’re close enough to get married. The idea of living together as an experiment to determine if you are right for one another is altogether misguided. If your relationship has progressed that far, you have (or you better have!) been exclusive for at least six months, worked through a conflict or two, fully disclosed your financial situation, discussed your sexual history and seen how each other live. What more is there to learn? If you are the woman of his dreams and if he’s evolved beyond his innate fear of commitment, he will formally claim you as his woman. If he’s not willing to do that, perhaps he’s not the man of your dreams.

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"20 Red Flags To Avoid When Dating"

With Charles Johnson, Author, Life Coach and Public Speaker

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Tuesday, January 8th, 2013

8:30PM EST

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In This Free Dating Teleseminar

You Will:

Learn to identify the most common red flags in dating & relationships

Explore a step-by-step guide to understanding and resisting red flag behavior

Discover the obvious red flags most people miss or explain away

Learn to avoid the most serious red flags

Learn to identify the traits that are most likely to lead to a partner being unfaithful or abusive

Discover how not to fall victim; learn to see past what people say to get to the truth

About our Speaker:

Charles A. Johnson is dedicated to helping single people find the right one to date, learn to build a relationship and stay happily married.

After more than 20 years in the military and 16 in a corporate environment, Charles Johnson found his new calling in life. In both the Air Force as well the many companies he founded or worked in, Charles managed and mentored diverse teams across Europe, Asia and North America. But he wasn’t your typical corporate manager.

Charles always focused more on the whole person and how to help those who worked with and around him find balance and achieve both personal and professional success. He found that he was helping people not only get well-deserved promotions or the financial recognition for their work, but he was also helping them identify and realize what makes them happy.

Helping others create a life and a lifestyle where their happiness is a priority and life balance is the primary goal has since become Charles’ new life work. He is now a certified life coach and author and has dedicated himself to helping single people find and select the right life and marriage partners and make it last.

Surrounded by three sisters and eight female cousins, Charles had a significant female influence growing up. With the knowledge he gleaned from that experience, he spent the 25 years coaching and mentoring hundreds of single professionals and up-and-coming, career-minded men and women -- including his own four daughters. He found himself providing guidance to help these otherwise successful individuals improve their personal confidence by updating their image, polishing their social skills and providing insight into the art of establishing and maintaining relationships.

Charles has connected and helped hundreds of people find marriage or committed partners and coaches them on how to make relationships last. He has coached 500 people, connected hundreds and helped marry 120 couples. Johnson has been married for more than 33 years and three of his four daughters are now married.

Charles has found happiness and balance in his own life as well, pursuing his passions as an avid traveler, photography enthusiast, art collector and a supporter of various charitable causes. His greatest passion is writing about hope and how people can achieve their dreams and still have a balanced and complete life.

For more information on Charles, click HERE!

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FREE Dating Teleseminar

January 8th

"20 Red Flags To Avoid When Dating"

With Author, Life Coach and Speaker, Charles Johnson

Tuesday, January 8th, 2013 at 8:30PM EST

– Free-

RSVP HERE NOW!

In This Free Dating Teleseminar

You Will:

Learn to identify the most common red flags in dating & relationships
Explore a step-by-step guide to understanding and resisting red flag behavior
Discover the obvious red flags most people miss or explain away
Learn to avoid the most serious red flags
Learn to identify the traits that are most likely to lead to a partner being unfaithful or abusive
Discover how not to fall victim; learn to see past what people say to get to the truth

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Featured Testimonial

"Martine,

Im not sure if you still do the coordinating for speed dating. If you are I just wanted you to know that I did the speed dating at the Mos Irish Pub in downtown Milwaukee in March, 2011 and I met Mike. We just got married yesterday:) Just wanted to give you our success story.

Thanks,

- Rachel (Milwaukee, Dec 2012)

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EXPANSION NEWS:

New Pre-Dating.com Cities!

GREAT NEWS! With the recent addition of Cindy in Oklahoma City, OK; we now offer monthly events in over 80 US cities!

Work With Pre-Dating - Become an Event Coordinator

If you are interested in playing matchmaker and adding a new adventure and challenge to your life (part time).

Please apply online HERE!

(http://www.pre-dating.com/coordinator.php3)

We Are Currently Looking For An Event Coordinator in the Following Cities, and MORE!

• Lansing, MI
• Miami, FL

• Fort Myers/ Naples, FL

• Portland, OR

...And other event locations available!

QUOTE OF THE MONTH

"Dating is about finding out who you are and who others are. If you show up in a masquerade outfit, neither is going to happen."

-HENRY CLOUD

CRAZY DATING FACT OF THE MONTH

A great way to show someone you’re interested in them is to mirror what they do.

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Event Coordinator Spotlight – Ann, Cincinnati, OH
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Roy's Relationship Corner
FREE Pre-Dating Teleseminar: "50
Questions Before you Say "I DO", and 5 Key Questions Everyone Should Ask On The First Date"
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Pre-Dating Event Coordinator

SPOTLIGHT

Ann, from Cincinnati, OH

What got you interested in being an Event Coordinator (EC) for Pre-Dating?

I originally became interested in becoming an EC after attending several local speed dating events as a customer. On~line dating wasn't effective for me, and I really liked the process of speed dating. They say you know if you are attracted to someone within 45 seconds...and meeting 6~12 other professional singles in one evening was an efficient process.

What ONE Unique or Extra Thing do You Do at Your Events to Make Them More Enjoyable?

Because I have experienced both sides of this business...I can identify with my customers and advise on what generates success with speed dating.

Also...I go the extra mile to make sure that I create a comfortable and interactive environment for my participants. That is critical in effort for them to maximize their speed dating experience. No question that it is important to be professional...it is equally as important to be "real" with your customers...they respect that.

What is Your Favorite Success Story?

Success stories...that's a tough one because unless my customers contact me with feedback and updates...I am out of the loop. I do know of one couple who met at my very first event back in April of 2008. They were later married in June of 2010. That certainly is the ultimate success story. Over time I have had some other couples who have dated anywhere from 3 months ~ 3 years. All of those are success stories in their own right...even if the end result was not marriage.

What TIPS do You Have for Attendees of Speed Dating Events?

I always make it a point in my opening speech at the beginning of each event to advise my participants to share some unique information about themselves. It makes for interesting conversation...and other speed daters will remember him/her. Also...I strongly advise to refrain from "interview" format as no one likes to be interviewed at a social event like that.

The biggest mistake I know attendees make repeatedly is that they don't follow up with their matching results in a timely manner after the "Pre~Dating" event. Timely follow up with your matches is critical for success of the entire process. If too much time passes after the event with no communication...the interest level of participants declines significantly.

Q&A FORUM:

Questions From Other Singles Like You

Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them? Some other people did as well and here are their questions to us.

If you have a question, simply email us at Questions@Pre-Dating.com and if selected for our next Newsletter you’ll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.

QUESTION #1:

Hi Pre-Dating,

I am feeling a bit out of the loop on the dating scene. I have been divorced now for 6 months, and I am now in my 40's. I have not dated since I was in my teens, and boy, has the dating scene changed. There are almost too many options, and it is a bit intimidating. I feel a bit lost in the "dating circus", what do you suggest?

Answer from Pre-Dating:

Dear "Lost",

I get this question ALL the time from folks that are in the same boat as you. Dating, up until the mid 90's was, in essence, traditional.

Many singles who are jumping back into the "dating pool" after a divorce or long term relationship are now shocked at the kaleidoscope of options consistently being thrown at them. So, the initial question is that comes to mind is; what avenue does one take?

My best recommendation, is try them all! Online dating has it's perks, as does speed-dating, lock and key events, or event meetup events all held locally.

Now, the bigger question is, which company should one choose?

The first thing you should look at is online reviews. Certain things, you want to take with a grain of salt, as most people would rather say something negative then positive. For example, if you are looking at a review, and someone says "This service sucks, I can not find a match", well, no one knows what this person looks like, or what this person is looking for, etc. However, if you see a review that critiques the overall quality of the event or site, this should raise a red flag, especially if there is not a comment from a staff member following the negative review trying to resolve the issue. Again, reviews are not always accurate, so, even if there is a red flag, you should contact their customer service team to see what they say about the review, and if this is an accurate assessment of their service. Look- all companies, including Pre-Dating get's bad reviews, it's a fact, however, the difference is, what is that company going to do with the feedback? Everyone, even businesses, make mistakes, but the most successful people and companies take those mistakes and learn from them. That's one reason Pre-Dating has been around over 11 years, because we're always improving our event experience, our training, our systems, our marketing, all so we can help people connect in a fun and efficient way.

The second element you should consider is how quickly customer service gets back to you. Is there a phone number or an email address that is easily accessible on the site? Most online dating companies and event companies make contacting an actual person difficult. Why? To save money on staffing, of course. But at the end of the day, this does not help YOU.

The final element we will discuss that you should look into is their guarantee or refund policy. If there is no guarantee or refund policy, is this something you really want to do? You are investing money into your relationship future, what is said company doing to ensure that your investment is fulfilled?

All that being said, at the end of the day, yes, the dating world has changed significantly over the last 20 years. No longer are we meeting people via traditional methods. So, get out there and have fun with it, but make sure to be smart with your money and your choices.

QUESTION #2:

Dear Pre-Dating,

I am going to be blunt here, when is too early for a sexual relationship with someone I am interested in?

Answer from Pre-Dating:

Dear "Anxious":

Great question! But there is no "right" answer for this, so, instead of answering with a "2nd date", or "3rd date", we want to evaluate where you are in your relationship.

Let's get one thing out of the way... How long have you known the person? Not a concrete determining factor of when to have sex with someone, but if this is your first date, and you don't know the person very well, or if at all, it's probably not wise to jump in the sack. Sexual chemistry happens pretty much immediately, but if there is no trust or any foundation to the relationship, you will most likely never hear from the person again. However, if you have known the person for some time, sex on the first date can work. Still not recommended, but it can work.

So, let's assume that you have already had your first, maybe even second date with the person, and now you want to get more intimate. Great, but you need to first think to yourself, "How well do I know this person?", "Do I trust them enough to have sex?" (yes, men, think about this too!). Again, having some kind of foundation is vital before any kind of sexual activity. If you have that, then we go into a whole other subject.

Does the person you want to "make woopie" with, feel the same way? There is nothing wrong with talking about sex, in fact, it is healthy. Sure, maybe a bit nerve-wracking, but it is a critical communiqué you should share. At the end of the day, you should feel comfortable talking about sex with your partner, if you can't talk about it, how are you going to be comfortable in the act of sex? Make sure to listen to the other person, their fears, their resistance, or their openness.

Lastly, what if they turn you down? What's next? The best answer I have for you is, if you truly have feelings for this person, just wait. Do not hound the person, but instead, focus on the important elements of a strong foundation; trust, communication, humor and respect.

Roy's Relationship Corner:

Questions Women Ask About Love, Sex and Dating

Roy Biancalana

Author and Relationship Coach

Below are frequently asked questions I receive from my female clients. I thought I’d share a bit of how I answer such questions. Reach out to me if you’d like to discuss these or other questions. I offer a complimentary session to anyone (men too) who is interested in working with me.

Why do men stop calling? Why can't they at least tell you that they aren't interested instead of dropping off the planet? And why do I keep attracting men like this?!

My Answer:

The dictionary defines moron as, “any guy who chooses not to pursue an amazing woman when he meets one.” In my profession, vanishing men are called, “Disappearing Insensitive Communicators”, or, DIC’s, for short. It’s obvious that these DIC’s just aren’t into you. Don’t take it personally.

Frankly, would knowing why a guy’s disappeared make a difference? What are you going to do? Change yourself to make him like you? Maybe the DIC doesn’t call because he’s married; maybe he’s intimidated by you, or maybe he resents women because his mommy put his diapers on too tight! Who knows! And honestly, who cares? He’s not your kind of guy. He’s a DIC. Your kind of guy wants you! Trying to figure out why some men do the things they do is useless.

But asking why you attract disappearing men is a very brave and valuable question. I suggest you explore one strong possibility.

The most basic law of love is that opposites attract. Since you’re attracting “splitters,” men who run off or split, you may be a “clinger.” Is there any neediness in you? Do you have a strong desire to attach? Are you obsessed with finding love? Are you putting out the “you complete me” vibe? Your results indicate that you are. Women who cling always attract men who run. They go together like cookies and milk. But when you realize that you are a goddess, that you are whole, complete and in need of nothing—especially a man—in that moment, you will begin attracting honest, emotionally available men who want nothing more than to be with you.

FREE Dating Teleseminar:

"50 Questions Before you Say "I DO", and 5 Key Questions Everyone Should Ask On The First Date"

With Joshua Fredenburg, Author and Motivational Speaker

~FREE~

Tuesday, December 4th, 2012

8:30PM EST

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In This Special (and free) Teleseminar Joshua Will Discuss

Discover 5 important “Questions” that every individual must ask on the first date!

Find out how to identify the right relationship partner!

Learn about the key components that lead to a healthy and sustainable relationship!

Find out why some relationships fail and others do not!

Leave the session with practical and applicable relationship strategies that will help you become more effective at finding the right partner.

About our Speaker:

Joshua Fredenburg is a National Speaker, Author, and Relationship/Leadership Expert. For the past seven years, Joshua has appeared as a television guest on the Daily Buzz Morning Show, BET, the Wayne Brady Show, the KTLA Morning Show in Los Angeles, and many other familiar radio and television programs throughout the country. He has also served as a dynamic Keynote Speaker in 40 different states for lectures, leadership conferences, retreats, and trainings at high schools, colleges, and corporate events.

In addition to his successful speaking and television career, Joshua has published four books with his newest relationship book entitled, “50 Questions Before You Say I Do”. He also has developed an annual national leadership conference, Circle of Change Leadership Conference, that prepares student leaders in college for executive-level leadership positions after graduation and connects student leaders with executives from companies such as Pepsi, Columbia Pictures, Hewlett Packard, CNN, Fox Searchlight Productions, UPS, VH-1, Nestle, and American Airlines, to name a few. Joshua also mentors and coaches student leaders throughout the country, writes a popular monthly newsletter on issues that revolve around leadership and relationships, is pursuing a PhD in Organizational Leadership at Nova Southeastern College, and serves on the Board of Directors for the Lois Swan Leadership Center at California State University, Long Beach.

As a Keynote Speaker, Joshua has been well received by audiences for his amazing energy, inspiring and engaging messages, insightful wisdom and knowledge about leadership, and strong commitment to helping emerging leaders become great leaders for the 21st Century. He has also been very popular among high school and college audiences because of his positive attitude, exciting presentations, authentic message, and strong ability to connect and make his message relatable to diverse audiences throughout the country.

To learn more about Joshua, visit his personal website at www.visionxy.com. To learn more about his newest book on relationships, visit his personal website at www.50questions.org.

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FREE Pre-Dating Teleseminar

December 4th

50 Questions Before you Say "I DO", and 5 Key Questions Everyone Should Ask On The First Date"

With Author, and Motivational Speaker, Joshua Fredenburg

Tuesday, December 4th, 2012 at 8:30PM EST

– Free-

RSVP HERE NOW!

In this Free Dating Teleseminar

Joshua Will Discuss:

Discover 5 important “Questions” that every individual must ask on the first date!

Find out how to identify the right relationship partner!

Learn about the key components that lead to a healthy and sustainable relationship!

Find out why some relationships fail and others do not!

Leave the session with practical and applicable relationship strategies that will help you become more effective at finding the right partner.

RSVP HERE NOW!

Featured Testimonial

My boyfriend and I just celebrated our one year anniversary, and it reminded me to write and thank you for hosting the pre-dating event last September at Fox and Hound in Winston Salem. We met at that event and have dated seriously ever since! This year has been the best ever, and I adore my boyfriend. I'm sure that I never would have met him if it hadn't been for you coordinating that event.

Thanks, so much!"

- Jen (Greensboro, Oct 2012)

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit

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EXPANSION NEWS:

New Pre-Dating.com Cities!

GREAT NEWS! With the recent addition of Karla in Albany, NY; we now offer monthly events in over 80 US cities!

Work With Pre-Dating - Become an Event Coordinator

If you are interested in playing matchmaker and adding a new adventure and challenge to your life (part time).

Please apply online HERE!

(http://www.pre-dating.com/coordinator.php3)

We Are Currently Looking For Event Coordinator in the Following Cities, and MORE!

• Lansing, MI
• Miami, FL

• Fort Myers/ Naples, FL

• Portland, OR

...And other event locations available!

QUOTE OF THE MONTH

If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on.

-Steve Jobs

CRAZY DATING FACTS OF THE MONTH

Men find it difficult to approach a large group of women. The best way to land a date on a night out, is to seperate yourself from your group of friends.

About Pre-Dating

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October 2012

IN THIS NEWSLETTER:

Sent to over 100,000 singles!

Event Coordinator Spotlight – Dora, Minneapolis, MN
Q&A Forum From Singles Just Like You!
Pre-Dating in the Press: Zombie Speed Dating!
Expansion News
Featured Client Reviews
Roy's Relationship Corner
ARTICLE: "Dating Do's and Don'ts"
FREE Pre-Dating Teleseminar: "Quick Glance, Eye Contact, Now What? To Approach, or Not to Approach (and How to Approach)... That is The Question!" With Guest Speaker, Dr. Nancy H. Wall, Certified Life Coach and MatchMaker.
Crazy Dating Fact of the Month
Quote of the Month

Did You Know?

Pre-Dating has Served over 20,000 singles in 2012 alone!
Out of over 20,000 singles served in 2012, over 18,000 people were picked by someone to meet again!
This newsletter is viewed by over 100,000 singles, who, like you, enjoy learning about how to better their relationships!

Pre-Dating Event Coordinator

SPOTLIGHT

Dora, from Minneapolis, MN

What got you interested in being an Event Coordinator (EC) for Pre-Dating?

I started when Speed dating first hit the singles scene. I liked being a part of something so new and progressive. I love giving people the opportunity to meet other singles with the same goals. I also love being a part of a phenomena which is helping singles learn to be honest about what they want as well as learning that when there is no match, it just means that it wasn't a good fit. Singles are accepting that it is not rejection and it doesn't make you unlovable. I believe a more proactive and honest approach to relationships is a direct result of speed dating.

What ONE Unique or Extra Thing do You Do at Your Events to Make Them More Enjoyable?

I like to make sure the attendees have Mints, candles and flowers. I also like to make sure they know I care who they are. If someone registers as, say Jennifer, I will try to ascertain if they prefer, Jenny, Jen or Jennifer and reflect that on their name badge.

What is Your Favorite Success Story?

A Client reported to me that her friend met her partner at my event, and they just had a Baby, named Christina.

What is Your Favorite Venue and Why?

My favorite venue is Erte`, I had my first event there and then events there every month for 10 years. The bar regulars call it "Dora's Date night"

What TIPS do You Have for Attendees of Speed Dating Events?

Wear something that makes you feel comfortable and good about yourself. Keep conversations light and smile, smile, smile. Oh yeah, and for heavens sake, have a beverage while speed dating, nothing is worse then dry mouth and bad breath from talking non-stop for a couple hours!

Q&A FORUM:

Questions From Other Singles Like You

Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them? Some other people did as well and here are their questions to us.

If you have a question, simply email us at Questions@Pre-Dating.com and if selected for our next Newsletter you’ll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.

QUESTION #1:

Hi Pre-Dating,

Ok, so, I have tried Speed Dating, Online Dating, Singles Mixers, and the bar scene. I have met some GREAT women, and even have dated a few of them. My issue is, I am in my 40's, and I have yet to feel the "Spark" like I did when I met my ex wife in my 20's. How do I get that back? Will I ever get those "Butterflies" again?

Answer from Pre-Dating:

Dear "Sparks",

I have a few questions for you to start off. Are you still emotionally jaded by your divorce? Do you often bring up your divorce in conversation? And finally, do you find your mind wondering to your ex-wife or do you constantly compare your dates to your ex-wife when on dates?

The reason I ask this, is if you are still emotionally attached to your previous marriage, that "Spark" will not be as easily found.

If you answered "no" to the questions above, GREAT! This means you ARE emotionally ready to pursue love, and yes, that "Spark" will come. Dating is truly a numbers game, and when you are younger, your mind is more "open" and you are not "concrete" in your ways, which makes the "Spark" a bit easier to find. Now, in your 40's, that spark is not as easily found due to the fact that you have your life together, and you have your mind set on most, if not all aspects of your current life standards.

Now, the "Butterflies" you mention may or may not come, regardless of the presence of the inherent "spark". The "science" behind the "butterflies" has to do with your nerves and confidence level due to the fear of rejection you may experience more often in your teens and 20's. With the assumption that you are pretty confident in where you are in life and your expectations are set appropriately for what you are looking for, "butterflies" or, that "nervous/ anxious" feeling you get when pursuing someone may no longer apply. Sure- you will be nervous or anxious at first, this is absolutely normal, regardless of your self esteem, however, the heightened anxiety you feel as a teen/ 20 something, often referred to as "butterflies" often times does not present itself later in life.

QUESTION #2:

Dear Pre-Dating,

I am a lesbian, and think the LGBT community needs speed dating as well! Do you plan to hold any events for the LGBT community?

Answer from Pre-Dating:

Dear "LGBT Community":

Absolutely! In Fact, over the last 3 years, we have been collecting data from folks who have signed up for our email lists so we can determine what kind of special interest, or "Niche" events our clientele want to attend.

Our plan, is to review this data so our local Event Coordinators can determine the interest of said special interest event, in order to specifically market to those who have already expressed interest in that type of event.

You see, at Pre-Dating, we have an extremely high "Hold Rate" for our events (higher then any other speed-dating event company in the US), meaning, we do anything we can to make sure our events hold, and are not postponed.

Prior to this software upgrade we are working on, we would be "shooting in the dark" for special interest events, such as Gay and Lesbian, African American, or even Tall Men, Tall Women events (along with over 30 other special interest events).

Essentially, we had NO way to determine who in our local database was within a certain demographic or interest group. If we did try to hold a special interest event, the outside marketing time we would have to spend, was almost not worth the money made, or the frustration of filling the event.

Stay tuned, depending on your area, we will be posting events that will fit your specific need in a hope that we can cater to every persons interest, nationwide.

Roy's Relationship Corner:

3 More Reasons To Dump Him (or Her)

Roy Biancalana

Author and Relationship Coach

In the last installment of this newsletter, I gave three reasons any woman (or man) should dump the person they’re dating. (If you’re a guy, just reverse the language to make it work for you, for everything I’m saying applies to men dumping women too.)

Reviewing, we said a grounded woman would never put up with, (1) Being drunk dialed, (2) Broken agreements, and (3) A man talking about his ex all the time. We mentioned that a scarcity mentality, the belief that there aren’t many good men in the world, makes one put up with and/or settle for things they shouldn’t.

In this article, we continue by pointing out three more reasons to dump him (or her). Don’t continue to date someone if he:

4. Tells "white" lies frequently. Telling the truth is an absolute must in a relationship. We all know that. But too often we downplay the little "white" lies, thinking they're no big deal. (The skipper of the Titanic thought the little iceberg was no big deal either and you know how that turned out.) Deception is a dangerous sign no matter what size it comes in. If you catch your guy in a lie, especially if it's early in the relationship, run for the hills. It's not too much to expect the absolute truth from your man.

5. He's controlling, especially early in the relationship. A client of mine recently told me this story: She met this guy at the beach. They exchanged emails and had their first date two weeks later. On that initial date, she casually told him that she had a business dinner with a guy at work the following Monday. He said he was NOT comfortable with that at all. He said when he's with a woman, he's exclusive and expects her to be as well. (I'm not making this up.) She also mentioned that she had her gynecologist appointment that week (yes, I wondered why she was telling him that kind of stuff for on a first date too!) and he said he wasn't comfortable with that either. She wondered if that was appropriate. You can guess what I told her.

6. He's addicted to anything, including cigarettes. You cannot relate in a healthy way to an addict. Whether it's alcohol, drugs, gambling, porn, pot, pills, shopping, sweets, etc., you must walk away from a guy who's hooked on anything. You're headed for heartache if you budge on this.

Finally, let's wrap up with a tough question. Take a look at the six things listed. How many of these are you guilty of? Don't fall into the trap of thinking a great relationship depends on finding a great person. Make sure you're a great person. If you do any of the things listed above you'll never have a great relationship no matter how wonderful of a person you attract.

Article:

Dating Do's and Don'ts

By DiscoveryHealth.com

In today's world, many people feel that dating rules have changed - so much so that people are constantly looking for new guidelines. With today's dating styles as varied and eclectic as Elton John's wardrobe, it's difficult to draw any distinctions on the modern rules of love and dating.

We asked 17 single men and women, ages 19-35, what they think about the rules of dating in the 21st century.

Emily, a 29-year-old graduate student, says: "If there are rules, they are a non-conscious part of my ideology. I date such vastly different people, I don't even know what common thread would align them on the rules scale."

Many singles are finding themselves in the same situation, not knowing what rules apply to dating in the new millenium.

Sam, 24, confesses: "I can't read women anymore. Some women want men to act out the traditional chivalrous role. Others are extremely independent and are offended if you open the door for them."

Unfortunately, for Emily and Sam, the rules of dating may never be definitive, but there are still a few universal dos and don'ts of dating upon which many singles - and experts - can agree.

Cited Sourse:

http://health.howstuffworks.com/relationships/dating/dating-in-the-new-millennium.htm

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IN THIS NEWSLETTER:

Event Coordinator Spotlight – Khris, Westchester NY
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Roy's Relationship Corner
ARTICLE: Can Post-Breakup Facebook Surveillance Delay Emotional Recovery?
Pre-Dating Teleseminar: "What to Say, And Not To Say, While Dating" with Rosalind Sedacca and Amy Sherman
Crazy Dating Fact of the Month
Quote of the Month

Pre-Dating Event Coordinator

SPOTLIGHT

Khris from Weschester County, NY

What got you interested in being an Event Coordinator (EC) for Pre-Dating?

As a single person myself, I tried speed dating in new York City and really liked it. I began getting emails from Pre-Dating about being an EC in my territory, and thought it would be great in Westchester County, with so many singles who don't want to go to NYC to try it.

What ONE Unique or Extra Thing do You Do at Your Events to Make Them More Enjoyable?

I reprint questions from old THE DATING GAME shows and pass out to nervous 'first-timers' who need some conversation starters.

I also make it a point to introduce the ladies to the other ladies and the men to the other men PRE-EVENT so they can hang and feel more comfortable while we wait to start.

What is Your Favorite Success Story?

I had a woman who regularly signed up for my events, but always got nervous the afternoon of the events, and would often cancel last minute. I always convinced her that she HAD to come, if just to hang out with some other nice folks. Sure enough, she found Mr. Right. She always said she'd rather stay home with her pets and watch TV.

What is Your Favorite Venue and Why?

It's now the Black Bear Saloon in White Plains- EVERYONE knows it, they give us a great party room, and are super friendly to our customers. VERY IMPORTANT: they promote us heavily on the website and event calendar!

What TIPS do You Have for Attendees of Speed Dating Events?

* Allow extra time to find the venue and park

* Overdress by 10% and dress to impress the opposite sex

* Relax and have fun- don't be overly serious

* Don't be afraid to attend alone - lots of ladies do

Q&A FORUM:

Questions From Other Singles Like You

Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them? Some other people did as well and here are their questions to us.

If you have a question, simply email us at Questions@Pre-Dating.com and if selected for our next Newsletter you’ll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.

QUESTION #1:

Hi Pre-Dating,

I have to be honest, I feel a bit jaded after a divorce, and, since, two failed relationships; I wonder if I am better off being single. I feel like I cannot take one more heartbreak. What do you suggest?

Answer from Pre-Dating:

Dear "Jaded",

The most important thing to remember, is that dating is simply a "number game". Many people who have been in your shoes feel the same sense of rejection and heartbreak. You are NOT alone in these feelings, or the position you are currently in.

With that said, it does not hurt to take time off from being focused on being in a long term relationship. Personally speaking, I took 2 years 'off' from the dating pool as I needed to explore myself, and focus on me, and no one else. Personal exploration can help you in the realms of self admiration, independence and leave time to build friendships and career opportunities. What you may find surprising, is you may really enjoy the "single life", as you find that your priorities tend to shift in a different, more self driven manner. The hardest hurdle to cross is getting away from the "Co-Dependent" mentality and become "Independent", but in time, this will begin to become easier and easier.

Does this mean you should completely STOP dating? No- continue dating here and there, but stay focused on you, and not focused on diving into a relationship. Enjoy dating, don't make it a 'chore', as so many people tend to do. You only live once- why be negative, when you can change your mindset to be more positive and proactive?

QUESTION #2:

Dear Pre-Dating,

I recently met a women who is legally separated from her husband, so, she is technically still married, but we get along great, and things are getting more serious. is this a recipe for disaster? Am I setting myself up for heartbreak?

Answer from Pre-Dating:

Dear "Nervous":

Well, this is one question that has many answers and variables, which we will discuss in order to try and dissect your personal situation, along with others who might be out there questioning the same thing.

As you know, a legal separation is not yet a divorce, and technically, this woman is still married and NOT single. However, depending on the divorce, and the many different variables that come with a divorce (Emotions, Money, Property, etc), a finalized divorce can take years to sort out with all the legalities and financial aspects, especially if this person is coming out of an affluent marriage.

With that out of the way, lets look at your relationship with her.

The first item to discuss here, is the honesty factor. Have you and her had a serious and completely honest talk about the potential of furthering a long-term relationship while she is still technically married? I ask this, because your biggest question to yourself is, or should be, "Am I the Rebound?". If you have not already asked her this question point-blank, I would. See what her response is. Though people do not mean to "rebound", people who are fresh out of a relationship tend to want to jump right into another, as they feel the need to fill a void. This is NOT how you want to start a relationship, as all too often, you will be left heartbroken. It is very possible, however, that she has been living apart for some time, and the divorce is just taking a long time to finalize, which, in this case, she may have already had her "rebound" time.

The next variable, is who left who? Was it mutual? Or was it truly one sided? If it was mutual, most times, the divorce process will not include the emotional variables and the process tends to be much quicker. This now leaves the question, why not wait until everything is finalized? Now, if the divorce is one sided, this can cause the divorce process to be stretched over a greater time span, and regardless of who wanted the divorce, will most likely lead to a heightened emotional process. This should leave you with these questions, "Do I want to deal with this drama?" or "Is she really worth it?". Your answer may be "YES", or it may be "NO", this really comes down to how much you can take, and by expressing your honest feelings with her, listening to her responses and analyzing her feedback.

The last, and possibly most important issue to bring up to help in answering this question, is, are there kids in the mix? If there are, regardless of the mutual or one-sided status of the separation/ divorce, there will be a heightened emotional aspect due to the natural paternal instincts of parenthood. If there are children in the mix, there is a higher chance that this women will reconsider the divorce for her children’s happiness. Again, this will take a good, honest talk with her to find out where you stand moving forward.

In closing, while you are setting yourself up for potential heartache, in the dating world, you have to take educated and honest risks regardless of the scenario. If you and her can talk about your honest feelings and questions, as addressed above, and you can overlook the separation, you may want to pursue this. The number one concern you should have in moving forward with her is how you feel moving forward.

Roy's Relationship Corner:

3 Reasons To Dump Him (or Her)

Roy Biancalana

Author and Relationship Coach

From my observation, many women today have a scarcity mentality when it comes to men. That means they don't think there are many available, quality men in the world with whom they can connect.

A scarcity mentality sounds like this: "There are no good men out there, and if there are, they're gay or married." This belief, if left to fester and grow unchallenged, will lead to many self-destructive actions, not the least of which is the tendency to hang on to, and/or put up with, otherwise unacceptable behavior by the man in your life.

Imagine, however, if you believed that the world was filled with amazing, available, compassionate, sexy, evolved men. Would you then put up with any BS? Of course not. So the first thing a single woman has to address, if she wants to experience an amazing intimate love life is her scarcity mentality.

Getting at the core of the scarcity mentality, and letting it go, is beyond the focus of this piece, however. So for now, let's assume you didn't hold that belief at the center of your being. Let's assume you would immediately dump any man the minute he did any of the following things.

Now, the seven things I'm about to describe are the "little" things that women should view as "big" things. But if you are in the trance of the scarcity mentality, they won't bother you. But they should! Here are seven "little" things that are big red flags.

Dump him if:

1. He drunk dials you.

If your guy, or a guy who you think might have potential, calls you when he's hammered, this is a sign that he's a moron and incapable of having an adult, mature relationship. The "frat-boy" persona is okay if you're in college, but if you're older than 22, you want no part of a guy who thinks "Animal House" is a way of life.

2. He breaks his agreements with you. Simply put, a man is only as good as his word. Intimacy is built on trust. And if a guy makes promises, and frequently (that's a key word) breaks them he's revealing that he isn't trustworthy. If you can't trust that your guy will do what he says when he said he would do it, then there is no basis for any sort of a relationship. There must be a basic level of reliability and consistency to him and his word.

3. He talks about his ex all the time. If a guy is constantly talking about his ex, he's either still in love with her or he hates her. Either way, he's not complete with her. And until a guy is complete, finished and indifferent toward his ex, there is no room in his heart for you. Run from a guy who's still caught up in his past.

In next months issue of this newsletter, I’ll outline more reasons to dump him (or her!). Stay tuned.

Article:

Can Post-Breakup Facebook Surveillance Delay Emotional Recovery?

By ScienceDaily.com

More than 900 million people worldwide are active users of the social networking site Facebook, and it is estimated that as many as one-third report using Facebook to check on the activities of former romantic partners. The effects of remaining Facebook friends with an ex-lover or even just following their activities online can disrupt a person's ability to heal emotionally and move on with his or her life, according to an article in Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking.

The study entitled "Facebook Surveillance of Former Romantic Partners: Associations with PostBreakup Recovery and Personal Growth" assessed the effects of continued Facebook contact with an ex-partner and of Facebook surveillance, in which there is no actual online contact, but one individual monitors the Facebook page and postings of another.

The study collected data from 464 participants to evaluate their Facebook usage and their emotional recovery and personal adjustment following the breakup of a romantic relationship. It evaluated parameters such as negative feelings, sexual desire and emotional longing for the ex-partner, and feelings of reduced personal growth as measures of distress and the ability to move forward with their lives.

"This study sees again virtual life mirroring real life. Just as real life contact with ex-partners may inhibit growth, healing, and well-being, so may virtual contact," says Brenda K. Wiederhold, PhD, MBA, BCIA, Editor-in-Chief of Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking, from the Interactive Media Institute, San Diego, CA.

Cited Sourse:

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2012/09/120919124941.htm

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