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Feb. 2014

 

                                        

 

 

 

 

IN THIS NEWSLETTER:

 

Sent to over 135,000 Single Professionals!

 

  • Q&A Forum From Singles Just Like You!
  • Expansion News
  • Featured Client Review
  • Roy's Relationship Corner- Special FREE Offer for Roy's BRAND New Dating Advice Website!
  • FREE Pre-Dating Teleseminar: "Frustrated with Dating? Develop a Simple Action Plan" with Guest Speaker, Jo Ann Simmons
  • Crazy Dating Fact of the Month
  • Quote of the Month

 

Q&A  FORUM:

 

 

 

Questions From Other Singles Like You



Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them? Maybe just a relationship question in general? Some other people did as well and here are their questions to us.

 

If you have a question, simply email us at Questions@Pre-Dating.com and if selected for our next Newsletter you’ll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.


 

 

QUESTION #1:

 

Hi Pre-Dating,

 

I was curious to know, what kind of diversity do you have at your events? I am looking to date other african american's. 

 

Answer from Pre-Dating

 

Dear "Traditional",

 

This is one of our most popular questions! Actually, in some cities, where there is enough interest, we do hold interest-specific events, such as "African American Single Professionals". 

 

That said, all of our events tend to have a wonderful and diverse group of single professionals. Our best recommendation here, is to contact your local event coordinator, and ask what the local diversity is, as each city is different.

 

If your Event Coordinator does not have any events scheduled and you have the ability to help promote an event due to you having a database or connections to promote the event, let us know. We often partner with people on events geared toward a specific type of demographic to help make the event a great success.

 

We hope this helps! 

 

QUESTION #2:

 

 

Dear Pre-Dating,

 

I really want to try one of your upcoming events, but I have a set criteria for women I would want to date. I am nervous that I will not meet anyone who fits into my standards, thus wasting my time. What type of women tend to attend your events?

 

Answer from Pre-Dating

 

Dear "Mr. Picky":

 

The greatest part about speed dating is you never know who you are going to meet! The one thing you do know, is that the people you are going to meet are within a certain age range, and that they are local single professionals. The next greatest thing is, if the person you are talking to is not a fit, it's only 6 minutes, simply make the most of it and move on.

 

Now, per your 'criteria', as any true match maker will tell you, the first step of finding your best soulmate is to toss out your 50-point inspection list. We aren't buying a car here, we are looking for someone who is compatible with you. 

 

Step 2 to finding 'that someone special', is to narrow your list of criteria to 3 absolute "No's". For example, if you refuse to date a smoker, or you refuse to date someone who is not as athletically inclined as you, or maybe it's that you want to find someone who is financially stable enough to where you don't need to worry about carrying their weight. Whatever the 3 are, you now have a reasonable set of expectations that you are willing to seek out in someone. 

 

As men, we tend to also focus on the aesthetic components of everything, from cars, to homes, and to our potential love interests. It's human nature to do this. Do not sell yourself short by only looking at physical beauty. Some of the best matches that come out of any dating service are made due to both parties reevaluating what is important when seeking out a potential partner.

 

Roy's Relationship Corner

 

 

 

The Grinch, Little Max and

Holiday Stress"

 

 

 

My wife and I are perfect for each other and we have virtually nothing in common.

 

Most single people put “compatibility” very high on the list of qualities they’d most like to have in a life partner. Yet the longer I reflect on my own relationship and work with clients, the more I’m convinced that compatibility is completely overrated.

 

In my relationship coaching practice, I regularly hear clients dismiss potential partners because they don’t have much in common. Now, I applaud those who look for more than chemistry in a potential partner. Sometimes, when the knees go weak, the eyes go blind. But when we misunderstand compatibility, we walk away from the very people we should walk towards.

Let me tell you the ways in which my wife and I are completely incompatible.

 

First, she’s a woman. That right there is as incompatible as it gets! While John Gray’s book, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, is a bit elementary, the title accurately expresses how opposite the sexes are. Don’t underestimate the significance of this point. The masculine and feminine energies have completely different purposes and priorities.

 

But that’s not the only way my wife and I are incompatible. She’s also family-oriented, while I rarely speak to anyone in my family, other than my son. I’m athletic and extremely competitive; she has zero interest in playing or watching sports.

I’m feisty; she’s calm. I’m out-spoken and opinionated; she’s quiet and sees all sides. She’s the Tortoise; I’m the Hare. I seek the public eye; she prefers the background. I like to go out; she’s a home-body. She keeps track of everything on an Excel spread sheet; I never balance my checkbook. I’m goal-oriented and driven; she’s content.

 

Now, we both like movies, and our idea of a good time is sitting outside at a restaurant, having a drink and talking. Except, even that’s not true. She rarely drinks, while I enjoy beer, wine and occasionally Grey Goose.

 

Having said that, we’re perfect for each other. Why? Because we’re compatible in the only three areas that really matter: life-style, life-purpose and life-commitments.

 

In this month’s newsletter, I’ll cover the first one and I’ll cover the other two in the next newsletter.

 

Life-Style

 

For many years, I was a professional golfer, traveling 35 weeks out of the year. That’s a lifestyle, folks, and many careers are like that. If you’re a small business owner or an entrepreneur, that’s a life style. It’s the same if you’re in the ministry, politics, entertainment or corporate America. Even being a “DINK” (double income no kids) is a lifestyle, as is the traditional suburban life of house, picket fence and 2.1 kids.

 

My wife and I are perfectly compatible on the overall life style we want to live. This is the first area of life where compatibility is critical.

 

Don’t worry too much about whether or not a potential partner likes to travel, play golf or go antiquing. Even if such things are important to you, that kind of compatibility isn’t essential. What is essential is that you both want the same kind of life.

Please reach out to me at Coaching with Roy if you want to talk about what really matters when it comes to being compatible.

 

 

 

Special FREE Offer from Roy Biancalana:

 

 

I know how challenging, and even how depressing it can be to find your ideal partner in today’s frenzied and disconnected world. That’s why I’ve partnered with Pre-Dating.com to bring you my popular video-based eCourse, “Finding Love On-Line: From Horror Stories to Love Stories”absolutely FREE.

 

You'll learn what the masters of Internet dating know - as I show you how to avoid horror stories and create love stories online. It’s a $200 value, but it’s free to all Pre-Dating clients this week.

 

CLICK HERE to start your free eCourse.

 

 

FREE Dating Teleseminar:

 

"Dating in the Digital Age: 6 Smart Strategies to Succeed in the Dating Scene"

 

With Life Coach, and Author Roy Biancalana

~FREE~

 

Tuesday, Feb. 4th, 2014

 

8:30PM EST

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 

Coach and Author Roy Biancalana will show you how to:

  • Avoiding players, pretenders and phonies           
  • What to say in the first 10 minutes
  • What to do when you keep picking the wrong partners
  • How to make smart sexual choices
  • Essential elements of compatibility
  • Signs the relationship should end

 

About Our Speaker- Roy Biancalana
 

Roy Biancalana: is known as "The Intimacy Guru," and is a nationally recognized leader in the field of attraction, intimacy and conscious relationships. He appears regularly on Fox35 TV in Orlando, FL as their relationship expert and is the author of the book, "A Drink with Legs" sold worldwide.

 

Roy is a certified relationship coach, spiritual teacher and was a PGA Tour player. His passion is working with men and women who are committed to awakening to their true spiritual nature and experiencing the love life they most desire. He specializes in supporting single people in attracting the love of their lives and also helping those who are in committed partnerships experience a deeper level of intimacy. He has clients all over the world and coaches by phone, Skype or in person.

 

 

 
***PLUS RSVP NOW TO RECEIVE THIS FREE BONUS***

  • A chance to win one of 5 free books
  • A chance to Win a free 4-hour video eCourse
  • 1 Free 30-minute coaching sessions for all

 

Tuesday, Feb. 4th, 2014

 

8:30PM EST

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 


 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit

www.Pre-Dating.com

 

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

 

You are receiving this Newsletter because you have either been to or registered for a Pre-Dating Speed Dating (formerly Cupid.com/PreDating) event in the past, have requested and currently receive our twice monthly event schedule notifications for your city, or have interacted with one of our Event Coordinators at a networking event, trade show, etc. and requested to be kept in the loop. We only send emails to those who request them (what's the value of sending stuff to people who never asked for it anyway?). If you no longer wish to receive our emails, follow the instructions below. Keep in mind by opting out of our National Newsletter, you also opt out of our local singles event schedule email notifications.

 

FREE Dating Teleseminar

March 4th, 2014

 

"Frustrated with Dating?"

Develop a Simple Action Plan!

 

 

With Guest Speaker, Jo Ann Simmons, Author and Relationship Coach.

 

Tuesday, March 4th, 2014 at 8:30PM EST

 

– Free-

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

IN THIS FREE TELESEMINAR You Will:

  • Clear away frustration
  • Identify what you really want
  • Make a commitment to yourself
  • Take small action steps that work
  • Use your strengths to create success

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

Featured Testimonial

 

 

Hi Angie (Orange County, CA event coordinator)

 

My name is Kate. I don't know if you remember me. One year ago today, you sent out a last minute email for a Speed Dating event that night because a few women had canceled. Since I'd had such a great experience at my first Pre-Dating Speed Dating event a few months earlier and I didn't have any plans that night, I decided to go last minute.

 

That ended up being the BEST decision of my life! I ended up meeting the love of my life that night! I went out on dates with a few of my matches, but one man, Akaash, slowly became more special than the others. Now, one year later, we're still madly in love. He got a job in the Bay Area last summer, so we did the long distance thing for several months, but I just moved up here a couple weeks ago. We've never been happier! Whenever I ask Akaash how I got to be so lucky to be his girlfriend, he always reminds me that, "We can thank those 3 girls who dropped out of the Speed Dating event." Needless to say, we both tell our single friends to try Pre-Dating Speed Dating. Thanks so much for coordinating the event that brought Akaash and me together!

 

Sincerely,

Kate

 

(Orange County, Feb. 2014)

 

 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit

www.Pre-Dating.com

 

 

877-i-PreDate

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EXPANSION NEWS:

 

 

 New Pre-Dating.com Cities!


GREAT NEWS!  With the recent addition of Martine in Greenbay, WI, we now offer monthly events in over 90 US and Canadian cities!
 
Work With Pre-Dating - Become an Event Coordinator

If you are interested in playing matchmaker and adding a new adventure and challenge to your life (part time).

 

 

Please apply online HERE!

 

(http://www.pre-dating.com/coordinator.php3)

 

We Are Currently Looking For An Event Coordinator in the Following Cities, and MORE! 

  

•    Atlanta, GA
•    Portland, OR

•    Baton Rouge, LA

 

...And other event locations available!

 

 

QUOTE OF THE MONTH

 

 

"You don't develop courage by being happy in your relationships everyday. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity."

 

-Epicurus (Philosopher)

 

 

 

CRAZY DATING FACT OF THE MONTH

 

 

When a man starts texting a woman less, it usually means he's happy with the relationship. Men who are happy tend to talk with their partners more (and therefore have fewer reasons to text).

 

SOURCE: Journal of Couple & Relationship Therapy

About Pre-Dating

 

Pre-Dating Speed Dating is the world's largest Speed Dating service for busy single professionals with monthly events in over 90 cities. If you have a busy life and don't have time to meet new people, don't like to date clients or co-workers, and are not interested in the bar scene then try Pre-Dating Speed Dating.

 

 

Contact Us

 

National Customer Service Loyalty Team

 

Email: Service@Pre-Dating.com

 

Phone:1-877-iPreDate (877-477-3328)

 

Hours: Open 7 Days a Week!

 

Monday-Thursday: 9AM-10PM (EST)

Friday: 9AM-5PM (EST)

Saturday: 10AM-2PM (EST)

Sunday: 3PM-6PM (EST)

 

Follow us on FacebookTwitter and YouTube!

 

   

 

 

 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit:

 

www.Pre-Dating.com

 

 

 

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

 


www.Pre-Dating.com

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

Jan. 2014

 

                                        

 

 

 

 

IN THIS NEWSLETTER:

 

Sent to over 135,000 Single Professionals!

 

  • The "I Love Pre-Dating Photo Contest", Win a Night Out for 2, and More!
  • Q&A Forum From Singles Just Like You!
  • Expansion News
  • Featured Client Review
  • Roy's Relationship Corner- Special FREE Offer for Roy's BRAND New Dating Advice Website!
  • FREE Pre-Dating Teleseminar: "Dating in the Digital Age" with Guest Speaker, Roy Biancalana
  • Crazy Dating Fact of the Month
  • Quote of the Month

 

 

 

 

Win a Night Out For 2 On Us!

 

 

Simply take a photo of yourself with Pre-Dating Signage, "Like" our Official FaceBook Page and post it to our contest page. Then, get your friends to vote for your image!

 

www.Facebook.com/PreDating

 

__________________________

 

You and a Friend can win a Night Out in your town on us!

 

Plus, 10 Other Second Prize Winners will receive a

FREE Pre-Dating Speed Dating Event! 

 

__________________________

 

 

 

Good luck, and Happy Dating!

 

 

Q&A  FORUM:

 

 

 

Questions From Other Singles Like You



Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them? Maybe just a relationship question in general? Some other people did as well and here are their questions to us.

 

If you have a question, simply email us at Questions@Pre-Dating.com and if selected for our next Newsletter you’ll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.


 

 

QUESTION #1:

 

Hi Pre-Dating,

 

I am extremely frustrated, there are so many different options for singles these days, each costing $20+ a month, whether it be online or for events. At the end of the day, what do you recommend, it seems like I will have to spend $100+ a month just to meet someone these days!

 

Answer from Pre-Dating

 

Dear "Goin' Broke for Love",

 

I have to say, this is one of the questions we receive quite often. In a market so saturated by fly-by-night start ups, to legitimate online dating businesses that are filled with scam artists, all the way up to the Eharmony's, Date.com's and Match.com's, what is your best option? 

 

My best recommendation is to select one of each of the following: 

 

    - One premium dating website (this would be an eHarmony.com, a MatchMaker.com or Match.com that guarantee's their results- of course, read the guarantee first before agreeing to pay them)

 

    - One FREE dating website (this would be OkCupid.com, or for those with smart phones: Tindr (straight)/ Grindr (Gay).)  

 

    - One event a month with a trusted, reputable events business. Review their guarantee policy- if you do not get a match, or meet anyone suitable for you, you should get a FREE future event.

 

The reason I recommend the above, is you will not be investing hundred's of dollars a month, at the very most, it should be somewhere in the ballpark of $50-$70/ month. Do not fall into the abyss of solely online dating- you may be disappointed by the results as opposed to a dating event where you actually get to meet people face to face. The best way is to do a good mix. 

In this modern age of dating, many of us are so frustrated with what avenue to use, and being single can certainly burn a hole in your pocket! If you are planning on attending an event, call or email your local representative and see if they are offering any discounts; For online dating, consider doing a longer term membership, you can save up to 50% and sometimes more (rather then the high month-to-month fees).

 

Lastly, don't get frustrated, follow the above, and see what you get! There are so many wonderful people to meet in your local area, just be wise with your decision making. Happy Dating!

 

QUESTION #2:

 

Hi Pre-Dating,

 

I am a 57 year old man who is looking to meet women in their 30's or 40's, however, I see all of your event in my age group are 50+, what gives?

 

Answer from Pre-Dating

 

Dear "Young At Heart",

 

As you can probably imagine, this is one of the most commonly asked questions, and yes, we offer special interest events from time to time which include "younger women / older men" and conversely "younger men / older women" and these events cover various age differences.

 

While many people say "age is just a number" at the same time, some people do have preferences relating to the age of those they date (both younger or older) and for a variety of reasons. 

One thing some people don't know until they actually attend one of our events is that for most events more men tend to be at the upper end of the age range, while more women tend to be at the lower end of the age range. So if you saw we had an event for single professionals ages 49-59, then on average, most women would be closer to 49 while most men would be closer to 59. There are of course some women and men in the upper or lower part of the range respectively, but our statistics show men trend older while women trend lower within a posted age range for an event.

 

So what does this mean to Mr. Young At Heart? It means if you don't see a special event for younger women / older men, you should still consider attending an event based on what we've stated in our answer to you, plus you can always email your EC to see if you can squeeze into an event even if you are slightly outside the age range (as we do allow for up to a 5 year age variance for all events).

 

Roy's Relationship Corner

 

 

 

Mulligans, Resolutions and the New Year"

Holiday Stress"

 

 

 

Are you familiar with the golf term, mulligan? It means a “do-over.” In golf, it’s a chance to replay a shot you didn’t like. As a new year begins, you might want a mulligan of sorts in your life, a do-over, only we call it a New Year’s Resolution. Making a resolution that sticks and transforms your life has three components: Awareness, Alignment, and Assistance.

 

Awareness

 

The real issue when it comes to resolutions is not making them, but keeping them. And in my experience, we don’t keep our resolutions because we lack long-term motivation. Why does that happen? Well, when it’s happened in my life, it’s because the desired change didn’t come from me, but from someone or somewhere else.

 

That “someone else” can be our partner, doctor, trainer, therapist, friend or even the culture in general. Yet the sneakiest “someone else,” is our ego. Often we want to change some aspect of our lives for attention, approval, or to impress or even control others.

 

I have found that if the motivation for change doesn’t originate from within us, no permanent transformation will take place. Your resolutions have to be YOUR resolutions. How can you tell the difference? Well, if you hear the word “should” coming out of your mouth (“I should quit smoking, etc.), you can be sure that your resolution is being motivated by other people, the culture or your ego, and therefore, it will eventually fail.

 

So when I say “awareness,” I don’t mean being aware of what you want to change, that’s easy enough. The key is being aware of why you want to change. Don’t bother making a resolution that doesn’t come from your deepest Self. It won’t last.

 

Alignment

 

The next step in seeing your resolutions last is to align everything in your life around realizing your resolution. Your checkbook, schedule, refrigerator, garbage can, closets, bed and conscience must reflect your commitment.

 

And conversely, you must not allow anything into your emotional or physical space that tempts you or distracts you from what you want. Everything and anybody that competes for, or is in conflict with, your commitment must go.

 

Zero tolerance. Zero compromise. Zero exits. You must vigilantly be on the lookout for people, places, things, choices, beliefs and attitudes that can derail your resolution.

 

Assistance

 

The last component is assistance (or coaching). And let me be clear that I do not mean accountability. Accountability is necessary when you are trying to keep “someone else’s” resolutions. My 15 year old needs to be held accountable for his homework because he doesn’t want to do it. But an adult doesn’t need to be held accountable for things he or she truly wants to do. Accountability is a sign of immaturity. It is for those living “someone else’s” life.

 

Assistance (coaching) is necessary to ensure that a person’s resolutions are truly theirs and that they align everything in their life with them. It also helps with what’s called, The Upper Limit Problem. Space prohibits a full discussion of the Upper Limit Problem, but suffice it to say that we have a curious habit of unconsciously sabotaging our own success. Most people need assistance with releasing self-sabotaging patterns and Coaching with Roy is all about that.

 

So, if you want your resolutions to stick this year, be aware of why you’re making a particular resolution, align everything in your life around it and unwind the Upper Limit Problem with Roy, Pre-Dating’s official relationship coach.

 

 

 

Special FREE Offer from Roy Biancalana:

 

 

I know how challenging, and even how depressing it can be to find your ideal partner in today’s frenzied and disconnected world. That’s why I’ve partnered with Pre-Dating.com to bring you my popular video-based eCourse, “Finding Love On-Line: From Horror Stories to Love Stories”absolutely FREE.

 

You'll learn what the masters of Internet dating know - as I show you how to avoid horror stories and create love stories online. It’s a $200 value, but it’s free to all Pre-Dating clients this week.

 

CLICK HERE to start your free eCourse.

 

 

FREE Dating Teleseminar:

 

"Frustrated with Dating?"

Develop a Simple Action Plan 

 

With Life Coach, and Author, Jo Ann Simmons

~FREE~

 

Tuesday, March 4th, 2014

 

8:30PM EST

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 

Would you build a house without a blue print? Go to the grocery store without a list? Ask someone to pay for your services without telling them what you offer? Probably not. The house you want to build will turn out better if you have a clear plan before you commit to having it built. So what is your action plan for pre-dating? Have you spent time thinking about what you really want? If you’ve seen friends find true love and feel left behind then this program is a great opportunity to make a dating plan -- and shift into effortless dating!

 

Learn 5 better ways to move forward in the dating world with action steps that prevent frustration and simple tools to make dating easier. One of the biggest challenges for singles today is deciding which of the numerous dating sites is best for you. Tune in to this call and learn how to simplify the dating venue decision once and for all!

 

In addition you’ll learn how to:

  • Clear away frustration
  • Identify what you really want
  • Make a commitment to yourself
  • Take small action steps that work
  • Use your strengths to create success

 

About Our Speaker – Jo Ann Simmons

 

Jo Ann Simmons holds a Master’s Degree in Counseling. She is a Certified Corporate Coach, author of Stop Looking and Let True Love Find You, an experienced world-wide Military Family Life Presenter and a Love and Relationship Coach with over twenty-five years of counseling experience. Her unique approach to relationship coaching has its roots in her musical background. As a young woman, she studied at the American Music and Dramatic Academy in New York City to follow a dream of being a professional singer. Jo Ann was successful in realizing her goal: becoming a member of the Serendipity Singers, appearing on Ed Sullivan, Johnny Carson, and a number of other national TV shows.

 

After touring with the singing group for several years, she moved to Florida to pursue a career in counseling and consulting. Today Jo Ann is passionate about helping singles meet their perfect love-match without struggle. Her system aligns “body, mind and spirit” to attract the wonderful relationship you’ve always dreamed about. She is the founder of http://SoulMateCoach.net, a website dedicated to helping single people find true love -- just as she did!

 

 

 
***PLUS RSVP NOW TO RECEIVE THIS FREE BONUS***

  • Finding Love at Any Age: MP3 Interview

  • A Chance to Win 1 of 5 Free Laser Coaching Sessions

  • Special Event-Only Pricing eCourses and Coaching

 

Tuesday, March 4th, 2014

 

8:30PM EST

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 


 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit

www.Pre-Dating.com

 

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

 

You are receiving this Newsletter because you have either been to or registered for a Pre-Dating Speed Dating (formerly Cupid.com/PreDating) event in the past, have requested and currently receive our twice monthly event schedule notifications for your city, or have interacted with one of our Event Coordinators at a networking event, trade show, etc. and requested to be kept in the loop. We only send emails to those who request them (what's the value of sending stuff to people who never asked for it anyway?). If you no longer wish to receive our emails, follow the instructions below. Keep in mind by opting out of our National Newsletter, you also opt out of our local singles event schedule email notifications.

 

FREE Dating Teleseminar

Feb. 4th, 2014

 

"Dating in the Digital Age"

6 Smart Strategies to Succeed in the Dating Scene​

 

 

With Guest Speaker, Roy Biancalana, Author and Relationship Coach.

 

Tuesday, Feb. 4th, 2014 at 8:30PM EST

 

– Free-

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

IN THIS FREE TELESEMINAR You Will:

  • Avoiding players, pretenders and phonies           
  • What to say in the first 10 minutes
  • What to do when you keep picking the wrong partners
  • How to make smart sexual choices
  • Essential elements of compatibility
  • Signs the relationship should end

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

Featured Testimonial

 

 

"I just wanted to let you know that you truly have a gem in Emma (Baltimore Pre-Dating Event Coordinator), she is lovely.

 

I met her at my first event back in December, and I will be seeing her again for another event in February, she is extremely professional and has amazing customer service skills.

 

I am so impressed with predating as a whole due to her kindness and patience.

 

She makes me feel very comfortable in a not so comfortable type situation.

 

Again, she is truly a wonderful person.

 

Cordially,

 

Kim"

 

(Baltimore, Jan. 2014)

 

 

 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit

www.Pre-Dating.com

 

 

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

 

 

 

 

EXPANSION NEWS:

 

 

 New Pre-Dating.com Cities!


GREAT NEWS!  With the recent addition of Lauren in Louisville, KY, we now offer monthly events in over 90 US and Canadian cities!
 
Work With Pre-Dating - Become an Event Coordinator

If you are interested in playing matchmaker and adding a new adventure and challenge to your life (part time).

 

 

Please apply online HERE!

 

(http://www.pre-dating.com/coordinator.php3)

 

We Are Currently Looking For An Event Coordinator in the Following Cities, and MORE! 

  

•    Atlanta, GA
•    Portland, OR

•    Baton Rouge, LA

 

...And other event locations available!

 

 

QUOTE OF THE MONTH

 

 

"Real magic in relationships means an absence of judgment of others."

 

-Wayne Dyer (Author)

 

 

 

CRAZY DATING FACT OF THE MONTH

 

 

The Midwest is more like a desert for single women… With the highest share of currently married men, the five states where single women will struggle the most to find a date are: Idaho, Iowa, Kansas, Utah and Nebraska. “These are states where people tend to grow up, stay around and settle down,” says Cohn. On one hand, it’s refreshing to see “sticky states” that maintain their hometown boys and girls. But on the other hand, without the influx of new singles into the mix, dating opportunities for women living in these states are pretty limited. 

 

Source:

http://www.match.com/en-
us/partner/xfinity/
article.html?trackingid=527992&
bannerid=1853041&articleid=13212

 

About Pre-Dating

 

Pre-Dating Speed Dating is the world's largest Speed Dating service for busy single professionals with monthly events in over 90 cities. If you have a busy life and don't have time to meet new people, don't like to date clients or co-workers, and are not interested in the bar scene then try Pre-Dating Speed Dating.

 

 

Contact Us

 

National Customer Service Loyalty Team

 

Email: Service@Pre-Dating.com

 

Phone:1-877-iPreDate (877-477-3328)

 

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IN THIS NEWSLETTER:

 

Sent to over 125,000 Single Professionals!

 

  • New Years Eve TWO DAY Sale!

  • Pre-Dating Gives Back: December Update
  • Q&A Forum From Singles Just Like You!
  • Expansion News
  • Featured Client Review
  • Special Partner TeleSummit: Are You Ready for Your Mr. Right?
  • Roy's Relationship Corner- Special FREE Offer for Roy's BRAND New Dating Advice Website!
  • FREE Pre-Dating Teleseminar: "Reinventing Yourself for New Dating Success in The New Year" with Guest Speakers, Rosalind Sedacca and Amy Sherman
  • Crazy Dating Fact of the Month
  • Quote of the Month

 

 

 

Happy New Years!

 

 

Pre-Dating Welcomes in 2014

 

With 25% Off your Next Registration!

 

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Happy New Years!

 

 

Offer(s) valid until 11:59pm (EST) Tuesday, December 31st, 2013. 

Offer(s) Cannot be used towards any previously purchased registrations, and cannot be combined with any other offers. Offer is limited to one per person.

 

For those who are currently registered for an event that has not happened yet, you may use code NYE25 (pre-dating speed dating events only) or NYE5 (Lock and Key Events only) towards a new registration for an upcoming event. Sorry but partial refunds cannot be issued.

 

 

 

 

The Pre-Dating Gives Back Program

-December, 2013-

 

 

Every once and a while, we like to share with our members what Pre-Dating Speed Dating is doing to better our local communities. 

 

Every December, many of our Event Coordinators participate in the "Toys For Tots" program, which is put on by the US Marine Corps. This is a fabulous charity program that Pre-Dating has been part of for the last 10 years and helps to bring some joy to children who may not have the opportunity to get the many joys that Chistmas has to offer. 

 

This year was no exception, in fact, because of the donations from members, just like you, Pre-Dating Speed Dating was able to put over 200 toys under the trees of under priviledged children across America!

 

Pre-Dating Speed Dating would like to thank those of you who did participate in this program by bringing toys to the events in order to brighted up the holidays for local youngsters!

 

If you are interested in the "Pre-Dating Gives Back" program, please contact your local event coordinator to set up a charity event.

 

NOTE: All Charity Events are sent for review to ensure proper donation procedures are followed. 

 

Q&A  FORUM:

 

 

 

Questions From Other Singles Like You



Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them? Maybe just a relationship question in general? Some other people did as well and here are their questions to us.

 

If you have a question, simply email us at Questions@Pre-Dating.com and if selected for our next Newsletter you’ll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.


 

 

QUESTION #1:

 

Hi Pre-Dating,

 

I have been single now for 2 years, and though I have been looking for a good person to settle down with, it has been a tough road. Any suggestions for how to meet my future husband?

 

Answer from Pre-Dating

 

Dear "Stuck in Singles Land",

 

Thank you for your question! There are many ways to find someone, but I fear that your mindset of searching for a "husband" is where you are going wrong.

 

Obviously, many of us are looking for a long term relationship that results in the beauty that is marriage. The problem is, you do not want to go into any relationship with the sole purpose of marriage, this just leads to heartbreak and upset. The best way to approach potential relationships is to build a foundation much like a friendship.

 

Think of it this way- surly you have someone who you deem "a best friend", I highly doubt you searched out someone who would ultimately get the title of "best friend" one day, right? Sounds silly, but so does saying that you are searching for a future husband!

 

Many people can and will get scared off by (what I like to call) a High Octane Relationship, which is one that goes way to fast, and many of the essential elements to a healthy relationship are overlooked.  

 

My best advice for you is to casually date, meet men, and get to know them without the intention of marriage. Enjoy dating, don't think of it as a race, think of it as a journey! Your pot of gold is waiting, you just have to slow down to find it!

 

QUESTION #2:

 

Dear Pre-Dating,

 

What timeline do you recommend to follow before having a sexual relationship with someone you are interested in?

 

Answer from Pre-Dating:

 

Dear "Anxious":

 

Great question! But there is no "right" answer for this, so, instead of answering with a "2nd date", or "3rd date", we want to evaluate where you are in your relationship.

 

Let's get one thing out of the way... How long have you known the person?  Not a concrete determining factor of when to have sex with someone, but if this is your first date, and you don't know the person very well, or if at all, it's probably not wise to jump in the sack. Sexual chemistry happens pretty much immediately, but if there is no trust or any foundation to the relationship, you will most likely never hear from the person again. However, if you have known the person for some time, sex on the first date can work. Still not recommended, but it can work. 

 

So, let's assume that you have already had your first, maybe even second date with the person, and now you want to get more intimate. Great, but you need to first think to yourself, "How well do I know this person?", "Do I trust them enough to have sex?" (yes, men, think about this too!). Again, having some kind of foundation is vital before any kind of sexual activity. If you have that, then we go into a whole other subject. 

 

Does the person you want to "make woopie" with, feel the same way? There is nothing wrong with talking about sex, in fact, it is healthy. Sure, maybe a bit nerve-wracking, but it is a critical communiqué you should share. At the end of the day, you should feel comfortable talking about sex with your partner, if you can't talk about it, how are you going to be comfortable in the act of sex? Make sure to listen to the other person, their fears, their resistance, or their openness. 

 

Lastly, what if they turn you down? What's next? The best answer I have for you is, if you truly have feelings for this person, just wait. Do not hound the person, but instead, focus on the important elements of a strong foundation; trust, communication, humor and respect.

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The Grinch, Little Max and

Holiday Stress"

 

 

 

A beautiful Christmas Carol proclaims, "It's the most wonderful time of the year." Really? When we stop to consider the parties, decorating, shopping, traveling, cooking and visiting family members, and then factor in this struggling economy and how that might impact our holiday season, it may be more accurate to say, “It’s the most stressful time of the year.” But thankfully, we have the sweet little dog, Max, from the Christmas poem, How the Grinch Stole Christmas, to teach us about overcoming holiday stress.

 

Little Max, as you recall, found himself all stressed out one holiday season. After his master, the Grinch, stole all of Whoville’s toys and presents, he loaded them up on his sleigh and then attached the huge sleigh to poor Max, assigning him the responsibility of pulling everything they had accumulated up the steep and slippery slopes of Mt. Crumpit. Suffice it to say that Max was under a significant amount of stress—and from his situation we can learn three things: 

 

1. Attaching Creates Stress

 

Max was attached to something that was beyond his ability to control—a huge, heavy sleigh. Likewise, if we are attached to things like material possessions (or lack thereof), intimate relationships (or the lack thereof), our image in other people’s eyes, or even our physical health, we will feel stress.

 

Stress is the result of trying to control the uncontrollable. We cannot control the economy, our partners, our kids, our image or our health. But often we attach to those things and we feel like Max, weighed down with too much strapped to our backs. Max teaches us to “let go.”

 

2. Assigning Blame Creates Stress

 

Another cause of stress in our lives is playing the victim, blaming others for what is occurring in our lives. It would be understandable if little Max thought, “Mr. Grinch is such a jerk! Look at what he is forcing me to do!” But whenever we blame our plight on another, we disown our power and our ability to create our destiny.

 

With the victim mentality, our happiness, health, peace and prosperity are in someone else’s hands—and that creates a huge load of inner stress. Max teaches us to “let go” of the victim mentality.

 

3. Accumulating Feelings Creates Stress

 

Without question, though, the single greatest cause of stress in our lives is the accumulation of unexpressed feelings. Max accumulated a lot of “stuff” in Whoville. And when we accumulate emotions and feelings and do not handle them appropriately, our body is racked with stress.

 

Unexpressed emotion jeopardizes our health, inhibits real intimacy, and saps our aliveness and vitality. Accumulating feelings, rather than appropriately expressing them, is the surest way to live a stressful life. Max teaches us to “let go” of our feelings.

 

Coaching with Roy can help even the most stressed out person experience this holiday season as “the most wonderful time of the year.” If you feel like Max, call Roy!

 

 

 

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  • Develop the attitude that makes dating easier, more rewarding and more fun! 

 

About Our Speakers - Rosalind Sedacca and Amy Sherman

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Amy Sherman has a master's degree in counseling/psychology and is a coach, trainer and co-author of 99 things Women Wish They Knew Before Dating After 40, 50, and Yes, 60! Amy understands the needs, challenges and insecurities singles face in finding meaningful relationships and helps them avoid the disasters and disappointment they often experience when dating in mid-life.  She is also the author of Distress-Free Aging: A Boomer’s Guide to Creating a Fulfilled and Purposeful Life and The Joy of Optimism 10-Lesson eCourse, which offer strategies for overcoming adversity and other challenges of middle age.

 

 

 
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Featured Testimonial

 

 

We were the first ones to meet & after meeting 11 other men, I missed talking to John & definitely was interested.

I was terrified he might have connected with one of the other 11 women there, but he did come right over to me after the event & got my number, we got engaged a year later and married in April 2010.

We tell all our single friends how great this event was ! All the other men and women there were all nice and interesting as well. We both met lots of great singles that night and hope they all met their forever mates too!

Thanks for an unforgettable night.


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GREAT NEWS!  With the recent addition of Dee in Detroit, MI and Jon in Akron, OH we now offer monthly events in over 90 US and Canadian cities!
 
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If you are interested in playing matchmaker and adding a new adventure and challenge to your life (part time).

 

 

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We Are Currently Looking For An Event Coordinator in the Following Cities, and MORE! 

  

•    Atlanta, GA
•    Portland, OR

•    Baton Rouge, LA

 

...And other event locations available!

 

 

QUOTE OF THE MONTH

 

 

"If there hadn't been women we'd still be squatting in a cave eating raw meat, because we made civilization in order to impress our girlfriends."

 

-Orson Wells 

 

 

 

CRAZY DATING FACT OF THE MONTH

 

 

Although you can meet someone just about anywhere, workplace relationships have a strangely high success rate — if your goal is to put a ring on it. Around 40% of romances that start at the water cooler result in marriage. 

 

Source:

http://thoughtcatalog.com/nico-lang/2013/08/29-eye-opening-dating-facts-that-will-change-the-way-you-view-relationships/

 

About Pre-Dating

 

Pre-Dating Speed Dating is the world's largest Speed Dating service for busy single professionals with monthly events in over 90 cities. If you have a busy life and don't have time to meet new people, don't like to date clients or co-workers, and are not interested in the bar scene then try Pre-Dating Speed Dating.

 

 

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  • Sneak Peek: Cyber Monday Sale! 

  • Event Coordinator Spotlight – Sandy from Providence, RI
  • Q&A Forum From Singles Just Like You!
  • Expansion News
  • Featured Client Reviews
  • Roy's Relationship Corner- Special FREE Offer for Roy's BRAND New Dating Advice Website!
  • FREE Pre-Dating Teleseminar: "How to Find The Love of Your Life Online!" with Guest Speaker, Roy Biancalana
  • Crazy Dating Fact of the Month
  • Quote of the Month

 

 

 

Sneak Peek:

 

CYBER MONDAY 2013

 

Super-Sale Event Opens Sunday, Dec. 1st!

 

In keeping with tradition, on Sunday, Dec. 1st, 2013, Pre-Dating Speed Dating will be offering YOU:

 

50% off Any Upcoming Pre-Dating Speed Dating Event

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Be sure to keep your eyes on your inbox for this special email-invite with the 50% off promo code which will be sent to you on Sunday, Dec. 1st, 2013 at 9AM EST! 

 

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Pre-Dating Event Coordinator

SPOTLIGHT

 

 

 

Sandy from Providence, RI

 

What got you interested in Being an Event Coordinator (EC) for Pre-Dating?

 

I was interested in learning more about event planning, as well as wanting to socialize more.  It led me to an event in Providence and being a volunteer helper.   This was great, as it gave me a “sneak peek” into the role of an Event Coordinator. 

 

What ONE Unique or Extra Thing do You Do at Your Events to Make Them More Enjoyable?

 

I Think it starts with the confirmation phone calls I do before the events.  I Try to use this time to reach out and make sure each attendee has all his or her questions answered.  This way they have all the basics like how to find the venue, what to expect at one of our events (expect FUN!), etc. so they don’t have those things to worry about. 


What is Your Favorite Success Story?

 

Happy to say I have a few.  A recent one is a woman who at 50 was single after her 20 year marriage ended.  She called me several times trying to build up the confidence to come to a Pre-Dating Event.  It took some convincing, but she finally registered.  Once over those initial nerves, she had a fantastic time!  After her 14 Pre-Dates that evening, she’s gone out on 3 “full” dates and is thrilled she finally got back out there! So Success Stories don't always have to be about meeting "the one".


What is Your Favorite Venue and Why?

 

My favorite venue is Waterplace Restaurant & Lounge in Providence.  It’s in a great location which overlooks the River and Boat Basin.  There’s a romantic ambiance.  Great offerings to our daters from free valet parking, drink specials and complimentary appetizers.  Many have returned to this venue for their first dates after meeting on a "pre-date" at our event.

 

What TIPS do You Have for Attendees of Speed Dating Events?

 

I know it's easier said than done, but try your best to relax.  Keep in mind this is a Pre-Date, so put aside some of the typical nervousness we all experience on first dates.  It’s a 6 minute conversation with someone.  Think of it as a opportunity to learn more about the person sitting across from you and to feel if there’s that spark to say “let’s talk” at the end of the evening.


What's the Biggest Mistake You See Attendees Make When Attending Events?

 

Under dressing!  No matter man or woman, we all like to see that someone put the effort in to dress to impress a bit.  Remember to put on your easiest accessory, as clichéd as it may sound - your smile.  It will make you and your personality sparkle.

   

 

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Questions From Other Singles Like You



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QUESTION #1:

 

Hi Pre-Dating,

 

I met a great girl recently, but am nervous about getting into a relationship right before the holidays, as I am not sure how to dodge around the gifts and how to bring her around the family. Am I wrong about this? 

 

Answer from Pre-Dating

 

Dear "Mr. Cheap-O",

 

Of course, I kid when I call you "Cheap-O". You are not the only one who feels this way, but also know, that this could be "the one", and my best recommendation for you is to not let material things get in the way of the heart. 

 

As far as bringing her around the family, she probably feels the same about you! If you are both just getting into the realm of dating, discuss this and have an honest conversation about where you both stand, as well as the comfort level of introducing each other to the family too soon.

 

My best suggestion here, is to go your separate ways during the day, and meet up afterwards and gift her something small, but meaningful. Maybe frame the first dinner receipt, or, the movie tickets. Something that will give the gift the "Awe Factor", but not cost too much money to do. 

 

QUESTION #2:

 

Hi Pre-Dating,

 

Whenever I meet someone, it always seems that either they are interested in me, but they are not what I am looking for, or, I am interested in them, but they are not interested in me, what am I missing? 

 

Answer from Pre-Dating

 

Dear "Not Interested",

 

To answer this question, you will want to first think of the reason you are NOT interested in the people who have shown interest in you. Is it physical? It is their personality? Maybe it's their income level, or a combination of all three. 

 

Once you have answered this question, you will want to evaluate yourself a bit. Why do you think the people you are interested in are not interested in you? Are you less outgoing due to fear of rejection? Is it possible you are acting differently when you find something you are interested in? These things can be subtle, so it takes a bit of "stepping out of yourself" to objectively ascertain if it's you or simply that it's just the luck of the draw and therefore just a matter of time until both of you share the same interest.

 

It is important to realize these dating "mistakes", as they often lead to rejection. Be social, be yourself and most importantly, don't get caught up in the thought that the person you are interested in will never pick you. Sure, you will still get rejected here and there, but keep positive and the more experience you have, the more confidence you will gain!

 

Roy's Relationship Corner

 

 

 

A Little Diddy About Jack and Diane"

 

 

Remember that song by John Mellencamp, A little diddy about Jack and Diane? Well, here's a little diddy—a little story—about you and me, our collective experience in relationship.

 

Our “little diddy” begins with what’s called, The Wound. All of us were deeply wounded or hurt in some way early in our lives. Some people are more aware of this wound than others, and these wounds certainly vary in degree, but all of us, without exception, have an inner, emotional wound.

 

This wound is then interpreted to mean something about who or what we are. It crystalizes into a self-image or an identity. This is the second part of our “little diddy,” and it’s called, The Core Story of Deficiency.

 

This wound/story is so painful that it cannot be ignored. Something must be done with it. So we create a false-front or what’s called a Persona. The sole purpose of a Persona is to either hide the story or compensate for it. (An example of this would be the bully persona, which compensates for the underlying story of being weak and powerless.)

As we move into the world as our compensating Persona, we mystically and magnetically attract our reciprocal opposite, some other person who is also caught in a persona. In other words, the Persona finds a Playmate. This is the fourth part of our “little diddy.”

 

Persona and Playmate (Jack and Diane) go together like cookies and milk. They “love” each other in a way that seems to heal each other’s wound/story. This way of “loving” is called a Pattern, and forms the fifth part of our “little diddy.” (Love is in quotations because it’s not love, it’s co-dependence.)

 

All is well for the happy couple until one or both of them don’t adequately or consistently continue to “love” in the way that the wound/story demands. They’re no longer “there for each other,” and the result is blame, anger and conflict, i.e., drama! Pain, therefore, is the sixth part of the “little diddy.”

 

The relationship that was supposed to heal the wound actually reinjures it! And instead of ending the core story of deficiency, it actually reaffirms it! This sets in motion what becomes a vicious, looping cycle:

 

Wound > Story > Persona > Playmate > Pattern > Pain > Reinjured>Wound > Story >... and so on.

 

Let’s take this out of the realm of theory and make it personal. I’ve lived in this vicious loop. What follows is a true story, with me playing the part of “Jack” in this “little diddy.”

 

My Wound was that I was not seen or valued by my mother. This led to a core Story of being invisible or not good enough. In response to that, I created a Persona I’ve named Casanova. He tries to get girls to like him by being nice and taking care of them.

 

Casanova magnetically attracted his reciprocal Playmate, a damsel-in-distress that we’ll call “Diane.” Her life was very complicated and Casanova swept in and rescued her. We created a Pattern where she gave me attention and affection in exchange for me taking care of her kids, house and life.

 

This worked well until we both stopped doing our “jobs” for each other. When that happened we started arguing and fighting a lot. The relationship became filled with Pain and she broke off our engagement and I, of course, interpreted that to mean I wasn’t good enough. The old Wound was reopened and the core Story reaffirmed.

 

Do you see your own version of this in your relationship history? Can you write out your “little diddy?”

 

How do you put an end to this? Well, to put it simply: Coaching with Roy. I use a tool called The Living Inquiries in coaching sessions to dissolve the original wound/story. (I also have an entire eCourse devoted to it called, The Life You're Meant to Live.) When the core story is seen through, the rest of the cycle disappears and great relationships are possible.

 

Consider working with me or taking the eCourse. You don’t grow out of this and it doesn’t just go away. Without working on yourself, you will repeat the loop over and over again. I know I did.

 

So, Jack or Diane! Isn’t it time to rewrite this “little diddy” of yours?

 

 

 

Special FREE Offer from Roy Biancalana:

 

 

I know how challenging, and even how depressing it can be to find your ideal partner in today’s frenzied and disconnected world. That’s why I’ve partnered with Pre-Dating.com to bring you my popular video-based eCourse, “Finding Love On-Line: From Horror Stories to Love Stories”absolutely FREE.

 

You'll learn what the masters of Internet dating know - as I show you how to avoid horror stories and create love stories online. It’s a $200 value, but it’s free to all Pre-Dating clients this week.

 

CLICK HERE to start your free eCourse.

 

 

FREE Dating Teleseminar:

 

"How to Find the Love of Your Life Online!"

 

With Relationship Coach and TV Personality, Roy Biancalana

 

~FREE~

 

Tuesday, Dec. 3rd, 2013

 

8:30PM EST

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 

IN THIS FREE TELESEMINAR YOU WILL:

 

  • Master the 5 steps to ending online horror stories and creating a love story
  • Learn how to write a profile that attracts your ideal partner
  • Discover how to stop attracting the wrong partners online
  • Learn the rules of digital engagement
  • How to use pictures to create the relationship of your dreams

 

 

About Our Speaker- Roy Biancalana

 

Roy Biancalana: is known as "The Intimacy Guru," and is a nationally recognized leader in the field of attraction, intimacy and conscious relationships. He appears regularly on Fox35 TV in Orlando, FL as their relationship expert and is the author of the book, "A Drink with Legs" sold worldwide.

 

Roy is a certified relationship coach, spiritual teacher and was a PGA Tour player. His passion is working with men and women who are committed to awakening to their true spiritual nature and experiencing the love life they most desire. He specializes in supporting single people in attracting the love of their lives and also helping those who are in committed partnerships experience a deeper level of intimacy. He has clients all over the world and coaches by phone, Skype or in person.

 

 

 
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877-i-PreDate

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FREE Dating Teleseminar

Dec. 3rd

 

"How to Find The Love Of Your Life Online"

 

With Guest Speaker, Roy Biancalana, Authors and Relationship Coach.

 

Tuesday, Dec. 3rd, 2013 at 8:30PM EST

 

– Free-

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

IN THIS FREE TELESEMINAR You Will:

 

  • Master the 5 steps to ending online horror stories and creating a love story
  • Learn how to write a profile that attracts your ideal partner
  • Discover how to stop attracting the wrong partners online
  • Learn the rules of digital engagement
  • How to use pictures to create the relationship of your dreams

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

Featured Testimonial

 

 

"To Pre-Dating, South Florida,

Just a quick note to let you know that I met my husband at one of your Miami speed-dating evenings in July of 2005. We are happily married, and I'm pretty certain that I would not have met him elsewhere, as neither of us were into the bar scene. Prior to meeting him, I attended several other speed-dating evenings through your company and they were always fun evenings with people who I found to be attractive, bright, and professional. I preferred your speed-dating evenings to bars, other singles-type events, or Internet dating. It was nice to be able to meet a certain number of single people in person who were of a similar age and also looking for a relationship, then decide if there was chemistry/connection with any of them, and if so take it from there. I continue to recommend your group to my single friends and acquaintances and definitely would encourage people looking for a relationship to try speed dating. Thanks so much!"

 

- Beth W 

 

 

 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit

www.Pre-Dating.com

 

 

877-i-PreDate

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EXPANSION NEWS:

 

 

 2 New Pre-Dating.com Cities!


GREAT NEWS!  With the recent addition of Leigh in Indianapolis, IN and Mallyah in Honolulu, HI we now offer monthly events in over 90 US and Canadian cities!
 
Work With Pre-Dating - Become an Event Coordinator

If you are interested in playing matchmaker and adding a new adventure and challenge to your life (part time).

 

 

Please apply online HERE!

 

(http://www.pre-dating.com/coordinator.php3)

 

We Are Currently Looking For An Event Coordinator in the Following Cities, and MORE! 

  

•    Atlanta, GA
•    Portland, OR

•    Baton Rouge, LA

 

...And other event locations available!

 

 

QUOTE OF THE MONTH

 

 

"You don't develop courage by being happy in your relationships everyday. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity."

 

-Epicurus 

 

 

 

CRAZY DATING FACT OF THE MONTH

 

 

As far as who pays, Match suggests that increasing amounts of Americans are eschewing the traditional rule that the man pays for the first date. Between 2010 and 2012, the number of people who said that whoever did the asking should do the paying shot up from 21% to 32%, a 50% increase in just two years.

 

Source:

http://thoughtcatalog.com/nico-lang/2013/08/29-eye-opening-dating-facts-that-will-change-the-way-you-view-relationships/

 

About Pre-Dating

 

Pre-Dating Speed Dating is the world's largest Speed Dating service for busy single professionals with monthly events in over 90 cities. If you have a busy life and don't have time to meet new people, don't like to date clients or co-workers, and are not interested in the bar scene then try Pre-Dating Speed Dating.

 

 

Contact Us

 

National Customer Service Loyalty Team

 

Email: Service@Pre-Dating.com

 

Phone:1-877-iPreDate (877-477-3328)

 

Hours: Open 7 Days a Week!

 

Monday-Thursday: 9AM-10PM (EST)

Friday: 9AM-5PM (EST)

Saturday: 10AM-2PM (EST)

Sunday: 3PM-6PM (EST)

 

Follow us on FacebookTwitter and YouTube!

 

   

 

 

 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit:

 

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877-i-PreDate

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www.Pre-Dating.com

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Oct. 2013

 

                                        

 

 

 

 

IN THIS NEWSLETTER:

 

Sent to over 125,000 Single Professionals!

 

  • Announcing The Finding Love Giveaway

  • Event Coordinator Spotlight – Ellen: Jacksonville, FL
  • Q&A Forum From Singles Just Like You!
  • Expansion News
  • Featured Client Reviews
  • Roy's Relationship Corner- Special FREE Offer for Roy's BRAND New Dating Advice Website!
  • FREE Pre-Dating Teleseminar: "Dating Without the Drama" with Guest Speakers Rosalind Sedacca and Amy Sherman, Authors, and Relationship Coaches
  • Crazy Dating Fact of the Month
  • Quote of the Month

 

 

 

Announcing The Finding Love Giveaway!

 

Your Expert Love Team Assembled Just For You!

 

 

We love sharing great resources with you, especially when they’re free!

 

We have joined with 16 other dating and relationship experts and businesses helping singles find love to bring you a wealth of FREE gifts that will help you find and keep your true love.

 

These gifts are valued at thousands of dollars, and they’re yours absolutely free.  As you can imagine, this is a pretty unique opportunity and these gifts will only be available for 14 days.

 

The event kicks off on Saturday, November 2nd; however, you can get a special early bird gift when you register right away. 

 

Click HERE to Register for FREE

 

These are just a sampling of the great gifts you’ll get:

  • Dating consciously
  • Flirting with ease
  • Travelling as a single
  • Dating successfully over 40
  • Creating romantic relationships
  • Wooing a woman for keeps
  • Dating entrepreneurially
  • Moving beyond a breakup
  • Dating as a single parent
  • Marriage minded dating strategies
  • How to get your man to open up
  • Best places for meeting people offline
  • Successful speed-dating tips
  • Attracting Online profile secrets

Get your early bird registration and bonus gift now!

 

Click HERE to Register for FREE

 

P.S. You cannot miss these fabulous gifts that were created specifically for you by the top dating and relationship coaches and businesses!    

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Pre-Dating Event Coordinator

SPOTLIGHT

 

 

 

Ellen, Jacksonville/ Daytona, FL & Savannah, GA

 

What got you interested in Being an Event Coordinator (EC) for Pre-Dating?

 

 

My sister Anna was one of the first helpers for the company and then became part of the original group of EC's in 2002 where she ran events until just a couple years ago.  I assisted her with her events in Sarasota. I loved hosting the events – it was so much fun! When she moved to Jacksonville and started hosting events there, I continued to run the events in Sarasota for her. Then I moved to Jacksonville and continued as her helper. When she decided she was too busy to continue being an Event Coordinator it was only natural that I step in. And I am still having fun hosting these events.

 

What ONE Unique or Extra Thing do You Do at Your Events to Make Them More Enjoyable?

 

 

I try to make my events FUN!  Everyone is nervous coming into an event. I find humor helps the participants relax.  I joke about the six minutes being the shortest or longest six minutes in their life, about what NOT to say in the first six minutes you meet someone…basically I get everyone laughing.


What is Your Favorite Success Story?

 

 

A wedding of course!  I had a couple meet at Pre-Dating Speed Dating.  They had never met each other before but I had previously met both of them.  About 6 months later I saw an engagement announcement on FaceBook. I then received a call asking if I would be a bridesmaid in their wedding!  In October they were married here in Jacksonville.  I love feeling that I might have had something to do with their happiness.


What is Your Favorite Venue and Why?

 

 

I host events in several different venues.  I like to move my events around to different venues and different areas of town.  I find I attract a better variety of participants that way. Each venue provides something unique to our events…whether it be ambiance, tasty appetizers, great drink specials, or excellent service, they are all wonderful!  I couldn’t pick a favorite as I love them all!  Without these venues we would have no Pre-Dating Events.

 

What TIPS do You Have for Attendees of Speed Dating Events?

 

 

Be open to what might happen at a Pre-Dating event.  Don’t come with pre-conceived notions of what will happen, or judge the other attendees by looks, age or how they are dressed before you talk to them. Come with a positive attitude.  Sometimes you find love where you least expect it!  Plus a negative attitude is a turn off! SMILE!  A smile will make you more approachable and set the other person, who is probably nervous, at ease. Be prepared…have some questions in mind before the event so the conversation flows, but make the questions fun so it doesn’t feel like an interview or inquisition! And smile…did I already say that?


What's the Biggest Mistake You See Attendees Make When Attending Events?

 

 

Sharing the wrong information in the first six minutes is a big mistake! You only have six minutes to share info…use it wisely.  This is NOT the time to talk about extreme political or religious views, the fact you like to practice a “clothing optional” life style, or how much you hate your ex (yes, these have all been shared at my events). This is the time to talk about what you love to do, your interests, hobbies and passions, and what you want to do in life.  Too many people waste the time with information on where they were born, their job, information about the past. You are looking for someone to possibly spend the future with so talk about what you would like to do and maybe you will find someone with similar passions to do these with!

 

Q&A  FORUM:

 

 

 

Questions From Other Singles Like You



Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them? Maybe just a relationship question in general? Some other people did as well and here are their questions to us.

 

If you have a question, simply email us at Questions@Pre-Dating.com and if selected for our next Newsletter you’ll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.


 

 

QUESTION #1:

 

Hi Pre-Dating,

 

I have attended your events in the past, and I have to say, they are GREAT fun, however, is 6 minutes really enough time? Sometimes I feel rushed. 

 

Answer from Pre-Dating

 

Dear "Rushed",

 

Have you ever been on an amazing date and you both cannot seem to get enough of each other and you end up ticking off the waiters at the restaurant because it is after hours and you both are not done talking yet (Yea, we've all done it!)? Or, maybe a horrible date, and it feels like the time goes by at a snails pace? 

 

This is why we limit the time to 6 minutes! Sometimes the time flies, but other times you feel like you are pulling teeth to just a response from the other party.

 

Scientifically, it takes 30 seconds for there to be a sexual attraction, for the remaining 5 minutes and 30 seconds, you may find that the person is not only attractive but has a WONDERFUL personality to boot! Or not, but that's why we like to limit the time to 6- minutes! NEXT! 

 

QUESTION #2:

 

Dear Pre-Dating,

 

I am a woman who makes a lot of money, and I find that I intimidate men when I pay tabs, or buy them things they need. Am I wrong to be generous?

 

Answer from Pre-Dating:

 

Dear "Misconstrued Kindness",

 

I am going to preface this by saying that you should not be embarrassed that you make more then your partner. Women have made amazing strides over the last century, and what we are seeing, is a rift in the traditional balance of the male/ female role. 

 

What is happening here, and you may not like this, is you are emasculating him by paying for things for him. Allow him to take you out, and allow him to take care of you! There is nothing wrong with allowing you to be taken care of, even if you are making more money then him. By not allowing him to take care of you, while also going "Dutch" every now and then, can interrupt the gender balance that has been in place for thousands of years. 

 

Again, it's OK that you make more money, and be proud of that! But also be mindful of his insecurities and allow him to "take care of his girl"!

Roy's Relationship Corner

 

Hearing Your Inner Voice"

 

 

 

Roy Biancalana

Author and Relationship Coach

 

 

Back when I played golf professionally, I would play a practice round on the tournament course before the event. The reason? To identify the places where disaster lurked so I could avoid those places and win the tournament.

 

Think of your relationships like a golf course. If you want to “win,” meaning, if you want high-functioning and fulfilling relationships, you too must avoid places where disaster lurks.

 

One such place is called broken agreements. Making and keeping agreements is essential in any relationship because it either creates trust or destroys it. Let’s take a look at how to make and keep our agreements, and therefore, have a good chance at “winning” in our relationships.

 

Hearing Your Inner Voice

 

Most of us get into trouble because we agree to things we should never have agreed to in the first place. Why? Well, it could be a desire for approval, an inability to say “no,” or maybe it just sounded good in the moment. Honestly though, what I find in my own life, and in my coaching practice, is that we simply do not know how to make a decision, as crazy as that sounds.

 

We do not know how to hear our inner voice, and therefore, we cannot heed our voice. And without this life-skill, we end up making decisions from approval, fear, confusion or impulse. And that always leads to trouble.

 

Our voice resides in our bodies. If we take the time to ask our bodies what we truly want—before we make a decision, we will rarely go back on our word. This is called getting a “whole-body yes” to an issue.

 

Your body has deep wisdom and clarity, if you know how to read its signals. For example, when considering a decision to date someone, to break up, to have sex, to commit to exclusivity—or whatever—if your breath deepens, if your muscles relax, if your energy rises, that’s the body’s way of saying, “yes.”

 

However, if your head aches, if your stomach tightens, if your energy deflates, that is the body’s way of saying, “no.”

 

In other words, when your whole body feels more alive, energetic and vibrant at the thought of a certain direction or decision, that’s a “whole-body yes.” When it doesn’t, that’s what a “no” feels like.

 

When making a decision, anything other than a “whole-body yes” is a “no.” 95% yes is still a no. Any glitch in the body is a no.

Most of us have been trained to make decisions from our heads, not our bodies, and this is especially true of men, where we’ve been taught that logic and reasoning are everything. So if this seems hard at first, especially for you guys, it is only because it is new for you. Sit in silence, listen to your bodies energetic flow and trust its wisdom.

 

The body will not scream its truth to you. It whispers. Your commitment must be to heed its voice. You may disappoint people. You may confuse people. You may anger people.  You may lose their approval. They might not like to hear “no.”

 

But you will be at peace knowing you are being true to yourself and you will eventually build trust in your relationships because people will learn that when you say “yes” to something, you mean it and you can be counted on to follow through.

 

Coaching with Roy is all about supporting people in hearing and heeding their inner voice, especially as it relates to dating and relationships. Reach out to me if I can be of service. 

 

 

Special FREE Offer from Roy Biancalana:

 

 

I know how challenging, and even how depressing it can be to find your ideal partner in today’s frenzied and disconnected world. That’s why I’ve partnered with Pre-Dating.com to bring you my popular video-based eCourse, “Finding Love On-Line: From Horror Stories to Love Stories”absolutely FREE.

 

You'll learn what the masters of Internet dating know - as I show you how to avoid horror stories and create love stories online. It’s a $200 value, but it’s free to all Pre-Dating clients this week.

 

CLICK HERE to start your free eCourse.

 

 

FREE Dating Teleseminar:

 

"Dating Without the Drama: How to Avoid Losers, Manipulators and Game-Players"

 

 

With Guest Speakers Rosalind Sedacca and Amy Sherman, Authors and Relationship Coaches

 

~FREE~

 

Tuesday, Nov. 5th, 2013

 

8:30PM EST

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 

IN THIS FREE TELESEMINAR WE WILL DISCUSS:

  • Date “smarter” with greater confidence
  • Differentiate between "chemistry" and the real thing
  • Avoid dating turn off behaviors
  • Identify a “keeper” vs. a “player” early on
  • Get quality partners to approach you

 

 

ABOUT OUR SPEAKERS - Rosalind Sedacca and Amy Sherman:

 

Rosalind Sedacca, is a Dating & Relationship Coach, a Divorce & Parenting Coach and co-author of 99 Things Women Wish They Knew About Dating After 40, 50 & Yes, 60! She is also the founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network for parents and author of How Do I Tell the Kids About the Divorce? Rosalind is an Expert Blogger for The Huffington Post, an Advisor at ParentalWisdom.com as well as a Contributing Writer for Exceptional People Magazine and the 2008 First Place Winner of the Victorious Woman Award and co-creator of the Create Your Ideal Relationship Kit for singles.

Amy Sherman, has a master's degree in counseling/psychology and is a coach, trainer and co-author of 99 things Women Wish They Knew Before Dating After 40, 50, and Yes, 60! Amy understands the needs, challenges and insecurities singles face in finding meaningful relationships and helps them avoid the disasters and disappointments they often experience when dating in mid-life. She is also the author of Distress-Free Aging: A Boomer's Guide to Creating a Fulfilled and Purposeful Life and The Joy of Optimism 10-Lesson eCourse, which offer strategies for overcoming adversity and other challenges of middle age.

 

 
***PLUS RSVP NOW TO RECEIVE THIS FREE BONUS***
 

  • How To Avoid the Biggest Dating Mistakes  (audio MP3 file): Stop sabotaging your dating life. Learn how to avoid the mistakes that hinder your success and keep you from attracting the meaningful relationship you're looking for!
  • Special Discounts on their very popular "Dating Rescue eCourse" for women; And "Mastering the Challenges of Dating: A Success Formula" for Men.

 

Tuesday, Nov. 5th, 2013

 

8:30PM EST

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 


 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit

www.Pre-Dating.com

 

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

 

You are receiving this Newsletter because you have either been to or registered for a Pre-Dating Speed Dating (formerly Cupid.com/PreDating) event in the past, have requested and currently receive our twice monthly event schedule notifications for your city, or have interacted with one of our Event Coordinators at a networking event, trade show, etc. and requested to be kept in the loop. We only send emails to those who request them (what's the value of sending stuff to people who never asked for it anyway?). If you no longer wish to receive our emails, follow the instructions below. Keep in mind by opting out of our National Newsletter, you also opt out of our local singles event schedule email notifications.

 

FREE Dating Teleseminar

Nov. 5th

 

"Dating Without the Drama"

How to Avoid Losers, Manipulators and Game-Players 

 

With Guest Speakers, Rosalind Sedacca and Amy Sherman, Authors and Relationship Coaches.

 

Tuesday, Nov. 5th, 2013 at 8:30PM EST

 

– Free-

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

IN THIS FREE TELESEMINAR WE WILL DISCUSS:

 

  • Date “smarter” with greater confidence
  • Differentiate between "chemistry" and the real thing
  • Avoid dating turn off behaviors
  • Identify a “keeper” vs. a “player” early on
  • Get quality partners to approach you

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

Featured Testimonial

 

 

"My name is Augustin, and her name is Cristy. We went to a speed dating event on Jan 29th

I had no expectations ... neither did she. We have been together ever since. We are moving together to South Florida. Thank you for being the bridge that made this happen. I am so happy! We are now talking about getting married! That day will not be forgotten."

- Augustin (Gainesville, Aug 2013)  

 

 

 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit

www.Pre-Dating.com

 

 

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

 

 

 

 

EXPANSION NEWS:

 

 

 2 New Pre-Dating.com Cities!


GREAT NEWS!  With the recent addition of Amy in Lexington, KY and James in Los Angeles, CA we now offer monthly events in over 90 US and Canadian cities!
 
Work With Pre-Dating - Become an Event Coordinator

If you are interested in playing matchmaker and adding a new adventure and challenge to your life (part time).

 

 

Please apply online HERE!

 

(http://www.pre-dating.com/coordinator.php3)

 

We Are Currently Looking For An Event Coordinator in the Following Cities, and MORE! 

  

•    Atlanta, GA
•    Syracuse, NY

•    Baton Rouge, LA

 

...And other event locations available!

 

 

QUOTE OF THE MONTH

 

 

"I'm quite sensitive to women. I saw how my sister got treated by boyfriends. I read this thing that said when you are in a relationship with a woman, imagine how you would feel if you were her father. That's been my approach, for the most part."


- Orlando Bloom, Actor

 

 

 

CRAZY DATING FACT OF THE MONTH

 

 

You can’t put a timeline on a relationship, and there’s no telling when exclusivity is right for you, but according to a study from Lisa Daily, most couples get into an “exclusive” relationship after 6 to 8 dates.

 

Source:

http://thoughtcatalog.com/nico-lang/2013/08/29-eye-opening-dating-facts-that-will-change-the-way-you-view-relationships/

 

About Pre-Dating

 

Pre-Dating Speed Dating is the world's largest Speed Dating service for busy single professionals with monthly events in over 90 cities. If you have a busy life and don't have time to meet new people, don't like to date clients or co-workers, and are not interested in the bar scene then try Pre-Dating Speed Dating.

 

 

Contact Us

 

National Customer Service Loyalty Team

 

Email: Service@Pre-Dating.com

 

Phone:1-877-iPreDate (877-477-3328)

 

Hours: Open 7 Days a Week!

 

Monday-Thursday: 9AM-10PM (EST)

Friday: 9AM-5PM (EST)

Saturday: 10AM-2PM (EST)

Sunday: 3PM-6PM (EST)

 

Follow us on FacebookTwitter and YouTube!

 

   

 

 

 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit:

 

www.Pre-Dating.com

 

 

 

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

 


www.Pre-Dating.com

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

Sept 2013

 

                                        

 

 

 

 

IN THIS NEWSLETTER:

 

Sent to over 125,000 Single Professionals!

 

  • Pre-Dating Speed Dating Invites YOU to Set Sail With Us and Many Other Groups in November! NEW LOW PRICE OFFER!

  • Event Coordinator Spotlight – Michael, Tampa Bay, FL
  • Q&A Forum From Singles Just Like You!
  • Special Offer on "Nix the List & Roll the DICE" Dating Seminar (Oct. 22nd) From Our Friend Charles Johnson!

  • Expansion News
  • Featured Client Reviews
  • Roy's Relationship Corner- Special FREE Offer for Roy's BRAND New Website!
  • FREE Pre-Dating Teleseminar: "How to be Irresistible to the Opposite Sex" with Guest Speaker Roy Biancalana, Author, and Relationship Coach
  • Crazy Dating Fact of the Month
  • Quote of the Month

 

 

 Set Sail With Pre-Dating Speed Dating and Many Other Groups

 

on

 

"The Wine, Dine and Music (and Singles) Cruise!"

 

 

November 9th-16th, 2013

 

Join us when we set sail this fall!  Pre-Dating Speed Dating has arranged to be a part of The Wine Dine and Music cruise aboard Royal Caribbean’s newly revitalized Brilliance of the Seas.

 

We’ll sail from Tampa on November 9, 2013 with calls to Grand Cayman, Cozumel and Costa Maya. We’ll also enjoy 3 relaxing days at sea.

 

WHAT YOU GET WHEN YOU GO and use code PD2013 (in addition to the 7 day cruise itself):

 

  • 7 free bottles of wine, 1 from each of their 7 wineries, delivered nightly to your stateroom!
  • Lock and Key Singles Event
  • Speed Dating Sessions
  • 2 Dating / Relationship Seminars
  • Wine tastings*
  • Wine seminars
  • Nightly Shows including meet & greet the artist
  • Introduction to Mixology seminar
  • Chances to win onboard raffles for a free room upgrade, front row tickets to the shows, and much more!
  • ...And More

 

Singles Events: Dr. Lydia Belton, and Relationship Coach and Author, Roy Biancalana will be providing two seperate live, onboard seminars focused on helping you acheive a great relationship. We will also be holding singles events, so you can utilize the information you learned! 

 

The Wineries:  Representing Northern California's Wine Country are: Truett-Hurst, Dutcher Crossing, Sapphire Hill, Two Amigos, Robert Young, Flora Springs and Rodney Strong 

 

The Chefs: John Ash, a James Beard Award Winner and Catherine Venturini, is well noted for her inspired cuisine during 35 years in California and the Caribbean

 

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Pre-Dating Event Coordinator

SPOTLIGHT

 

 

 

MIchael, Tampa FL

 

WHAT GOT YOU INTERESTED IN BEING AN EVENT COORDINATOR (EC) FOR PRE-DATING?

 

For me, I found that helping people re-energize their dating life and helping them get out there to meet a bunch of new, local singles was just something that sounded FUN! I find it interesting to watch people as they come into an event a little nervous, then slowly open up more and more throughout an event. It's a great feeling to see the look on people's faces when you can tell there is chemistry. It's as if they didn't expect it! 

 

WHAT ONE UNIQUE OR EXTRA EVENT DO YOU DO IN YOUR MARKET?

 

One Event I do differently here in the Tampa market is I run a yearly benefit in support of Moffitt Cancer Center, this year was the second annual event and we raised just under $2,000.00 towards their Patient Care division. It's always a touching event, and this year we doubled our participation and our donation! 

 

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SUCCESS STORY?  

 

I actually have a bunch! Since I took this territory over about 2 years ago, I have heard of 14 engagements that have taken place, or will be taking place from these events in Tampa. Of course, I do not hear about all of the relationships started, but I think it is amazing to get those calls and emails. 

 

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE VENUE AND WHY?  

 

I use the same 5 venues here in Tampa and St. Pete as they are always wonderful, and also locally owned. I feel it is important to keep money in the local economy, which is why I tend to focus on locally owned "mom and pop" venues. Those venue's are Cheap in SoHo, The Pour House Tampa Bay, Fresco's Waterfront Bistro, City Dog Cantina and Mulligans Irish Pub in New Tampa.

 

WHAT TIPS DO YOU HAVE FOR ATTENDEES OF SPEED DATING EVENTS? 

 

Keep calm and have FUN. I always start out my opening speech with "Don't look at the person sitting across from you as your future husband or wife! That's a bit "crazy-town"! (I always get a chuckle out of that) Look at the person across from you as a new single friend to hit the town with, look- we all need a wing man or wing woman from time to time! A great business contact; Hey, You never know, you might just meet someone tonight that can assist your company, (it never hurts to look good in front of your boss!). Or, a potential first date, which we would love to see happen." 

 

Lastly, I recommend to all the daters that night to be mindful of their body language- do not come across closed off. Smile, and laugh, as laughter displays interest and openness. 

 

Q&A  FORUM:

 

 

 

Questions From Other Singles Like You



Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them? Maybe just a relationship question in general? Some other people did as well and here are their questions to us.

 

If you have a question, simply email us at Questions@Pre-Dating.com and if selected for our next Newsletter you’ll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.


 

 

QUESTION #1:

 

Hi Pre-Dating,

My friends tell me I am too picky, but I feel as though I am just not willing to settle for someone who I do not think I can share a meaningful relationship with. I have been single for some time now, and now I am second guessing my approach, any thoughts? 

 

Answer from Pre-Dating:

 

Dear "Picky",

 

Let's preface this with "always listen to your friends!" Well, most times at least! It is important for you to be sure to not "settle" into a relationship that you feel is not going to go anywhere, but, how can you get into a relationship if you are being too picky to begin with?

 

If you steer away from people who you do not feel are quite on your level as far as attraction, give em' a chance... have you ever noticed that people get physically more or less attractive depending on their personality? It is important to date, and discover what you want, not decide what you want pre-maturely. 

 

In closing, give yourself a chance to get to know someone who you may not normally date, as you might just be surprised! 

 

QUESTION #2:

 

Dear Pre-Dating,

 

My wife of 20 years passed away 8 months ago, and my family and friends are pressuring me to "get back out there". I am not sure if I am ready yet, how long should I wait, is there some kind of timeline I should follow? My fear, is that I do not want to hurt anyone because I am not sure if I am ready to date yet. 

 

Answer from Pre-Dating:

 

Dear "Timing is of the essence",

 

To be honest, you are the only one who can figure out if you are ready to "get back out there". They say that death, divorce and money are the three life events that cause the highest stress response on the human body. Studies show that depending on the levels of adrenaline, Cortisol, and Norepinephrine an individual possesses, and releases determines the length of time one processes these high-stress and emotional periods in their lives. 

 

That is the science behind what you are facing, in layman’s terms, how do you feel? Do you feel comfortable going to a social function where there is no pressure? If so, go for it! No one says you have to bring a lady home that night, or get into a relationship right away! It is important for you to get back out there on your terms, but also to be sure to not become a recluse. 

 

Go out with your guy friends too! Enjoy single life again, you deserve to live your life happily.

_________________

 

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Looks are a fleeting commodity and fade with time. Let’s face it time isn’t necessarily kind to a lot of people. And, socioeconomics can change in matter of seconds. So, what requirements are we really using to choose a life partner? Do you know what really makes a relationship work? Do you know what qualities you really need in a mate to make a relationship work long term?

 

Physical attraction and chemistry are important in the first 7 seconds, but it’s not those superficial qualities that matter long term. What makes someone a good mate is character. It’s what they do and how they do it that will show you if you’ve picked the right one. But how do we evaluate someone’s character when most people put on a good game and show you only their representatives?

 

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Roy's Relationship Corner

 

“What Kind of Partner are You Planning to Be?"

 

 

 

Roy Biancalana

Author and Relationship Coach

 

 

Part 8

 

Are you ready for a real relationship? Though we all want to be in a great relationship, most of us haven’t thought about or devoted ourselves to a set of commitments or behaviors that form the foundation for authentic intimacy.

 

In my relationship coaching practice, I often work with my single clients on 8 different commitments that make them the kind of partner the opposite sex dreams of being with.

 

We have been discussing these 8 commitments in recent newsletters. Part one was the commitment to openness. Part two was the commitment to sexual fidelity. Part three was the commitment to pursuing your creative potential. Part 4 was the commitment to splitting up. Part 5 was the commitment to curiosity. Part 6 was the commitment to giving your gift. Part 7 was the commitment to appreciate. Here we focus on the commitment to keep agreements. It’s my hope that you’ll deeply consider each of these commitments and say to yourself, “This is the way I am going to function in my relationship.” If you have questions, or if you want to work with me on any of the commitments, my contact information is below. Ok, here is the eighth and last commitment:

 

The Commitment to Keep Agreements

 

“I commit to keeping my agreements with my partner impeccably.”

 

Sometimes coaches, psychologists, researchers and authors make relationships awfully complicated. I’m probably guilty of that at times. But maybe it’s not all that complicated. Maybe just doing what we say, when we say we’ll do it, might be enough to make our relationships flourish. Think about it: If we consistently and impeccably keep our agreements with our partner, how much trouble can we get into? Do what you say you’ll do—and don’t commit to doing something you don’t want to do or to things you’re not absolutely sure you can do. Be impeccable with your word, as the great little book, The Four Agreements, says.

 

 

 

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Roy is a certified relationship coach, spiritual teacher and was a PGA Tour player. His passion is working with men and women who are committed to awakening to their true spiritual nature and experiencing the love life they most desire. He specializes in supporting single people in attracting the love of their lives and also helping those who are in committed partnerships experience a deeper level of intimacy. He has clients all over the world and coaches by phone, Skype or in person.

 

 
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  • Discover how to use your masculine or feminine energy to attract your ideal partner

 

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Featured Testimonial

 

 

John & Lisa met in Sept 2007 at a Reno speed dating event at Mi Casa Too Restaurant.

"We were the first ones to meet & after meeting 11 other men, I missed talking to John & definitely was interested.

I was terrified he might of connected with one of the other 11 women there, but he did come right over to me after the event & got my number, we got engaged a year later & married in April 2010.

We tell all our single friends how great this event was ! All the other men & women there were all nice & interesting as well. We both met lots of great singles that night & hope they all met their forever mates too!

Thanks for an unforgettable night.

Sincerely,
John & Lisa Crum (Reno, Sept 2013)"

 

 

 

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 2 New Pre-Dating.com Cities!


GREAT NEWS!  With the recent addition of Jon in Cleveland, OH and Kat in Oklahoma City, OK we now offer monthly events in over 90 US and Canadian cities!
 
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If you are interested in playing matchmaker and adding a new adventure and challenge to your life (part time).

 

 

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We Are Currently Looking For An Event Coordinator in the Following Cities, and MORE! 

  

•    Atlanta, GA
•    Syracuse, NY

•    Baton Rouge, LA

 

...And other event locations available!

 

 

QUOTE OF THE MONTH

 

 

"I didn't have a financial need, and I wasn't very gifted at relationships. I probably was more like what we think of boys as being: hard to pin down and wary of commitment."


- Candice Bergen, Actress

 

 

 

CRAZY DATING FACT OF THE MONTH

 

 

lack of humor as being a deal-breaker declines in importance with each decade you grow older until you reach midlife, when it becomes important once again. 

 

Source:

http://www.match.com/en-us/partner/
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About Pre-Dating

 

Pre-Dating Speed Dating is the world's largest Speed Dating service for busy single professionals with monthly events in over 90 cities. If you have a busy life and don't have time to meet new people, don't like to date clients or co-workers, and are not interested in the bar scene then try Pre-Dating Speed Dating.

 

 

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IN THIS NEWSLETTER:

 

Sent to over 125,000 Single Professionals!

 

  • Pre-Dating Speed Dating Invites YOU to Set Sail With Us and Many Other Groups in November!

  • Event Coordinator Spotlight – Emma from Baltimore, MD
  • Q&A Forum From Singles Just Like You!
  • WOMEN - Looking to Meet The Right Guy - Free Video from Best Selling Author Adam Gilad

  • MEN - Looking to Date Younger Women - Free Video from Best Selling Author Adam Gilad

  • Expansion News
  • Featured Client Reviews
  • Roy's Relationship Corner
  • FREE Pre-Dating Teleseminar: "Are You a Good Catch: The Surprising Answers That Will Help You Find the Right One" with Guest Speaker Charles Johnson, Author, and Relationship Coach
  • Crazy Dating Fact of the Month
  • Quote of the Month

 

 

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November 9th-16th, 2013

 

Join us when we set sail this fall!  Pre-Dating Speed Dating has arranged to be a part of The Wine Dine and Music cruise aboard Royal Caribbean’s newly revitalized Brilliance of the Seas.

 

We’ll sail from Tampa on November 9, 2013 with calls to Grand Cayman, Cozumel and Costa Maya. We’ll also enjoy 3 relaxing days at sea.

 

WHAT YOU GET WHEN YOU GO and use code PD2013 (in addition to the 7 day cruise itself):

 

  • 7 free bottles of wine, 1 from each of their 7 wineries, delivered nightly to your stateroom!
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  • Introduction to Mixology seminar
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Singles Events: Dr. Lydia Belton, and Relationship Coach and Author, Roy Biancalana will be providing two seperate live, onboard seminars focused on helping you acheive a great relationship. We will also be holding singles events, so you can utilize the information you learned! 

 

The Wineries:  Representing Northern California's Wine Country are: Truett-Hurst, Dutcher Crossing, Sapphire Hill, Two Amigos, Robert Young, Flora Springs and Rodney Strong 

 

The Chefs: John Ash, a James Beard Award Winner and Catherine Venturini, is well noted for her inspired cuisine during 35 years in California and the Caribbean

 

The Music: Kenny Loggins, Three Dog Night, Don Felder, World Classic, Rockers. Nestor Torres, Brandon & Leah, Phil Thompson, II Big, and John Burdick 

 

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Pre-Dating Event Coordinator

SPOTLIGHT

 

 

 

Emma, from Baltimore, md

 

 

WHAT GOT YOU INTERESTED IN BEING AN EVENT COORDINATOR (EC) FOR PRE-DATING?

 

A few years ago a friend of mine invited me to attend a speed dating event with her social group in Pennsylvania. I had an excellent time meeting everyone then mingling afterwards. I didn’t have any chemistry with anyone but I thought the concept of meeting face to face was brilliant. I had just started looking into internet dating and I was feeling very uncomfortable with the idea. Even though I had lots of common sense about where to meet these men and what information to give out, it still seemed like I would be wasting lots of time. I went on a few dates with men I met on the internet and knew this was not going to work. The men looked great on paper and were ok on the phone. But when I met them, I knew I had nothing in common with them within 10 minutes.

 

I live near Baltimore and decided to find some Speed dating events near me. I found Pre-Dating Speed Dating and saw they were looking for a new event coordinator. I applied for the position and the rest is history. I really enjoy running the events for other singles in the same situation.

 

WHAT ONE UNIQUE OR EXTRA THING DO YOU DO AT YOUR EVENTS TO MAKE THEM MORE ENJOYABLE?

 

I try to meet everyone at the event. When they come in, I introduce myself and my helper. I have 2 great friends, Wayne and Mary Beth. Either one of them will come assist at each event. They are easy going and both have very clam personalities. They are also single like myself and can relate to the things that these folks have been going through. Just having that in common helps to warm up to the group. Also, I always start my event by giving some examples of questions to ask, just in case they freeze up!

 

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SUCCESS STORY?  

 

I have had many folks contact me and let me know they are still seeing the person they met at one of my events. It’s so nice to help these folks to connect.  I can’t really say I have a favorite, I am just glad it has worked for so many people.

 

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE VENUE AND WHY?  

 

Pre-Dating puts a lot of emphasis on finding high quality venues that will meet the expectations of the upscale busy single professionals who attend our events. I'm happy that I have some really nice venues. One place I really enjoy is The Bay Café. We do our events upstairs, above the bar, and have a beautiful view of the Inner Harbor on the Chesapeake Bay. I’ve even held some events outside when the weather was nice. You can feel the cool breeze and see all the lights reflecting over the harbor, it’s beautiful and very romantic. 

 

WHAT TIPS DO YOU HAVE FOR ATTENDEES OF SPEED DATING EVENTS? 

 

Keep the conversation at a very high level. You are at these events to find out if you want to get to know this person better. Ask about activities they like to do. After all, you’re looking for someone to hang out with on the weekends and on your free time.  At this point, it really doesn’t matter how many children they have or if they are vegan. What matters is if you think you have some things in common and could do some of those things with this person. Just relax and have a good time. They are in the same boat you are in. 

 

Q&A  FORUM:

 

 

 

Questions From Other Singles Like You



Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them? Maybe just a relationship question in general? Some other people did as well and here are their questions to us.

 

If you have a question, simply email us at Questions@Pre-Dating.com and if selected for our next Newsletter you’ll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.


 

 

QUESTION #1:

 

Hi Pre-Dating,

 

I have been dating someone, who I actually met from one of your events here in Los Angeles. My question is, when is it time to "step it up" and move in together? I am nervous about this next step, but also very excited! 

 

Answer from Pre-Dating:

 

Dear "Full Steam Ahead!",

 

I must first congratulate you on a job well done! Looks like the two of you are moving ahead, and are at a wonderful place in your relationship!

 

Your fear is very common, you have been independent for some time, and now, you're loosing a little bit of that "independence" by moving in with someone. Look-  you don't have to give up anything! The most successful relationships come from a mutual understanding of separation. What this means, is that the two of you, though living together, must maintain some sort of independence. Many couples end up falling into the "co-dependent" relationship when moving in together, as it comes naturally. Be sure to set boundaries and goals ahead of time with your partner. No one says, that just because you live together, that you have to spend every moment with one another. 

 

Of course, you will be spending more time with each other, and may learn some things you might not know. For example, you might get frustrated that he doesn't put the seat up when he goes to the bathroom, or, that she forgets to unload the dryer, making all the clothes wrinkled! These are all minor issues, but need to be discussed as you discover more about how the person lives. 

 

That all said, what is the motivation for living together? Is it financial? Or is it just that "time"? If it is financial, take a step back and think about this move carefully. You do not want to move in together too quickly just to save a buck! That is where many relationships go sour. Too much is focused on the dollar, as opposed to what’s truly important within the relationship. If you are both financially sound, and it just seems like the "Right Time", I say, go for it! Be sure to set clear, concise boundaries, and keep an open dialog as to not cause tension in the home. 

 

QUESTION #2:

 

Dear Pre-Dating,

 

I am just getting out of a 22 year marriage, and I am not 100% convinced that Speed Dating is the right avenue for me. I also don't want to join an online site, as I am nervous about who will see me. What are your suggestions?

 

Answer from Pre-Dating:

 

Dear "New to Dating in the Millennia":

 

Well, of course you are reluctant to try Speed Dating! It is new, different, and maybe a little scary, right? Well, ok, maybe a little nerve-wracking at first, but once you get into it, I do think you will have a great time! Everyone you will meet is in the same boat, a bit nervous, but also excited, but, if not for any other reason, why not try it out to brush up on your intro-skills, or for a great story to tell the grandkids one day! Hey, what else are you doing on a Tuesday or Wednesday night anyway? 

 

That said, You are most likely used to the old clunky traditional way of dating, which wastes a lot of time either waiting to just bump into someone or going to places like bars where it can take many nights out to meet someone and all too often, they end up not being the type of person you were looking for. In today's busy world, people don't have the time to waste and what you did prior to getting married might have been ok then, but just isn't efficient in today's faster paced world. Sure, it still exists, but why not get out there and meet more people then what you may by traditional methods? Online dating is good, but you want to be sure to be smart, and follow your gut instincts. 97% of people you meet online are absolutely fine, it's only that 3% of people we here about in the news. So, give it a shot. 

 

There is no one way to date anymore. Open up to all the possibilities out there. The best part of dating now-a-days, is you get to meet alot of great people quickly and easily! 

 

 

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"Adam is brilliant, he really knows how to style the profile so that it is written to attract real men. Adam really captured the essence of what I want in a man. He used my voice and his genius and put it together into "man-magnet" words. If you are serious about online dating, Adam is the man to call. He will show you the way to meeting the right man online." 

 

- Victoria M.

 

"Adam is a truly caring man who really wants all of the women in the world to find true love. If my sister was single, the first man I would set her up with is Adam."

 

- David Wygant

 
 

Both Videos are highly informative and talk more about Adam's highly rated programs and how to get them.

 

_____________________________

 

Roy's Relationship Corner

 

“What Kind of Partner are You Planning to Be?"

 

 

 

Roy Biancalana

Author and Relationship Coach

 

 

Part 7:

 

Are you ready for a real relationship? Though we all want to be in a great relationship, most of us haven’t thought about or devoted ourselves to a set of commitments or behaviors that form the foundation for authentic intimacy.

 

In my relationship coaching practice, I often work with my single clients on 8 different commitments that make them the kind of partner the opposite sex dreams of being with.

 

We have been discussing these 8 commitments in recent newsletters. Part one was the commitment to openness. Part two was the commitment to sexual fidelity. Part three was the commitment to pursuing your creative potential. Part 4 was the commitment to splitting up. Part 5 was the commitment to curiosity. Part 6 was the commitment to giving your gift. Here we focus on the commitment to appreciate. It’s my hope that you’ll deeply consider each of these commitments and say to yourself, “This is the way I am going to function in my relationship.” If you have questions, or if you want to work with me on any of the commitments, my contact information is below.

 

Ok, here is the seventh commitment:

 

The Commitment to Appreciate

 

I commit to being a partner that offers lavish amounts of verbal appreciation (rather than criticism) in my relationship.”

I’m not much for research, but I recently saw a study that said that when one criticism is spoken in a relationship, it takes five verbal appreciations to offset it. I find that to be true in my experience. Criticism has no place in relationships. It’s actually another manifestation of the victim/villain dynamic. Healthy relationships have a culture of noticing and appreciating each other—verbally. They notice things their partner does, but more importantly, they see beyond actions and appreciate essence qualities.

 

An example: Instead of simply saying, “I appreciate you for watering the plants,” a deeper noticing would be, “I appreciate how you use plants to make our home feel alive, beautiful and peaceful.” Wouldn’t a person feel truly seen after hearing that? Commit to being the kind of partner who offers this sort of deep appreciation regularly.

 

Please reach out to me if you want to talk about any of things mentioned in this or any article I’ve written. I offer a complimentary 30-minute session to anyone interested in working with me. 407-687-3387.

 

 

FREE Dating Teleseminar:

 

"Are You A Good Catch"

The Surprising Answers That Will Help You Find the "Right One"

 

With Guest Speaker Charles Johnson, Author and Relationship Coach 

 

~FREE~

 

 

Tuesday, Sept. 10th, 2013

 

8:30PM EST

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 

IN THIS FREE TELESEMINAR WE WILL DISCUSS:

  • Why finding love takes advanced dating education & skills
  • How strategic dating can lead to the “right one”
  • Learn what men and women are really looking for in a mate

  • Recognize what YOU are doing wrong in your dating

  • Are you subconsciously putting out the type of person that repels Mr. or Ms. Right?

  • What really makes you a good catch

 

 

About Our Speaker- Charles Johnson

 

Relationship Expert Charles Johnson, author of “How to Find the Right One and Make it Last!” is dedicated to helping single people learn to identify the right mate, build relationships that lead to marriage and remain happily married.

 

Johnson is a nationally regarded relationship expert, Huffington Post Columnist and has been featured on CNN, CBS, FOX, NBC and radio shows around the country.

 

In the past 25 years he has coached and consulted thousands of single professionals around the world. To date he has coached 590 people into healthy committed relationships and helped marry 123 couples. He continues to help all his clients stay in committed loving relationships.

Over a career that includes more than 20 years in the United States Air Force and 16 years in corporate environments Charles was an atypical manager and mentor of diverse teams across Europe, Asia and North America. His holistic approach to people development and helping those who worked with and around him find balance and achieve both personal and professional success endeared him to those individuals.

 

Helping individuals create a life and a lifestyle where love and happiness is a priority is what defines Charles’ life mission. 

 

 
***PLUS RSVP NOW TO RECEIVE THIS FREE BONUS***
 

 

All attendees will receive:

  • Complimentary one-on-one email coaching with Charles Johnson (3 questions submitted within 24-hours of teleseminar)
  • Complimentary “Are You a Good Catch?” survey for everyone who subscribes to FREE AskCharlesJohnson.com newsletter
  • 25% off the next Charles Johnson webinar with registration fee submitted within 72-hours of teleseminar
  • $5.00 off “How to Find the Right One and Make it Last” purchased directly from AskCharlesJohnson.com during teleseminar

 

Tuesday, Sept. 10th, 2013

 

8:30PM EST

 

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To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit

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877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

 

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FREE Dating Teleseminar

Sept. 10th

 

"Are You A Good Catch"

The Surprising Answers That Will Help You Find the "Right One"

 

With Guest Speaker Charles Johnson, Author and Relationship Coach.

 

 

Tuesday, Sept. 10th, 2013 at 8:30PM EST

 

– Free-

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

IN THIS FREE TELESEMINAR WE WILL DISCUSS:

  • Why finding love takes advanced dating education & skills
  • How strategic dating can lead to the “right one”
  • Learn what men and women are really looking for in a mate
  • Recognize what YOU are doing wrong in your dating
  • Are you subconsciously putting out the type of person that repels Mr. or Ms. Right?
  • What really makes you a good catch

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

Featured Testimonial

 

 

Dear Pre-Dating:

Andrew and I met at the speeddating event at the Spaghetti Factory in Fairfield, OH back in October. We're still dating! I just wanted to let you guys know that long-term relationships CAN come from this! Much better and enjoyable than online dating.


- Andrea W (Jacksonville, Oct 2012) 

 

 

 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit

www.Pre-Dating.com

 

 

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

 

 

 

 

EXPANSION NEWS:

 

 

 2 New Pre-Dating.com Cities!


GREAT NEWS!  With the recent addition of Jenn in Pittsurburgh, PA and Lori in San Francisco, CA we now offer monthly events in over 90 US and Canadian cities!
 
Work With Pre-Dating - Become an Event Coordinator

If you are interested in playing matchmaker and adding a new adventure and challenge to your life (part time).

 

 

Please apply online HERE!

 

(http://www.pre-dating.com/coordinator.php3)

 

We Are Currently Looking For An Event Coordinator in the Following Cities, and MORE! 

  

•    Lansing, MI
•    Rochester, NY

•    Portland, OR

 

...And other event locations available!

 

 

QUOTE OF THE MONTH

 

 

"You don't develop courage by being happy in your relationships everyday. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity."


- Epicurus, Philosopher

 

 

 

CRAZY DATING FACT OF THE MONTH

 

 

During the early twentieth century, dating evolved out of a courtship ritual where young women entertained male callers under the watch of a chaperone. By the 1960s and 1970s, “hooking up” increasingly replaced dating, mainly because the age at which people marry for the first time had begun creeping up.

 

Source: http://facts.randomhistory.com/dating-and-relationship-facts.html

 

About Pre-Dating

 

Pre-Dating Speed Dating is the world's largest Speed Dating service for busy single professionals with monthly events in over 90 cities. If you have a busy life and don't have time to meet new people, don't like to date clients or co-workers, and are not interested in the bar scene then try Pre-Dating Speed Dating.

 

 

Contact Us

 

National Customer Service Loyalty Team

 

Email: Service@Pre-Dating.com

 

Phone:1-877-iPreDate (877-477-3328)

 

Hours: Open 7 Days a Week!

 

Monday-Thursday: 9AM-10PM (EST)

Friday: 9AM-5PM (EST)

Saturday: 10AM-2PM (EST)

Sunday: 3PM-6PM (EST)

 

Follow us on FacebookTwitter and YouTube!

 

   

 

 

 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit:

 

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877-i-PreDate

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www.Pre-Dating.com

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

July 2013

 

                                        

 

 

 

 

IN THIS NEWSLETTER:

 

Sent to over 125,000 Single Professionals!

 

  • Pre-Dating Speed Dating Invites YOU to Set Sail With Us in November!
  • Event Coordinator Spotlight – Danielle- Phoenix, AZ
  • Q&A Forum From Singles Just Like You!
  • WOMEN - Looking to Meet The Right Guy - Free Video from Best Selling Author Adam Gilad

  • MEN - Looking to Date Younger Women - Free Video from Best Selling Author Adam Gilad

  • Expansion News
  • Featured Client Reviews
  • Roy's Relationship Corner
  • FREE Pre-Dating Teleseminar: "How to Awaken Your Inner Soulmate: 5 Secrets to Attract the Love of Your Life" with Guest Speaker Debi Berndt, Author, and Relationship Coach
  • Crazy Dating Fact of the Month
  • Quote of the Month

 

 

Set Sail With Pre-Dating Speed Dating

 

on

 

The Wine, Dine and Music Cruise!

 

 

November 9th-16th, 2013

 

Join us when we set sail this fall!  Pre-Dating Speed Dating has arranged to be a part of The Wine Dine and Music cruise aboard Royal Caribbean’s newly revitalized Brilliance of the Seas.

 

We’ll sail from Tampa on November 9, 2013 with calls to Grand Cayman, Cozumel and Costa Maya. We’ll also enjoy 3 relaxing days at sea.

 

WHAT YOU GET WHEN YOU GO and use code PD2013 (in addition to the 7 day cruise itself):

 

  • 7 free bottles of wine, 1 from each of their 7 wineries, delivered nightly to your stateroom!
  • Lock and Key Singles Event
  • Speed Dating Sessions
  • 2 Dating / Relationship Seminars
  • Wine tastings*
  • Wine seminars
  • Nightly Shows including meet & greet the artist
  • Introduction to Mixology seminar
  • Chances to win onboard raffles for a free room upgrade, front row tickets to the shows, and much more!
  • ...And More

 

Singles Events: Dr. Lydia Belton, and Relationship Coach and Author, Roy Biancalana will be providing two seperate live, onboard seminars focused on helping you acheive a great relationship. We will also be holding singles events, so you can utilize the information you learned! 

 

The Wineries:  Representing Northern California's Wine Country are: Truett-Hurst, Dutcher Crossing, Sapphire Hill, Two Amigos, Robert Young, Flora Springs and Rodney Strong 

 

The Chefs: John Ash, a James Beard Award Winner and Catherine Venturini, is well noted for her inspired cuisine during 35 years in California and the Caribbean

 

The Music: Kenny Loggins, Three Dog Night, Don Felder, World Classic, Rockers. Nestor Torres, Brandon & Leah, Phil Thompson, II Big, and John Burdick 

 

Cabins are Limited, Sign Up Here to Reserve Your Cruise!

 

Use Promo Code PD2013 And Get:

 

+Access to All Singles Events and Dating Seminars

+7 Bottles of Wine (1 per night)

+All Shows and Artist Meet & Greets

 

...And Plenty More, Click for FULL Details.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Pre-Dating Event Coordinator

SPOTLIGHT

 

 

 

Danielle, from Phoenix, AZ

 

 

WHAT GOT YOU INTERESTED IN BEING AN EVENT COORDINATOR (EC) FOR PRE-DATING?

 

I was already running Lock & Key Events, a cross promotional partner. So it just seemed like a great fit to coordinate events for both companies, and become the "Scottsdale Singles Event Queen" :) Now attendees can just contact me and attend either event.

 

WHAT ONE UNIQUE OR EXTRA THING DO YOU DO AT YOUR EVENTS TO MAKE THEM MORE ENJOYABLE?

 

I like to mix in match sheets that I have copied on colored paper, and when I randomly hand out the match sheets, I give the attendees that received the colored sheet a free admission to attend another event. I give out 2 free events per session.

 

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SUCCESS STORY?  

 

I don’t always get all the success stories.  But I invited the teller from my bank to an event over 2 years go, she didn’t want to come alone so she brought her roommate. Her roommate met a guy at the event. They are still dating and just moved in with each other.  I love the success stories!! So if you have any please feel free to pass them along to your local coordinator, or to our customer service team. Since I am a wedding planner as well, once you meet that special someone at one of our GREAT speed dating events, I can also help to plan a wedding that is just as special!

 

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE VENUE AND WHY?  

 

My favorite venues are Pita House or Frasher's. At both venues we get a private room, which gives our event complete privacy. This way the regulars at the venue are not looking over your shoulder. You are more relaxed when you don’t feel like the entire location is watching you (they aren't, but we understand it sometimes can feel that way).

 

WHAT TIPS DO YOU HAVE FOR ATTENDEES OF SPEED DATING EVENTS? 

 

Everyone is nervous. Just relax, be yourself and have fun!

 

Q&A  FORUM:

 

 

 

Questions From Other Singles Like You



Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them? Maybe just a relationship question in general? Some other people did as well and here are their questions to us.

 

If you have a question, simply email us at Questions@Pre-Dating.com and if selected for our next Newsletter you’ll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.


 

 

QUESTION #1:

 

Hi Pre-Dating,

I have certain criteria, such as- I do not want to date someone who smokes. What is the best way to approach this without coming off as rude? 

 

Answer from Pre-Dating:

 

Dear "Picky",

 

I, of course am completely kidding by calling you "Picky". Everyone has, and should have a set of criteria for which they look for when dating.

 

Of course, trying to find those attributes, or habits may not be the most comfortable, but the number one thing you can do to make this a bit easier for yourself is to be intuitive. To use your example, smoking- it's very easy to tell who is a smoker, simply look out for the odor. If they smell of it, they are most likely smokers. Another example would be that you don't want to date someone who owns a dog or cat due to allergies, or what have you. Simply look at their clothing- is there animal hair present? If so, they are most likely an animal owner.

 

Being intuitive on your dates will help you determine alot about the person you are on a date with. Dating is a numbers game, you need to find the right person for you by determining your basic criteria, and finding someone who matches what you are looking for.  

 

QUESTION #2:

 

Dear Pre-Dating,

 

I recently attended a speed dating event, received a bunch of matches! I was VERY impressed, and was very excited to speak to some of the ladies who picked me. I emailed them the day I got the matches, but I have not heard back from any of them! It's been 2 days! What did I do wrong?

 

Answer from Pre-Dating:

 

Dear "Baffled":

 

One thing to remember, is some people do not check their email as much as others. Also, remember, they most likely received emails from other men as well. So, what we should talk about is the content of the email, and how do you make sure that you stand apart from the other men.

 

Women (and men too), like to hear that you listened to them, and that they are something special. If you sent a blanket response to all of them, without anything specific about the dates (which I assume you did, since you were able to respond to all of them in a short period of time), you probably did not intrigue them. You want to be sure that you mention specific details about the conversation you had, about the way she looked, her outfit, etc.

 

My recommendation is, wait another day, then follow up with the specific elements that made you pick her. This will help your matches see that they were important enough to you that you remembered those details. Even recommend going for a drink or a quick bite at a venue that you think she would like from what you learned about her on your mini-date. 

 

 

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by Author, Adam Gilad

 

 

Ladies,

 

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  • The 3 BIGGEST mistakes that women make when writing their profiles that INSTANTLY turn off good men
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Men,

 

"Are You a Man 35-59 Looking to Date Younger Women?"

 

Watch This Informative Video Provided to Us by Past Pre-Dating Teleseminar Speaker Adam Gilad. Everyone has preferences and if you're a man who is open to meeting younger women, no matter your age, you're invited to get free access to this video Dating Expert Adam Gilad has created 

 

Free Video - MEN Click To Watch Right Now

 

Watch This Video and Learn: 

  • How to approach, connect with and inspire women (all women regardless of age, but particularly younger)
  • The Key Things You Need To Date Younger Women (without them, you can pretty much forget about it)
  • How to avoid being that "older creepy" guy they despise (or laugh at)

Free Video - MEN Click To Watch Right Now

 

 

Adam is a prolific author, speaker, screenwriter, film producer, mentor and coach, Adam Gilad lives to spark his readers, clients and audiences into creating a robust, daring and fearless life of love, adventure and nurturance. An Emmy Nominated Executive Producer, Adam’s award-winning films have appeared on USANetworks, Lifetime and TNT. He has authored over 20 television shows and teaches dating, intimacy and deep eros.

 

Adam has graciously offered you access to his newest programs at a DEEP discount. There are two seperate programs, one geared towards women, and one geared specifically for men. 

 

Here are what people are saying about them:

 

"Adam is brilliant, he really knows how to style the profile so that it is written to attract real men. Adam really captured the essence of what I want in a man. He used my voice and his genius and put it together into "man-magnet" words. If you are serious about online dating, Adam is the man to call. He will show you the way to meeting the right man online." 

 

- Victoria M.

 

"Adam is a truly caring man who really wants all of the women in the world to find true love. If my sister was single, the first man I would set her up with is Adam."

 

- David Wygant

 
 

Both Videos are highly informative and talk more about Adam's highly rated programs and how to get them.

 

_____________________________

 

Roy's Relationship Corner

 

“What Kind of Partner are You Planning to Be?"

 

 

 

Roy Biancalana

Author and Relationship Coach

 

 

Part 6:

 

Are you ready for a real relationship? Though we all want to be in a great relationship, most of us haven’t thought about or devoted ourselves to a set of commitments or behaviors that form the foundation for authentic intimacy.

 

In my relationship coaching practice, I often work with my single clients on 8 different commitments that make them the kind of partner the opposite sex dreams of being with.

 

We have been discussing these 8 commitments in recent newsletters. Part one was the commitment to openness. Part two was the commitment to sexual fidelity. Part three was the commitment to pursuing your creative potential. Part 4 was the commitment to splitting up. Part 5 was the commitment to curiosity. Here we focus on the commitment to give your gift.

 

It’s my hope that you’ll deeply consider each of these commitments and say to yourself, “This is the way I am going to function in my relationship.” If you have questions, or if you want to work with me on any of the commitments, my contact information is below. Ok, here is the sixth commitment:

 

The Commitment to Give Your Gift

Masculine Partner: “I commit to giving the clarity of my consciousness and the strength of my presence to this relationship so that my partner may fully open to God.”

Feminine Partner: “I commit to giving my radiant life force and my emotional sensuality in this relationship so that my partner may fully open to God.”

 

The primary reason we seek intimacy is to experience a kind of energetic wholeness that can only come from our reciprocal opposite in relationship. Sexual attraction, or chemistry, is all about seeking this energetic wholeness and balance.

 

The masculine partner craves the radiant life force of the feminine so he can be rejuvenated and inspired to succeed in his quest for freedom. He needs her wild, passionate emotional energy to enliven his heart and ground him in his body. The feminine partner, similarly, craves the masculine’s clarity and presence so she can fully relax, trust and surrender herself to love and life—not to mention her partner!

 

Your partner will choose you because you have what they’re missing. If you want to keep your romance alive, you must commit to giving your partner your masculine or feminine essence. You need each other. Not spiritually, of course, but energetically. Give yourself gift to them.

 

Please reach out to me if you want to talk about any of things mentioned in this or any article I’ve written. I offer a complimentary 30-minute session to anyone interested in working with me. 407-687-3387.

 

 

FREE Dating Teleseminar:

 

"How to Awaken Your Inner Soulmate"

5 Secrets to Attract the Love of Your Life

 

With Guest Speaker Debi Berndt, Author and Relationship Coach 

 

~FREE~

 

 

Tuesday, August 6th, 2013

 

8:30PM EST

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 

IN THIS FREE TELESEMINAR WE WILL DISCUSS:

  • How every man/woman you date is a reflection of something in you
  • Why singles keep choosing the wrong partners even though they want love
  • How to change the default to who you are attracting to find true love
  • What is the Inner Adam/Eve that is the mate selection mechanism in our mind
  • How fixing yourself is futile and actually works against you in your search for love

 

 

About Our Speaker- Debi Berndt

 

Debi Berndt and her partner, Dr. Robert Maldonado: are the co-founders of Creative Love™, a personal development company that helps people attract, master and teach love. They've worked with thousands of singles across the world to find true love and their Love Attraction Formula™ is now available in 13 different languages through their certified Creative Love Coaches. The process is based on Jungian Psychology and Eastern Philosophy, a deeper approach than surface dating tips, Creative Love helps singles create CONSCIOUS CHEMISTRY with the person that is meant for their true self.

Debi is the bestselling author of the book, LET LOVE IN: Open Your Heart & Mind to Attract Your Ideal Partner (Wiley 2010) and Robert holds a Ph.D. in Psychology and is also an expert in Eastern Philosophy, Yoga and Meditation.

Their work has been featured on ABC, NBC, FOX, Playboy Radio, Huffington Post, YourTango.com, Cosmopolitan, Natural Health, and more. Debi was featured in the Finnish Reality Show New Yorkissa with one of her success stories who met her true love in 8 weeks.

 

 

 
***PLUS RSVP NOW TO RECEIVE THIS FREE BONUS***
 

 

All attendees will receive:

  • Complimentary 15 min. laser coaching call with one of our Love Consultants for everyone who downloads the kit
  • Self-Esteem Kit - Accurate Thinking Lecture & 3 powerful meditations to work with your subconscious to help you naturally increase your confidence fast for better dating experiences Valued at $200
  • Special Offers on Her New "Love Switch Course"

 

Tuesday, August 6th, 2013

 

8:30PM EST

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 


 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit

www.Pre-Dating.com

 

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

 

You are receiving this Newsletter because you have either been to or registered for a Pre-Dating Speed Dating (formerly Cupid.com/PreDating) event in the past, have requested and currently receive our twice monthly event schedule notifications for your city, or have interacted with one of our Event Coordinators at a networking event, trade show, etc. and requested to be kept in the loop. We only send emails to those who request them (what's the value of sending stuff to people who never asked for it anyway?). If you no longer wish to receive our emails, follow the instructions below. Keep in mind by opting out of our National Newsletter, you also opt out of our local singles event schedule email notifications.

 

FREE Dating Teleseminar

August 6th

 

"How to Awaken Your Inner Soulmate"

5 Secrets to Attract the Love of Your Life

 

With Guest Speaker Debi Berndt, Author and Relationship Coach.

 

 

Tuesday, August 6th, 2013 at 8:30PM EST

 

– Free-

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

IN THIS FREE TELESEMINAR WE WILL DISCUSS:

  • How every man/woman you date is a reflection of something in you
  • Why singles keep choosing the wrong partners even though they want love
  • How to change the default to who you are attracting to find true love
  • What is the Inner Adam/Eve that is the mate selection mechanism in our mind
  • How fixing yourself is futile and actually works against you in your search for love

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

Featured Testimonial

 

 

Just a quick note to let you know that I met my husband at one of your Miami speed-dating evenings in July of 2005.

 

We are happily married, and I'm pretty certain that I would not have met him elsewhere, as neither of us were into the bar scene. Prior to meeting him, I attended several other speed-dating evenings though your company and they were always fun evenings with people who I found to be attractive, bright, and professional.

 

I preferred your speed-dating evenings to bars, other singles-type events, or Internet dating. It was nice to be able to meet a certain number of single people in person who were of a similar age and also looking for a relationship, then decide if there was chemistry/connection with any of them, and if so take it from there.

 

I continue to recommend your group to my single friends and acquaintances and definitely would encourage people looking for a relationship to try speed dating. Thanks so much!"

 

- Beth W  

 

 

 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit

www.Pre-Dating.com

 

 

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

 

 

 

 

EXPANSION NEWS:

 

 

 2 New Pre-Dating.com Cities!


GREAT NEWS!  With the recent addition of Susie in Kalamazoo, MI and Jeannie in New York City, we now offer monthly events in over 90 US and Canadian cities!
 
Work With Pre-Dating - Become an Event Coordinator

If you are interested in playing matchmaker and adding a new adventure and challenge to your life (part time).

 

 

Please apply online HERE!

 

(http://www.pre-dating.com/coordinator.php3)

 

We Are Currently Looking For An Event Coordinator in the Following Cities, and MORE! 

  

•    Lansing, MI
•    Rochester, NY

•    Portland, OR

 

...And other event locations available!

 

 

QUOTE OF THE MONTH

 

 

"You know, the man of my dreams might walk round the corner tomorrow. I'm older and wiser and I think I'd make a great girlfriend. I live in the realm of romantic possibility."


- Stevie Nicks- Singer/Songwriter

 

 

 

CRAZY DATING FACT OF THE MONTH

 

 

People are more likely to fall for one another if the location of their first date is more exciting

 

Source: likes.com

 

About Pre-Dating

 

Pre-Dating Speed Dating is the world's largest Speed Dating service for busy single professionals with monthly events in over 70 cities. If you have a busy life and don't have time to meet new people, don't like to date clients or co-workers, and are not interested in the bar scene then try Pre-Dating Speed Dating.

 

 

Contact Us

 

National Customer Service Loyalty Team

 

Email: Service@Pre-Dating.com

 

Phone:1-877-iPreDate (877-477-3328)

 

Hours: Open 7 Days a Week!

 

Monday-Thursday: 9AM-10PM (EST)

Friday: 9AM-5PM (EST)

Saturday: 10AM-2PM (EST)

Sunday: 3PM-6PM (EST)

 

Follow us on FacebookTwitter and YouTube!

 

   

 

 

 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit:

 

www.Pre-Dating.com

 

 

 

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

 


www.Pre-Dating.com

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

June 2013

 

                                        

 

 

 

 

IN THIS NEWSLETTER:

 

Sent to over 120,000 Single Professionals!

 

  • Pre-Dating Speed Dating Invites YOU to Set Sail With Us in November!
  • Event Coordinator Spotlight – Mindy, Fort Lauderdale, FL
  • Q&A Forum From Singles Just Like You!
  • Expansion News
  • Featured Client Reviews
  • Roy's Relationship Corner
  • FREE Pre-Dating Teleseminar: "Attracting Lasting Love: 5 Simple Steps (That Work!) to Find Your Life Partner" with Guest Speaker Roy Biancalana, Author, Relationship Coach and TV Personality
  • Crazy Dating Fact of the Month
  • Quote of the Month

 

 

Set Sail With Pre-Dating Speed Dating

 

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November 9th-16th, 2013

 

Join us when we set sail this fall!  Pre-Dating Speed Dating has arranged to be a part of The Wine Dine and Music cruise aboard Royal Caribbean’s newly revitalized Brilliance of the Seas.  We’ll sail from Tampa on November 9, 2013 with calls to Grand Cayman, Cozumel and Costa Maya. We’ll also enjoy 3 relaxing days at sea.

 

Included in the program is: This exciting 7 day cruise departs from Tampa, Florida, with calls to Grand Cayman, Cozumel and Costa Maya.  The ship returns to Tampa.  Guests will enjoy three wonderful days at sea, wine delivered to guest cabins nightly, star-studded concerts, food and wine seminars, food and wine tastings and a variety of on board activities. Plus, Singles Events and Seminars provided by Pre-Dating Speed Dating and Lock and Key Events! 

 

The Wineries:  Representing Northern California's Wine Country are: Truett-Hurst, Dutcher Crossing, Sapphire Hill, Two Amigos, Robert Young, Flora Springs and Rodney Strong 

 

The Chefs: John Ash, a James Beard Award Winner and Catherine Venturini, is well noted for her inspired cuisine during 35 years in California and the Caribbean

 

The Music: Kenny Loggins, Three Dog Night, Don Felder, World Classic, Rockers. Nestor Torres, Brandon & Leah, Phil Thompson, II Big, and John Burdick 

 

Cabins are Limited, Sign Up Here to Reserve Your Cruise!

 

Use Promo Code PD2013 And Be Eligable to Win These FUN Prizes:

 

+Upgraded Room+

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Pre-Dating Event Coordinator

SPOTLIGHT

 

 

 

Mindy, from Fort Lauderdale, FL

 

 

WHAT GOT YOU INTERESTED IN BEING AN EVENT COORDINATOR (EC) FOR PRE-DATING?

 

I fixed up my childhood friends who have been married for 25 years, and since that time I have always loved being a matchmaker. When I first moved to Florida I attended my first Speed Dating event and knew this was a great concept. I do believe we all have that special someone, and if I can help bring them together, it makes me Happy. This is such a natural fit for me! I am an outgoing, energetic person and this is so much fun. I look forward to each and every event.

 

WHAT ONE UNIQUE OR EXTRA THING DO YOU DO AT YOUR EVENTS TO MAKE THEM MORE ENJOYABLE?

 

I decorate the tables with hearts and candy, and other funny things to help everyone feel comfortable when they first sit down. Also colored (pink and blue) match sheets make the daters smile.  After the event I have everyone write their name on a heart and I do a raffle for funny gifts.  

 

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SUCCESS STORY?  

 

I have only been with Pre-Dating for about 6 months, but I have had a few daters who called me and told they are in exclusive relationships thanks to our events.

 

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE VENUE AND WHY?  

 

I don't have a "favorite". Each venue has it's own unique characteristics.

 

WHAT TIPS DO YOU HAVE FOR ATTENDEES OF SPEED DATING EVENTS? 

 

Bring your "SMILE", relax and be yourself.  Don't forget to ask your deal breaker questions!

 

Dating should be FUN!!!So sit back and enjoy the ride.

 

Q&A  FORUM:

 

 

 

Questions From Other Singles Like You



Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them? Maybe just a relationship question in general? Some other people did as well and here are their questions to us.

 

If you have a question, simply email us at Questions@Pre-Dating.com and if selected for our next Newsletter you’ll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.



 

 

QUESTION #1:

 

Hi Pre-Dating,

 

I am having a really hard time connecting with people, and am not really sure why. I have been in past relationships that have fallen apart, I just cannot seem to hold onto a relationship. What am I doing wrong?

 

Answer from Pre-Dating:

 

Dear "Confused and Single",

 

Many people fall into your situation. It is quite simple, there is something from your past, or your present, that is holding you back from pursuing a healthy, prosperous relationship. 

 

Over the last several years, there has been a radical boom in the "Coaching" field, whether they are career oriented, overall life coaches, or focused on the relationship field. My biggest recommendation is to find a relationship coach that you feel comfortable with. Most certified coaches will dive in, and find out exactly what is causing these issues, work with you on how to fix these issues, and help you on your way to relationship bliss.

 

One of the most important things of value that I can share with you, is that you need to focus on you, and loving you, before you can allow anyone else in. 

 

QUESTION #2:

 

Dear Pre-Dating,

 

I am very excited to share, that I met a wonderful lady for whom I have been dating for a couple of months. We have a very open and honest relationship, however, she recently opened up about a past drug abuse history, and I am a bit concerned that this will become a problem down the line. She has been sober for 3 years, but no longer goes to meetings, or seeks counseling. What are your thoughts on this?

 

Answer from Pre-Dating:

 

Dear "Happy and Honest":

 

First off, hat's off to you on your new found squeeze! That is GREAT News! As far as the past addiction issue, this is honestly something that I would recommend you speak to a licensed therapist about, however, I will share with you my thoughts as well. 

 

I think it is wonderful that she has been open about her past issues, and depending on the severity of the situation, it could very well be in the past, and stay in the past. However, studies show that 70% of drug and alcohol abusers do relapse once, or more times throughout their life. The ones that tend to not relapse are the ones that follow through with meetings, become sponsors through NA or AA meetings, do community outreach, and so on. The fact that she no longer does any kind of counseling surly will have an impact on her future as a sober person. 

 

That said, again, I highly recommend that the two of you invest in a good local counselor that you both can speak to on this subject, as it is something that you do not want to "push aside".

Roy's Relationship Corner

 

“What Kind of Partner are You Planning to Be?"

 

 

 

Roy Biancalana

Author and Relationship Coach

 

 

Part 5:

 

Are you ready for a real relationship? Though we all want to be in a great relationship, most of us haven’t thought about or devoted ourselves to a set of commitments or behaviors that form the foundation for authentic intimacy.

 

In my relationship coaching practice, I often work with my single clients on 8 different commitments that make them the kind of partner the opposite sex dreams of being with.

 

We have been discussing these 8 commitments in recent newsletters. Part one was the commitment to openness. Part two was the commitment to sexual fidelity. Part three was the commitment to pursuing your creative potential. Part 4 was the commitment to splitting up. Here we focus on the commitment to curiosity. It’s my hope that you’ll deeply consider each of these commitments and say to yourself, “This is the way I am going to function in my relationship.” If you have questions, or if you want to work with me on any of the commitments, my contact information is below. Ok, here is the fifth commitment:

 

The Commitment to Curiosity

 

“I commit to not blaming my partner for the condition of my life or our relationship, but instead to become curious about my role in the dynamic I/we are experiencing.”

 

When your relationship hits a rough spot—and it will, all do—you’re presented with two options. The first and most common option is to blame the other person for what’s happening or what you’re feeling. In other words, you play the villain/victim blame game. The other option is to choose curiosity, which means wondering about what your part is in the dynamic you’re experiencing.

 

For example, let’s say your partner, without you knowing it, is spending significant amounts of money. What do you do? Well, option one would be to blame them for being deceptive.

 

They’re the villain and you are the poor innocent victim. That get’s you nowhere, for they will defend themselves by blaming you for something, making you the villain and claiming that they are the true victim in the situation. “Well, look how much money you spent on such and such! What I’m doing is nothing compared to what you’re doing.” Now the power struggle for the victim position is in full swing.

 

But there’s another option, which is to become curious about your role in your partner’s deception with money. When you ask yourself how you could be responsible for this dynamic, what you might discover is that you’re so anal and hung up about money and that you freak out about every nickel and dime spent, that your partner feels he or she has to hide what they’re doing. Perhaps if you worked on your issues with money, your partner wouldn’t feel the need to be deceptive! Does this mean their deception is ok? Of course not (remember commitment #1). But when you’re curious, you see how the issue is co-created. No one is to blame. There’s only a pattern that needs to be addressed.

 

Please reach out to me if you want to talk about any of things mentioned in this or any article I’ve written. I offer a complimentary 30-minute session to anyone interested in working with me. 407-687-3387.

 

 

FREE Dating Teleseminar:

 

"Attracting Lasting Love"

...5 Simple Steps (The Work!) to Find your Life Partner.

 

With Guest Speaker Roy Biancalana, Author, Relationship Coach and TV Personality

 

~FREE~

 

 

Tuesday, July 2nd, 2013

 

8:30PM EST

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 

In this Free Teleseminar We'll Investigate These 5 Questions:

 

  • What is the real reason I'm still single?
  • Have I let go of the baggage from my past relationships?
  • Do I know my "love persona" and how to dissolve it?
  • Have I mastered the top 2 skills it takes to make a relationship work?
  • Is my sexual essence (masculine or feminine) being displayed or diminished?

 

 

About Our Speaker- Roy Biancalana

 

Roy Biancalana: is known as "The Intimacy Guru," and is a nationally recognized leader in the field of attraction, intimacy and conscious relationships. He appears regularly on Fox35 TV in Orlando, FL as their relationship expert and is the author of the book, "A Drink with Legs" sold worldwide.

 

Roy is a certified relationship coach, spiritual teacher and was a PGA Tour player. His passion is working with men and women who are committed to awakening to their true spiritual nature and experiencing the love life they most desire. He specializes in supporting single people in attracting the love of their lives and also helping those who are in committed partnerships experience a deeper level of intimacy. He has clients all over the world and coaches by phone, Skype or in person.

 

 

 
***PLUS RSVP NOW TO RECEIVE THIS FREE BONUS***
 

 

 

All attendees will receive:

  • Complimentary 30-minute exploratory coaching session
  • Chance to win one of 2 books that will be raffled off after the teleseminar
  • Special Access to a 4-minute video clip describing Roy's new e-course

 

Tuesday, July 2nd, 2013

 

8:30PM EST

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 


 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit

www.Pre-Dating.com

 

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

 

You are receiving this Newsletter because you have either been to or registered for a Pre-Dating Speed Dating (formerly Cupid.com/PreDating) event in the past, have requested and currently receive our twice monthly event schedule notifications for your city, or have interacted with one of our Event Coordinators at a networking event, trade show, etc. and requested to be kept in the loop. We only send emails to those who request them (what's the value of sending stuff to people who never asked for it anyway?). If you no longer wish to receive our emails, follow the instructions below. Keep in mind by opting out of our National Newsletter, you also opt out of our local singles event schedule email notifications.

 

FREE Dating Teleseminar

July 2nd

 

"Attracting Lasting Love"

5 Simple Steps (That Work!) to Find Your Life Partner

 

With Guest Speaker Roy Biancalana, Author, Relationship Coach and TV Personality

 

 

Tuesday, July 2nd, 2013 at 8:30PM EST

 

– Free-

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

In this Free Teleseminar We'll Investigate These 5 Questions:

  • What is the real reason I'm still single?
  • Have I let go of the baggage from my past relationships?
  • Do I know my "love persona" and how to dissolve it?
  • Have I mastered the top 2 skills it takes to make a relationship work?
  • Is my sexual essence (masculine or feminine) being displayed or diminished?

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

Featured Testimonial

 

 

Our paths would never have crossed without meeting through a Pre-Dating Speed Dating event.

I was working in the semiconductor industry and Traci, my future wife, was working with a non-profit organization on social Justice issues.

 

Speed Dating provided a safe and professional environment to meet new people outside of our usual social circles. Karen, a friend and colleague, organized the event and encouraged me to attend.

 

After that initial 6 minute introduction, where Traci and I met, we exchanged emails and went out for lunch a week later where we talked for almost 4 hours. We found out that we grew up only 120 miles from each other in the Midwest, had many of the same core values, and shared a passion for music and dancing. Now after 6 1/2 years together, we celebrated our 5th wedding anniversary this past January and enjoy parenting our son Carlos who is almost 3 1/2 years old. We happily tell others how we met and encourage them to give Speed Dating a try as it just may lead them to find their soul mate like it did for us."

 

- Mark (Albuquerque, April 2013)  

 

 

 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit

www.Pre-Dating.com

 

 

877-i-PreDate

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EXPANSION NEWS:

 

 

New Pre-Dating.com Cities!


GREAT NEWS!  With the recent addition of David in LA and Stephanie in Des Moines, IA, we now offer monthly events in over 90 US and Canadian cities!
 
Work With Pre-Dating - Become an Event Coordinator

If you are interested in playing matchmaker and adding a new adventure and challenge to your life (part time).

 

 

Please apply online HERE!

 

(http://www.pre-dating.com/coordinator.php3)

 

We Are Currently Looking For An Event Coordinator in the Following Cities, and MORE! 

  

•    Lansing, MI
•    Rochester, NY

•    Palm Beach, FL

•    Portland, OR

 

...And other event locations available!

 

 

QUOTE OF THE MONTH

 

 

"Spiritual relationship is far more precious than physical. Physical relationship divorced from spiritual is body without soul."


- Mahatma Gandhi 

 

 

 

CRAZY DATING FACT OF THE MONTH

 

 

 

A U.K. study found that a whopping 28 percent said they'd never shack up with a dog owner. 

 

Source: Cosmopolitan.com

 

About Pre-Dating

 

Pre-Dating Speed Dating is the world's largest Speed Dating service for busy single professionals with monthly events in over 70 cities. If you have a busy life and don't have time to meet new people, don't like to date clients or co-workers, and are not interested in the bar scene then try Pre-Dating Speed Dating.

 

 

Contact Us

 

National Customer Service Loyalty Team

 

Email: Service@Pre-Dating.com

 

Phone:1-877-iPreDate (877-477-3328)

 

Hours: Open 7 Days a Week!

 

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Friday: 9AM-5PM (EST)

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IN THIS NEWSLETTER:

 

Sent to over 120,000 Single Professionals!

 

  • Event Coordinator Spotlight – Mary, Louisville/ Lexington, KY
  • Q&A Forum From Singles Just Like You!
  • Expansion News
  • Featured Client Reviews
  • Roy's Relationship Corner
  • FREE Pre-Dating Teleseminar: "The Laws of Modern Day Attraction: 5 Steps to Reeling The RIGHT One in Today's Dating Pool" with Guest Speaker Carmelia Ray, Author, Dating and Match Making Expert, and Director of Business Development for LavaLife
  • Crazy Dating Fact of the Month
  • Quote of the Month

 

 

 

 

Pre-Dating Event Coordinator

SPOTLIGHT

 

 

 

Mary, from Louisville and Lexington, KY

 

 

WHAT GOT YOU INTERESTED IN BEING AN EVENT COORDINATOR (EC) FOR PRE-DATING?

 

I was looking for supplemental income that would allow me the flexibility to be home for my kids but, it was just as important that I be the “master of my own success”. Pre-Dating Speed Dating seemed to fit and also be fun!

 

WHAT ONE UNIQUE OR EXTRA THING DO YOU DO AT YOUR EVENTS TO MAKE THEM MORE ENJOYABLE?

 

I try to bring humor into the event by poking fun at the

behavioral differences among the sexes. I usually get at least some courtesy laughs but sometimes it’s a tough crowd and my jokes tank. It’s those times when I think, “Mary, don’t quit your day job”.

 

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SUCCESS STORY?  

 

I've only been doing this since February, but one story I share often is about one dater who attended two events without one match. Then, at the 3rd event, he made five mutual matches! Proof that speed dating IS a numbers game.

 

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE VENUE AND WHY?  

 

The Bard's Town because Doug Shutte, the owner, is always such a pleasure to work with and he understands the value speed dating events bring to the participants and the marketing value it brings to his business. He just “gets it”.  Also, the venue is unpretentious and friendly, which I think helps the participants to feel more at ease.

 

WHAT TIPS DO YOU HAVE FOR ATTENDEES OF SPEED DATING EVENTS? 

 

Be your best self but most importantly, have fun! Also, for those who feel nervous before an event, it may be comforting to know that everyone there is as nervous as you – even me!

 

Q&A  FORUM:

 

 

 

Questions From Other Singles Like You



Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them? Maybe just a relationship question in general? Some other people did as well and here are their questions to us.

 

If you have a question, simply email us at Questions@Pre-Dating.com and if selected for our next Newsletter you’ll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.



 

 

QUESTION #1:

 

Hi Pre-Dating,

 

I am a forty-something woman who finds myself attracted to only younger men (like, men in their 20's!). I am not sure why, but men in my age bracket do not attract me. Where is the best way to meet younger men looking for older women? Is this common?

 

Answer from Pre-Dating:

 

Dear "Cougar and Proud of It",

 

Let me preface this by saying that "Cougar" is not a bad or derogatory term, have fun with it, and own it! If that's what you like- own your Cougar lifestyle! Your attraction to younger men is not uncommon at all! Many women in their 30's, 40's and 50's are finding themselves more and more dating younger men. Women have either been attracted for decades or not, just didn't date. Look at Jennifer Lopez and Casper Smart! He's 25, and she is in her 40's, or, Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore! It's becoming much more acceptable within our modern society to date, or even marry, a younger man. 

 

Now, where do you meet younger men? Of course, Pre-Dating is a great avenue, and in some cities, we offer events for older women seeking younger men. If you do not have this in your area, ask your event coordinator to try it out. Other routes you can try are specifically branded websites that cater to your lifestyle. Simply look up "Cougar Dating", and a bunch of websites will pop up. Hey, you never know what you may find! 

 

 

QUESTION #2:

 

Dear Pre-Dating,

 

I am an active and fit guy in my 30's and, due to my schedule, am way too busy to go out like I used to back in my 20's. I also happen to be a single father, and find that women in their 30's get turned off by me due to my hectic schedule, and not being able to make alot of time for them. What do you recommend? 

 

Answer from Pre-Dating:

 

Dear "Busy, Single Father":

 

Many, many, many men, and women fall into the same busy life style you have created for yourself, especially in an economy where people are needing to have multiple income streams coming in just to make ends meet. 

 

That said, you need to put time aside to have fun and meet women. It's easier said then done, but if you do not, you are going to continue having the same problems over and over again.

 

My best recommendation for you is to take one night off a week, get a baby sitter, and meet some ladies. Hey, if you find one you like, you have that one night where you both can spend time together. 

 

You absolutely, positively need to take a night off for yourself, if you do not, you will simply begin to resent all that is taking away from your free time. It's vital that you do this for you, your career, and your child. 

Roy's Relationship Corner

 

“What Kind of Partner are You Planning to Be?"

 

 

 

Roy Biancalana

Author and Relationship Coach

 

 

Part 4

 

Are you ready for a real relationship? Though we all want to be in a great relationship, most of us haven’t thought about or devoted ourselves to a set of commitments or behaviors that form the foundation for authentic intimacy.

 

In my relationship coaching practice, I often work with my single clients on 8 different commitments that make them the kind of partner the opposite sex dreams of being with.

 

We have been discussing these 8 commitments in recent newsletters. Part one was the commitment to openness. Part two was the commitment to sexual fidelity. Part three was the commitment to pursuing your creative potential. Here we talk about the commitment to splitting up. It’s my hope that you’ll deeply consider each of these commitments and say to yourself, “This is the way I am going to function in my relationship.” If you have questions, or if you want to work with me on any of the commitments, my contact information is below. Ok, here is the fourth commitment:

 

The Commitment to Split Up

 

“I commit to staying in a committed relationship with my partner as long as it’s furthering our individual evolution and opening us both to God.”

 

Am I actually including a commitment about splitting up on my list? You bet. To commit to someone for the rest of your life is sweet, but frankly, it’s ridiculous and sometimes dangerous.

 

How are you supposed to know if staying in a relationship 5 years from now (or 5 days from now!) would be a healthy, wise decision? You don’t. No relationship should have a commitment of permanence.

 

Sometimes relationships turn out to be detrimental to one or both of the people in them. People can be abusive, controlling, irresponsible, addicted, unfaithful, secretive or simply unwilling to participate fully in the relationship or life itself.

 

Everyday, the question at the center of your life should be this: Is this relationship furthering my individual evolution as a human being, is it enlivening, enriching and empowering my creativity and is it opening me to God? And, am I doing that for my partner? If that’s not the result of your relationship, or if the relationship is actually hindering either person’s expansion, the relationship must and should end. 

 

Please reach out to me if you want to talk about any of things mentioned in this or any article I’ve written. I offer a complimentary 30-minute session to anyone interested in working with me. 407-687-3387.

 

 

FREE Dating Teleseminar:

 

"The Laws of Modern Day Attraction"

...5 Steps to Reeling in The RIGHT One in Today's Dating Pool

 

With Guest Speaker Carmelia Ray, Author, Dating and Match Making Expert, and Director of Business Development for LavaLife. 

 

~FREE~

 

 

Tuesday, June 4th, 2013

 

8:30PM EST

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 

In this Free Teleseminar You’ll discover:

 

  • Best flirting techniques 
  • The battle of the sexes: Understanding the big differences between how men and women think 
  • Great first date tips 
  • The best online dating profile tips Great places to meet singles. Exploring various ways to find, meet and attract someone special 
  • Great early sex tips 

 

 

About Our Speaker- Carmelia Ray

 

Carmelia Ray is an author, dating & matchmaking expert, and Director of Business Development for Lavalife. She is the Co-founder of the popular dating blog www.datingloveandsextips.com. Carmelia has been working in the matchmaking industry for over twenty years.

She has personally interviewed over 60,000 singles and personally helped over 7,000 clients with their search to finding someone special. She has traveled all across North America attending singles events and consumer shows interviewing singles and discovering what singles are challenged with when looking for love, and what they want in an ideal partner.

She is the relationship and dating expert for Inside Fitness Magazine, Canada's #1 Fitness Magazine. Carmelia also writes for several online and print publications on the topics of love, sex, dating, matchmaking and relationships. She also co-hosts the largest annual online dating and social media conference world wide; "iDate" which gathers the dating industries TOP CEO's and business owners. She has provided love and relationship advice to thousands of singles and provides consulting services to top dating and matchmaking companies. Carmelia is dedicated to living life to the fullest and sharing her knowledge of attracting and keeping healthy relationships.

 

 

 
***PLUS RSVP NOW TO RECEIVE THIS FREE BONUS***
 

 

 

All attendees will receive:

 

 

  • 90 Day Online Membership with Lavalife
  • Online dating profile success tips
  • Free Love Subpoena courtesy of WooYah
  • Limited-Time Special Offer on one of Carmelia's best selling relationship packages! 

 

Tuesday, June 4th, 2013

 

8:30PM EST

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 


 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit

www.Pre-Dating.com

 

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

 

You are receiving this Newsletter because you have either been to or registered for a Pre-Dating Speed Dating (formerly Cupid.com/PreDating) event in the past, have requested and currently receive our twice monthly event schedule notifications for your city, or have interacted with one of our Event Coordinators at a networking event, trade show, etc. and requested to be kept in the loop. We only send emails to those who request them (what's the value of sending stuff to people who never asked for it anyway?). If you no longer wish to receive our emails, follow the instructions below. Keep in mind by opting out of our National Newsletter, you also opt out of our local singles event schedule email notifications.

 

FREE Dating Teleseminar

June 4th

 

"The Laws of Modern Day Attraction"

5 Steps to Reeling in The RIGHT One in Today's Dating Pool

 

With Guest Speaker Carmelia Ray, Author, Dating and Match Making Expert, and Director of Business Development for LavaLife.  

 

 

Tuesday, June 4th, 2013 at 8:30PM EST

 

– Free-

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

In this Free Teleseminar You’ll discover:

 

  • Best flirting techniques 
  • The battle of the sexes: Understanding the big differences between how men and women think 
  • Great first date tips 
  • The best online dating profile tips Great places to meet singles. Exploring various ways to find, meet and attract someone special 
  • Great early sex tips 

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 

Featured Testimonial

 

 

 

"Daniel-

My boyfriend and I just celebrated our one year anniversary, and it reminded me to write and thank you for hosting the pre-dating event last September at Fox and Hound in Winston Salem. We met at that event and have dated seriously ever since! This year has been the best ever, and I adore my boyfriend. I'm sure that I never would have met him if it hadn't been for you coordinating that event.

Thanks, so much!"

- Jen 

 

 

 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit

www.Pre-Dating.com

 

 

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

 

 

 

 

EXPANSION NEWS:

 

 

New Pre-Dating.com Cities!


GREAT NEWS!  With the recent addition of Stephanie in Des Moines, IA and Cecy in Miami; we now offer monthly events in over 85 US cities!
 
Work With Pre-Dating - Become an Event Coordinator

If you are interested in playing matchmaker and adding a new adventure and challenge to your life (part time).

 

 

Please apply online HERE!

 

(http://www.pre-dating.com/coordinator.php3)

 

We Are Currently Looking For An Event Coordinator in the Following Cities, and MORE! 

  

•    Lansing, MI
•    Rochester, NY

•    Los Angeles,CA

•    Portland, OR

 

...And other event locations available!

 

 

QUOTE OF THE MONTH

 

 

"If there hadn't been women we'd still be squatting in a cave eating raw meat, because we made civilization in order to impress our girlfriends.”

 

~ Orson Wells, Actor

 

 

 

CRAZY DATING FACT OF THE MONTH

 

 

 

 

People who are in relationships and love their partner are the happiest people, and are more satisfied with their life than most happy singles.

 

At the same time, people who are in a relationship, but are unhappy with their partner, find themselves more depressed and hate their life a lot more than most singles who are depressed.

 

Source: LovePanky.com

 

About Pre-Dating

 

Pre-Dating Speed Dating is the world's largest Speed Dating service for busy single professionals with monthly events in over 70 cities. If you have a busy life and don't have time to meet new people, don't like to date clients or co-workers, and are not interested in the bar scene then try Pre-Dating Speed Dating.

 

 

Contact Us

 

National Customer Service Loyalty Team

 

Email: Service@Pre-Dating.com

 

Phone:1-877-iPreDate (877-477-3328)

 

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www.Pre-Dating.com

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April 2013

 

                                        

 

 

 

 

IN THIS NEWSLETTER:

 

Sent to over 120,000 Single Professionals!

 

  • Event Coordinator Spotlight – Michael, Tampa, FL
  • Q&A Forum From Singles Just Like You!
  • Expansion News
  • Featured Client Reviews
  • Roy's Relationship Corner
  • FREE Pre-Dating Teleseminar: "5 Ways to Know They ARE Just THAT Into You" with Guest Speaker Lydia Belton, Relationship Expert, Author and 

    Psychotherapist

  • Crazy Dating Fact of the Month
  • Quote of the Month

 

 

 

 

Pre-Dating Event Coordinator

SPOTLIGHT

 

 

 

Michael, from Tampa, FL

 

 

 

 

WHAT GOT YOU INTERESTED IN BEING AN EVENT COORDINATOR (EC) FOR PRE-DATING?

 

Well, I got involved on the management end of Pre-Dating back in 2007 in the corp. office in New York, prior to ever running an event. I always had wanted to become an Event Coordinator, however, there was always someone else who was in the market I was residing in. I often helped at the events, and would step in, in the case the coordinator was unable to run them.

 

I moved down to Tampa, FL in 2010 and ran my first event in September of 2010 on my own, and fell in love with it! Since then, I have been running the Tampa, FL Market and have simply been enjoying every moment of it. Not only is it a great way to network with local professionals like myself, but was a great way for me to make friends in the area as well!

 

WHAT ONE UNIQUE OR EXTRA THING DO YOU DO AT YOUR EVENTS TO MAKE THEM MORE ENJOYABLE?

 

The first thing I do at my events is I shake everyone's hand and welcome them to the event, and compliment them in order to give them a boost of confidence. During my opening speech, I will crack a few jokes, and get the crowd laughing which puts them at ease. At the end of the event, I speak to each person and ask them what they thought, and if there are any suggestions they can offer to make the event even better. My number one goal is customer satisfaction, and if there is something I can do to better my events, I will do it!

 

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SUCCESS STORY?

 

My favorite success story comes from an email I received a few months back about a couple that met at a speed dating event I held back in Dec. 2011. I got an email from a gentleman who attended letting me know that he was proposing to his girlfriend on Christmas Eve, and that he would ask her to email me on Christmas morning if she said "Yes". I was like a kid waiting on Santa Claus all Christmas Eve. I finally fell asleep, and when I woke up, I checked my phone, and there was an email with the subject line "I said YES!" along with a fabulous message about how happy they were that they met. 

 

It was truly a wonderful story, and what a great way to wake up on Christmas Day! I was GLOWING!

 

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE VENUE AND WHY?

 

I have found, that the best venues to use are the mom-and-pop, or locally owned venues. They truly show appreciation for the work I do, and the clientele I bring in. Because I host 5 event a month, I use my top 5 favorite venues, namely; Cheap in SoHo, Pour House Tampa, City Dog Cantina, Fresco's Waterfront Restaurant, and Mulligans Irish Pub. All 5 are my favorite spots; I cannot just choose 1! 

 

WHAT TIPS DO YOU HAVE FOR ATTENDEES OF SPEED DATING EVENTS?

 

I have a few tips that I would like to share!

 

One, dress appropriately! You want to impress someone, and come across a professional, so, you want to make sure that you are put together but also comfortable, but do not over-do it either. Most times, if you are curious as to what to wear, ask a friend, or call the coordinator! They should be able to help.

 

Two, Present yourself in your best light! Get your haircut, eye brows waxed, put on cologne or perfume, etc. Sometimes I am a bit shocked about how some people present themselves. Again, ask a friend for their opinion. Camera Phone's are great- use them to send a buddy or girlfriend a pic of yourself before you head out for their honest opinion.

 

Three, keep calm and have FUN. I always start out my opening speech with "Don't look at the person sitting across from you as your future husband or wife! That's a bit "crazy-town"! (I always get a chuckle out of that) Look at the person across from you as a new single friend to hit the town with, look- we all need a wing man or wing woman from time to time! A great business contact; Hey, You never know, you might just meet someone tonight that can assist your company, (it never hurts to look good in front of your boss!). Or, a potential first date, which we would love to see happen." 

 

Lastly, I recommend to all the daters that night to be mindful of their body language- do not come across closed off. Smile, and laugh, as laughter displays interest and openness. 

 

 

Q&A  FORUM:

 

 

 

Questions From Other Singles Like You



Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them? Maybe just a relationship question in general? Some other people did as well and here are their questions to us.

 

If you have a question, simply email us at Questions@Pre-Dating.com and if selected for our next Newsletter you’ll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.



 

QUESTION #1:

 

Hi Pre-Dating,

 

I attended an event of yours and I got picked by several of the ladies, I received a total of 5 picks, and 4 of them I picked as well, which was GREAT! The problem I am facing now though, is I emailed them and they are not getting back to me. What am I doing wrong?

 

Answer from Pre-Dating:

 

Dear "Frustrated",

 

Unfortunately, this sometimes can happen. Remember, you want to make sure your approach is not too strong, and that you do not come across too overbearing or "needy".

 

A good email to start off with would be:

 

Subject: "It was great meeting you at the Speed Dating Event"

 

Message:

 

"Hi (Insert Name)

 

It was a pleasure meeting you the other night. I really enjoyed our conversation, but 6 minutes was just too short! I would enjoy meeting you again over coffee or a glass of wine to get to know you a bit better. I am usually free on the weekends or after 6:00 on weeknights. 

 

If you would like to do this, please let me know and I will be more then happy to meet you at (venue where you met at the event) or anywhere you feel most comfortable. Maybe you can suggest a place?

 

I hope you are having a great day! I look forward to hearing from you!

 

- (your name), (your badge number)"

 

This message encompasses multiple aspects. One, it shows a genuine interest in getting to know the person a bit more, yet, does not come across too overbearing, as asking them out to dinner and a movie can be too long for a 1st date. Two, it gives the woman an open opportunity to choose the location that makes her feel most safe. Now-a-days, women often feel nervous to meet someone they barely know in a location where they are not comfortable. Three, you are laying out your schedule so she is aware of when you are typically free, and able to spend time with you. This helps by showing her that you have time for her now, and potentially in the future. Lastly, the line "If you would like to do this" subtly passes the "power" to her. The biggest turn off for women is when a man feels as though they have all the power in the relationships. Remember, this is ultimately the first impression they get of you on your own time, so make it count!

 

My final word on this, would be to email the person the day you receive the matches- do NOT play the "wait 2 day" game, as you may be "competing" with other people she matched with! If she does not get back with you, that's ok- give it a few days, then email back something nice, just making sure she received the email as sometimes emails do have a way of finding themselves in the spam/junk box. 


 

QUESTION #2:

 

Dear Pre-Dating,

 

I went to your website and saw that your events are all listed as "Busy Single Professionals". I do consider myself a professional, however, I am currently out of work as I was laid off over a year ago. I did not go to college, but I had a fantastic career prior to being laid off, and a great resume. I am financially stable and own my own home in a very nice area. Am I not welcome to an event?

 

Answer from Pre-Dating:

 

Dear "Questioning Professional":

 

This is a question we sometimes receive as people often think of “professionals” as Doctors, Lawyers, business owners, etc. This is not necessarily the case though. Sure, we certainly have many Doctors and Lawyers who attend our events, however, we do understand that the economy is not what it used to be, and a lot of professionals are currently unemployed. 

 

So, to answer your question, yes, you are certainly welcome to one of our events! We do not discriminate against any person based on their current employment. The only thing we ask is that you conduct yourself in a professional manner both during and after the event itself. 

Roy's Relationship Corner

 

“What Kind of Partner are You Planning to Be?"

 

 

 

Roy Biancalana

Author and Relationship Coach

 

 

 

Part 3

 

 

 

Are you ready for a real relationship? Though we all want to be in a great relationship, most of us haven’t thought about or devoted ourselves to a set of commitments or behaviors that form the foundation for authentic intimacy.

 

In my relationship coaching practice, I often work with my single clients on 8 different commitments that make them the kind of partner the opposite sex dreams of being with.

 

We have been discussing these 8 commitments in recent newsletters. Part one was the commitment to openness. Part two was the commitment to sexual fidelity. Here we talk about pursuing creativity. It’s my hope that you’ll deeply consider each of these commitments and say to yourself, “This is the way I am going to function in my relationship.” If you have questions, or if you want to work with me on any of the commitments, my contact information is below. Ok, here is the third commitment:

 

The Commitment to Pursue Creativity

 

“I commit to pursuing my full creative potential and not make my happiness and fulfillment my partner’s responsibility.”

 

Drama, and sometimes even infidelity, occur because one or both people have lost contact with their inner passion and the pursuit of their full creative potential. In other words, you aren’t living the life you want, nor are you doing the things that make you feel fully alive. When that happens, you become bored, quietly angry and often lonely. This puts unnecessary pressure on your partner to fill that empty space—which leads to conflict, or maybe even infidelity.

 

In healthy relationships, both people are pursuing something they’re passionate about, whether it’s raising kids, gardening, volunteering, a lower golf handicap or building a business. It doesn’t matter what it is, it only matters that each person pursues his or her creative potential. What makes you feel alive? What are you here to do, to offer, to give? Commit to doing that and don’t think it’s your partner’s responsibility to fulfill you if you abandon your passion, truth and calling.

 

Please reach out to me if you want to talk about any of things mentioned in this or any article I’ve written. I offer a complimentary 30-minute session to anyone interested in working with me. 407-687-3387.

 

 

FREE Dating Teleseminar:

"5 Ways to Know They ARE Just THAT into You"

 

 

 

With Lydia Belton Ph.D.,Ct.H.A., AKA  Dr. Tranquility, Relationship Expert, Author and Psychotherapist. 

 

~FREE~

 

 

Tuesday, May 7th, 2013

 

8:30PM EST

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 

 

In this Free Teleseminar You’ll discover:

 

  • Why they can't bear to be without you
  • How to get them to invite you on a second and third date
  • How to show more then lust after a 3rd date
  • How the Eyes have it
  • How Physical Gestures get you to the next level

 

About Our Speaker - Lydia Belton:
 

 


Lydia Belton aka Dr. Tranquility: is a mental health expert with a background in Psychology, Relaxation Physiology for Mind-Body Medicine from Harvard University's Mind- Body Institute, now called the Benson-Henry Institute for Mind-Body Medicine and Columbia University's Rosenthal Center in Botanical Medicine. Lydia has helped numerous people address Personal Empowerment & Goal Attainment as well as Relationship Goals.

 

Through the platforms of her FM radio show, and through her other platform B WELL TV, her production company, and of course her popular wellness website, DrTranquility.com she has delivered relationship, mental health and self empowerment advice to hundreds of thousands of listeners. In 2002 Dr.Tranquility released a new protocol Date Therapy. A mind-body protocol that helps clients get in touch with their dating criteria & bliss. Under Date Therapy she has penned and has been published in numerous outlets; Among them, Forbes.com and has a monthly column on CupidsPulse.com. She has also been featured in numerous media outlets such as a Glamour UK pictorial, is a REDBOOK featured expert, has been seen on abcnews.com, as well as others.

 

 

 
***PLUS RSVP NOW TO RECEIVE THIS FREE BONUS***
 

 

 

All attendees will receive:

 

  • Lydia Belton would like to offer all who sign up a FREE copy of her Relaxation Therepy Video which helps busy professionals like you to find relaxation. 

  • Lydia will also be offering a special deal on her Relationship Package which includes a 45-minute coaching session as well as video tutorials that will help you find lasting love.

  • Limited Time discounts on both Pre-Dating Speed Dating Events, and Lock and Key Events. 

 

Tuesday, May 7th, 2013

 

8:30PM EST

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 


 

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FREE Dating Teleseminar

May 7th

 

"5 Ways to Know They ARE Just THAT into You"

 

 

With Lydia Belton Ph.D.,Ct.H.A., AKA  Dr. Tranquility, Relationship Expert, Author and Psychotherapist.  

 

 

Tuesday, May 7th, 2013 at 8:30PM EST

 

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RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

In this Free Teleseminar You’ll discover:

 

  • Why they can't bear to be without you
  • How to get them to invite you on a second and third date
  • How to show more then lust after a 3rd date
  • How the Eyes have it
  • How Physical Gestures get you to the next level 

 

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 

Featured Testimonial

 

 

 

"Hello Martine,

 

Just wanted to let you know that I am exclusively dating a gentleman I met through pre-dating.  

 

Thank you.

 

Sincerely, Michele (Madison, WI)"

 

 

 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit

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EXPANSION NEWS:

 

 

New Pre-Dating.com Cities!


GREAT NEWS!  With the recent addition of Kathy in Tucson, AZ and Brittany in Chicago, IL; we now offer monthly events in over 85 US cities!
 
Work With Pre-Dating - Become an Event Coordinator

If you are interested in playing matchmaker and adding a new adventure and challenge to your life (part time).

 

 

Please apply online HERE!

 

(http://www.pre-dating.com/coordinator.php3)

 

We Are Currently Looking For An Event Coordinator in the Following Cities, and MORE! 

  

•    Lansing, MI
•    Miami, FL

•    Los Angeles,CA

•    Portland, OR

 

...And other event locations available!

 

 

QUOTE OF THE MONTH

 

 

"Falling in love and having a relationship are two different things.”

 

~ Keanu Reeves, Actor

 

 

 

CRAZY DATING FACT OF THE MONTH

 

 

 

Attractive men married to average looking women are less prone to having an extra marital affair. Men are physical creatures and place beauty and attractive looks beyond almost everything else.

 

But when a great looking man chooses to fall in love with a woman who's not a perfect 10, it’s some other aspects of her that’s drawn him to fall in love with her.

 

These men are hard to find, and harder to fall for lustful temptations.

 

Source: LovePanky.com

 

About Pre-Dating

 

Pre-Dating Speed Dating is the world's largest Speed Dating service for busy single professionals with monthly events in over 70 cities. If you have a busy life and don't have time to meet new people, don't like to date clients or co-workers, and are not interested in the bar scene then try Pre-Dating Speed Dating.

 

 

Contact Us

 

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www.Pre-Dating.com

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March 2013

 

                                        

 

 

 

 

IN THIS NEWSLETTER:

 

Sent to over 120,000 Single Professionals!

 

  • Event Coordinator Spotlight – Michael, Raleigh/Durham, NC
  • Pre-Dating Gives Back!
  • Q&A Forum From Singles Just Like You!
  • Expansion News
  • Featured Client Reviews
  • Roy's Relationship Corner
  • FREE Pre-Dating Teleseminar: "5 Ways to Know They ARE Just THAT Into You" with Guest Speaker Lydia Belton, Relationship Expert, Author and 

    Psychotherapist

  • Crazy Dating Fact of the Month
  • Quote of the Month

 

 

 

 

Pre-Dating Event Coordinator

SPOTLIGHT

 

 

 

Michael, from Raleigh/ Durham, NC

 

 

 

WHAT GOT YOU INTERESTED IN BEING AN EVENT COORDINATOR (EC) FOR PRE-DATING?

 

What can I say?  Matchmaking is in my blood.  I’ve been running singles events in my area for 20 years, mainly as a volunteer with a group called Triangle Jewish Singles (Triangle = Raleigh/Durham/Chapel Hill NC). Then I graduated to running Meetup events. At some point, I attended a few Pre-Dating speed dating events, which at that time were being run by a friend of mine. Eventually he asked me to be a helper, and one thing led to another…

 

WHAT ONE UNIQUE OR EXTRA THING DO YOU DO AT YOUR EVENTS TO MAKE THEM MORE ENJOYABLE?

 

Two things:

  • I put out a basket of mints at my check-in table.  Attendees grab them by the handful.
  • I always end my events with an inspirational story, i.e., a speed dating success story.

 

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SUCCESS STORY?

 

There are so many, it’s hard to choose. But here’s one: A woman in her mid-50s had attended about 5 events over several years.  A guy friend of mine in his early 60s had attended 2 or 3 events.  Eventually they attended the same speed dating event, and they’ve been together ever since, which is about 2 or 3 years now.

 

 

**Editors Note** This just goes to show it can take a few events to make the right connection so if at first you don't succeed come out to another event and meet a whole new batch of people. Unfortunately dating can be a numbers game.

 

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE VENUE AND WHY?

 

The best venues are ones that are independently owned, whose owners appreciate the business that I am bringing them.  Venues are like children: I don’t have a favorite.  Each has its positives and differentiating fetaures. And I’m always seeking out new and unique venues.

 

WHAT TIPS DO YOU HAVE FOR ATTENDEES OF SPEED DATING EVENTS?

 

 

I always share two things, which I call "Michael’s Mantras":

  • Dating is a numbers game (Get yourself out there!)
  • Strike while the iron is hot (follow up with your matches ASAP)

 

 

Pre-Dating Gives Back!

 

 

For over 10 years Pre-Dating has been involved in charitable causes. From Toys for Tots where attendees bring unwrapped toys to events for a discount to more local charities. Last year, Pre-Dating Speed Dating's C.O.O., Michael Clarke started the trend of local, community based, charity events in Tampa, FL where 100% of the money generated went directly to a non-profit local charity.

 

Since the very first event where donations were sent directly to patient care for Moffitt Cancer Center, dubbed "Singles For a Cure: A Cancer Benefit", many of Pre-Dating's 50+ local Event Coordinators throughout the country have done the same thing, with other local charities. 

 

"As a local, member driven service that Pre-Dating offers, it just makes sense to give back to localized not-for-profit charities that our individual Event Coordinators can relate to." says Michael Clarke, who, prior to delivering Pre-Dating's first charity event where 100% of profits went directly to charity, lost a close friend to cancer. "This horrible situation truly motivated me to get out there and do something for our city and those families who are suffering due to this horrible disease. This event touched and humbled me, and there was such a strong sense of community. I am excited to hold my second annual Singles For A Cure Benefit in June!" 

 

Since last June, Pre-Dating has also run singles events where 100% of profits went to benefit such charities as "Jersey Rising" to help the victims of Hurricane Sandy, Earth Ltd. which helped a private animal sanctuary in the Boston/ Providence area, The Crohn's and Colitis Foundation of America in Detroit, Habitat For Humanity in Baltimore, Austism Speaks in Pittsburg, among many more throughout the country! 

 

Are You Involved With A Charity? Pre-Dating can organize a fun singles fundraising event with you! Contact us to discuss this exciting option to raise more funds for your charity while helping your community's singles potentially make a lasting connection. Contact us at: Charity@Pre-Dating.com

Q&A  FORUM:

 

 

 

Questions From Other Singles Like You



Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them? Maybe just a relationship question in general? Some other people did as well and here are their questions to us.

 

If you have a question, simply email us at Questions@Pre-Dating.com and if selected for our next Newsletter you’ll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.



QUESTION #1:

 

Hi Pre-Dating,

 

I am currently dating someone, but he drinks a lot, and though he is never angry, I still feel like I am second priority. I have brought up AA, but he continues to say that he is not an alcoholic. What do you suggest?

 

Answer from Pre-Dating:

 

Dear "Helping Hand",

 

One thing that I want you to look at, is are you an enabler? Are you someone who likes to "help" people who are down, or are slowly getting down? My guess is you just answered yes to both of these questions.

 

You are absolutely right by saying that you are second best if you have brought up this problem to him, and he is refusing to acknowledge your feelings and shape up. Studies show that the best you can do, is to simply walk out, and that this relationship is both toxic to you, and him- more you then him, as you are seeing a loved one fall through the cracks. Though I will not discredit this theory, chances are, you are not willing to let him go, or you would have already. So, what can you do? 

 

Don't stop at one conversation about his drinking habits, bring it up whenever he drinks too much. Most people are fine with drinking a beer or a glass of wine when they come home from a busy day at work to just relax, but if he is consistently drinking to get drunk, there is a reason why. Alcoholism tends to develop from deeply seeded issues from the person's past. 

 

Seek a professional’s help. Go as far as threatening to leave him if he does not go to couples therapy. If he refuses, you know what you have to do- you need to walk out- this relationship is not healthy, and you need to get out and find someone who will treat you as their number one. By going to therapy, he may be able to let go of his inner issues that you may or may not know about which is causing this downward spiral. This is an investment though, are you willing to invest the time and money on someone who may not be able to give you the return on your investment? This is truly something you need to think about before hand. 

 

Lastly, seek therapy for you- on your own. You need to talk about why you feel the need to help someone who is so low on themselves, putting yourself in the potential path for heartache. My guess, this is not the first time you have fallen for someone who has put you second to something. It tends to be a trend, and a trend you may need help to break. 

 

Alcoholism and drug abuse are both very serious problems worldwide. If you or a loved one suffer from alcohol or drug abuse, please seek help before it is too late.

 

1-800-Crisis is a national 24 hour Drug abuse and Alcohol abuse hotline. 


QUESTION #2:

 

Dear Pre-Dating,

 

I am a well-educated, African American man, and I am looking for a woman in my area, but I do not see any events specifically geared towards African American Singles. Any chance you will have one?

 

Answer from Pre-Dating:

 

Dear "Looking":

 

Fantastic question! Over the last 3 years, Pre-Dating Speed Dating has been collecting specific information from our members to find out their interests, and what they want to see in their local area. Earlier this year, we launched our "Specialty Events" segment so our local event coordinator can decide if there is enough interest in your market to hold a specialty event. 

 

One thing I will mention, is most events have a variety of people from different backgrounds, cultures and ethnicities. So, even if the event coordinator does not see a high enough number of people within the region that share your interest, it is highly recommended to attend an event, as you will likely meet some single ladies who are of your background. 

 

Lastly, reach out to your local event coordinator and see if this is something they feel would be a success. The number one thing we need to prevent is cancelling or postponing an event due to low turnout. We value your time and we've made it 12+ years because we work really hard to ensure the events we schedule are held, that we have quality people in attendance and that the turnout meets with your expectations. While not perfect, we fully realize these things are critical and that we are only as good as our last event. As a customer service driven company, we take the feedback of our members very seriously. 

 

 

Are you part of or represent a specific group of people where you'd like to meet others in your interest group? We often partner with people to do specific interest events such as GLBT, Tall Men / Tall Women events, ethnicity-specific events and others. Contact us at Service@Pre-Dating.com if you want to discuss.

Roy's Relationship Corner

 

“What Kind of Partner are You Planning to Be?"

 

 

 

Roy Biancalana

Author and Relationship Coach

 

 

 

Part 2

 

 

Are you ready for a real relationship? Though we all want to be in a great relationship, most of us haven’t thought about or devoted ourselves to a set of commitments or behaviors that form the foundation for authentic intimacy.

 

In my relationship coaching practice, I often work with my single clients on 8 different commitments that make them the kind of partner the opposite sex dreams of being with.

 

We have been discussing these 8 commitments in recent newsletters. Last time we focused on the commitment to openness. Here we talk about sexual fidelity. It’s my hope that you’ll deeply consider each of these commitments and say to yourself, “This is the way I am going to function in my relationship.” If you have questions, or if you want to work with me on any of the commitments, my contact information is below.

 

Ok, here is the second commitment:

 

The Commitment to Sexual Fidelity

 

“I commit to seeking my complete sexual and emotional fulfillment within the boundaries of my relationship and to openly share with my partner all of my sexual behavior, including any attractions, temptations, fantasies and flirtations.”

 

I’m guessing you felt good about the first part of this commitment, but by the end, your stomach clenched up and maybe even felt a bit queasy. We have a lot of fears, hurts and hang-ups when it comes to sex and our sexuality.

 

But let’s back up a minute. It should be noted that not all couples desire a monogamous relationship. People do have “open” or “swinging” relationships and they can design their own sexual vows. But for the vast majority of heterosexual and homosexual relationships, monogamy is what best serves each person in opening fully to God.

 

So, then, let’s just be honest, shall we? We are sexual beings. All of us encounter people we’re attracted to, tempted by and sometimes even flirt with. While we want exclusivity—we know it’s best for our souls and everyone else involved—it’s not always easy, because being in a great relationship doesn’t change our sexual nature. To keep our heads in the sand about this, as most do, actually makes infidelity more likely. 

 

So what this commitment is really about is revealing our complete sexual nature and behavior to our partner. This can be scary—and even risky—for it can trigger deep insecurities about our bodies and resurface old sexual hurts and wounds. But in a healthy relationship, people share their sexual truth, no matter the risk. They talk about their use of porn, strip clubs, romance novels, masturbation, fantasies. These things are seen as natural for sexual beings and discussing them usually leads to greater self-awareness and deepening intimacy.

 

Please reach out to me if you want to talk about any of things mentioned in this or any article I’ve written. I offer a complimentary 30-minute session to anyone interested in working with me. 407-687-3387.

 

 

FREE Dating Teleseminar:

"5 Ways to Know They ARE Just THAT into You"

 

 

 

With Lydia Belton Ph.D.,Ct.H.A., AKA  Dr. Tranquility, Relationship Expert, Author and Psychotherapist. 

 

~FREE~

 

 

Tuesday, May 7th, 2013

 

8:30PM EST

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 

 

In this Free Teleseminar You’ll discover:

 

  • Why they can't bear to be without you
  • How to get them to invite you on a second and third date
  • How to show more then lust after a 3rd date
  • How the Eyes have it
  • How Physical Gestures get you to the next level

 

About Our Speaker - Lydia Belton:
 

 


Lydia Belton aka Dr. Tranquility: is a mental health expert with a background in Psychology, Relaxation Physiology for Mind-Body Medicine from Harvard University's Mind- Body Institute, now called the Benson-Henry Institute for Mind-Body Medicine and Columbia University's Rosenthal Center in Botanical Medicine. Lydia has helped numerous people address Personal Empowerment & Goal Attainment as well as Relationship Goals.

 

Through the platforms of her FM radio show, and through her other platform B WELL TV, her production company, and of course her popular wellness website, DrTranquility.com she has delivered relationship, mental health and self empowerment advice to hundreds of thousands of listeners. In 2002 Dr.Tranquility released a new protocol Date Therapy. A mind-body protocol that helps clients get in touch with their dating criteria & bliss. Under Date Therapy she has penned and has been published in numerous outlets; Among them, Forbes.com and has a monthly column on CupidsPulse.com. She has also been featured in numerous media outlets such as a Glamour UK pictorial, is a REDBOOK featured expert, has been seen on abcnews.com, as well as others.

 

 

 
***PLUS RSVP NOW TO RECEIVE THIS FREE BONUS***
 

 

 

All attendees will receive:

 

  • Lydia Belton would like to offer all who sign up a FREE copy of her Relaxation Therepy Video which helps busy professionals like you to find relaxation. 

  • Lydia will also be offering a special deal on her Relationship Package which includes a 45-minute coaching session as well as video tutorials that will help you find lasting love.

  • Limited Time discounts on both Pre-Dating Speed Dating Events, and Lock and Key Events. 

 

Tuesday, May 7th, 2013

 

8:30PM EST

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 


 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit

www.Pre-Dating.com

 

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

 

You are receiving this Newsletter because you have either been to or registered for a Pre-Dating Speed Dating (formerly Cupid.com/PreDating) event in the past, have requested and currently receive our twice monthly event schedule notifications for your city, or have interacted with one of our Event Coordinators at a networking event, trade show, etc. and requested to be kept in the loop. We only send emails to those who request them (what's the value of sending stuff to people who never asked for it anyway?). If you no longer wish to receive our emails, follow the instructions below. Keep in mind by opting out of our National Newsletter, you also opt out of our local singles event schedule email notifications.

 

FREE Dating Teleseminar

May 7th

 

"5 Ways to Know They ARE Just THAT into You"

 

 

With Lydia Belton Ph.D.,Ct.H.A., AKA  Dr. Tranquility, Relationship Expert, Author and Psychotherapist.  

 

 

Tuesday, May 7th, 2013 at 8:30PM EST

 

– Free-

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

In this Free Teleseminar You’ll discover:

 

  • Why they can't bear to be without you
  • How to get them to invite you on a second and third date
  • How to show more then lust after a 3rd date
  • How the Eyes have it
  • How Physical Gestures get you to the next level 

 

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 

Featured Testimonial

 

 

"Michael,

 

I went to 2 of your events over a year ago, or bit more, with having some dates, which was good. However the Feb. 7th, which was my 3rd, I actually met a great girl who I can now call my girlfriend! Thought you may like to hear about a good match made.

 

Thanks,

 

Ryan, Tampa FL"

 

 

 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit

www.Pre-Dating.com

 

 

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

 

 

 

 

EXPANSION NEWS:

 

 

New Pre-Dating.com Cities!


GREAT NEWS!  With the recent addition of Alexis in Boston and Connie in Naples, FL; we now offer monthly events in over 85 US cities!
 
Work With Pre-Dating - Become an Event Coordinator

If you are interested in playing matchmaker and adding a new adventure and challenge to your life (part time).

 

 

Please apply online HERE!

 

(http://www.pre-dating.com/coordinator.php3)

 

We Are Currently Looking For An Event Coordinator in the Following Cities, and MORE! 

  

•    Lansing, MI
•    Chicago, IL

•    Los Angeles,CA

•    Portland, OR

 

...And other event locations available!

 

 

QUOTE OF THE MONTH

 

 

”People will not remember you for what you did or what you said – but for how they felt when they were around you.”

 

~ Mary Angelou

 

 

 

CRAZY DATING FACT OF THE MONTH

 

 

QUESTION: According to an online study, women with what color hair are more likely to cheat?

 

a) Black 

b) Blonde 

c) Red

d) Brown

 

ANSWER: Blondes

 

Apparently, blondes really do have more fun. According to a recent online survey conducted by Cheaterville.com, a support website for those who've been cheated on, a whopping 42 percent of users said female cheaters had blonde hair, while 23 percent cited red hair, 20 percent cited brown and 11 percent cited black.

 

For men, it's brunette spouses you have to worry about. According to the site, 40 percent of male cheaters had brown hair.

 

About Pre-Dating

 

Pre-Dating Speed Dating is the world's largest Speed Dating service for busy single professionals with monthly events in over 70 cities. If you have a busy life and don't have time to meet new people, don't like to date clients or co-workers, and are not interested in the bar scene then try Pre-Dating Speed Dating.

 

 

Contact Us

 

National Customer Service Loyalty Team

 

Email: Service@Pre-Dating.com

 

Phone:1-877-iPreDate (877-477-3328)

 

Hours: Open 7 Days a Week!

 

Monday-Thursday: 9AM-10PM (EST)

Friday: 9AM-5PM (EST)

Saturday: 10AM-2PM (EST)

Sunday: 3PM-6PM (EST)

 

Follow us on FacebookTwitter and YouTube!

 

   

 

 

 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit:

 

www.Pre-Dating.com

 

 

 

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

 


www.Pre-Dating.com

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

February 2013

 

                                        

 

 

 

 

IN THIS NEWSLETTER:

 

Sent to over 110,000 Single Professionals!

 

  • Win The Ultimate Blind Date to Tampa, FL! Today's the last day to enter!
  • Event Coordinator Spotlight – Denia, Toronto, ON
  • Q&A Forum From Singles Just Like You!
  • Expansion News
  • Featured Client Reviews
  • Roy's Relationship Corner
  • FREE Pre-Dating Teleseminar: "If I'm Such a Great Catch, How Come I'm Still Single?" with Guest Speakers Rosalind Sedacca and Amy Sherman, Authors and Life Coaches
  • Crazy Dating Fact of the Month
  • Quote of the Month

 

 

 

The Ultimate Blind Date Contest

 

-Presented by Pre-Dating Speed Dating and Tampa All-Star Group-

 

 

 

Two lucky winners will receive the following:

 

  • Round Trip Flight to and from Tampa, FL*
  • Airport Transfer to and from the hotel
  • Limo Transfer to and from the Hotel to the Blind Date location by Advantage Limousines
  • Dinner and a VIP table with Bottle Service provided by Jackson’s Entertainment Complex
  • Separate Massages by ReVive Massage and BodyWork
  • For Him: A fun day at "The Golf Club" with complimentary virtual golf
  • For her: A makeup makeover by Michelle Seelbach

 

All you have to do, is "Like" our Facebook Fan Page, upload a video of why you think you should be picked for the Ultimate Blind Date on our contest page (located on our Facebook Fan page), and get your friends and family to vote for you! Pre-Dating Speed Dating will then review the top twenty video’s (10 men and 10 women), and our panel of 5 judges will judge each video on a scale from 1-10 on the creativity of the video. The couple with the highest votes will be notified by March 15th.

 

Be creative, and have fun!

 

For more Info, Click HERE!

 

 

 

*Maximum of $300.00 round trip airfare.

 

 

 

 

Pre-Dating Event Coordinator

SPOTLIGHT

 

 

Denia, from Toronto, ON

 

 

 

WHAT GOT YOU INTERESTED IN BEING AN EVENT COORDINATOR (EC) FOR PRE-DATING?

 

 

Actually, my story is a little different! I started with Pre-Dating 4 years ago, going on 5 this year, as a customer service representative, and am now the event manager for Pre-Dating. Since day 1, I have wanted to be an EC, as it seemed like so much fun. Because I live in Toronto, and not in the US, I was unable to host speed dating events until Pre-Dating went international. In December of 2012, Pre-Dating finished the final details of bringing speed dating to Canada, and now, here I am, an event coordinator, finally! I am excited to bring Toronto's Singles together!

 

 

WHAT ONE UNIQUE OR EXTRA THING DO YOU DO AT YOUR EVENTS TO MAKE THEM MORE ENJOYABLE?

 

 

I try to make everyone feel as comfortable as possible. I put myself in their shoes. I also have raffle prizes and try to make my event as interactive as possible. I want people to have a fun night out even if they don't find the one special person.

 

 

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SUCCESS STORY?

 

Success stories are tough. Unless people call me and let me know I have no idea if they had a connection. But I do know a couple of other coordinators that have received wedding invitations and that is wonderful.

 

 

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE VENUE AND WHY?

 

I am very picky about my venues. A venue can make or break an event.

 

I really enjoy having events at the Rakia Bar here in Toronto. It has a fantastic fun atmosphere. Very cozy and comfortable. Staff is friendly and very accommodating. It's easy to get to and lots of free parking.

 

 

WHAT TIPS DO YOU HAVE FOR ATTENDEES OF SPEED DATING EVENTS?

 

Come with no expectations, no checklists or interview questions. Just be who you are. Someone out there loves you exactly the way you are.

 

 

 

Q&A  FORUM:

 

 

 

Questions From Other Singles Like You



Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them? Some other people did as well and here are their questions to us.

 

If you have a question, simply email us at Questions@Pre-Dating.com and if selected for our next Newsletter you’ll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.



QUESTION #1:

 

Hi Pre-Dating,

 

I recently attended one of your events, and had a lot of fun, however, I did not receive a match! What did I do wrong? 

 

Answer from Pre-Dating:

 

Dear "Recipient of a Free Event",

 

Every once and a while, at our events, singles, no matter their attractiveness, do not get picked which is why we have the "Match Guarantee" program, which allows you to attend your next event free of charge. The question is though, why does this happen? The honest answer is that there are many possibilities.

 

The first thing you have to look at is what you discussed. One of the biggest mistakes singles make is talking about their ex. Since you are only meeting someone for 6 minutes, it's important to bring your most confident and non-confrontational self forward.

Bringing up failed relationships tend to turn people off, as they feel more like a counselor then a potential love interest. On top of that, they will automatically feel there is baggage already coming into what could be a future relationship. Other topics to avoid would be political beliefs, talking ill of other daters, and talking too much about yourself and your accomplishments. Sure, you are an accomplished person, however, you may not want to over-speak on this, as that makes you come across self-centered, or cocky (not to be confused with confidence).

 

Secondly, how was your presentation? We find that daters that dress too conservatively tend to come across "snooty". So, what do you wear? Women- either a cocktail dress, or a nice and fun blouse accompanied by comfortable and attractive shoes and a skirt or slacks is appropriate. Men: a simple and stylish button down short or polo, accompanied by slacks or a nice pair of jeans (age appropriate), with a nice pair of shoes (not sneakers or flip flops/ sandals). That said, what should you NOT wear? Women- avoid business suits, cocktail dresses that expose too much (you will get picked, but not for the reason you want to be picked!), ill fitting outfits, outdated outfits and avoid over-accessorizing. Also, make sure your hair is done, and looks well groomed. Men, avoid wearing jeans that are ripped or have holes in them, avoid T-Shirts, if you choose to wear jeans, make sure to they are age-appropriate, be sure your clothing is rid of any stains, and that you put on a dash of cologne (don't take a bath in it!), and lastly, be sure that your outfit is up-to-date... no Hawaiian shirts! Men, also be sure that your hair is cut, and the style is appropriate for your age. Lastly, bring a mint with you, so, your breath is fresh.

 

Ok, so, you dressed appropriately, and you also engaged your dates with your amazing conversational skills, what else could you have possibly done wrong? Oh- The unspoken word, aka, body Language! Do not cross your arms, this is a signal that you are closed off. Posture is important as well, so, do not hunch over, or slump in your seat. Smile, and keep an open, engaging stature throughout the event. 

 

Lastly, laughter is important, as it is an instant sign of engagement in a conversation. Who cares if what the person said  was not the funniest joke, hell, it could have been the lamest joke you have ever heard, however, you are engaging the person, and opening yourself up to a great conversation. 

 


QUESTION #2:

 

Dear Pre-Dating,

 

I am in my late twenties, and have been single now for about 3 years. I have been on many, many, many first dates, a few have turned into a short term (3 month max) relationship. I can't seen to get past the honeymoon phase of the relationship, but want to. Any advice?

 

Answer from Pre-Dating:

 

Dear "Serial Dater":

 

Fantastic question! The first thing I want you to analyze for yourself, is are you comparing these men to your past relationship? Many people, both men and women, who have once been in a long term relationship, and find themselves single, tend to see certain "red flags" in people they date that directly reflects things that either bothered you, or triggers some kind of emotion from your past relationship(s).

 

The most concerning part of this question is that you are getting through the "fun" part of the relationship (the "Honeymoon Phase"), and then something happens, and the relationship breaks apart. The reason I say that this is concerning, is that it seems like there is a lack of trust, or that you are not allowing your partner into your heart. I bet you have heard the phrase "You are getting closed off" or "You seem distant". Why is that? It is very common for this to happen, you'll have fun, then things "get real".

 

So, how do you combat that? The best thing you can do, if you really like the person, is be honest about where you feel the relationship is going, and talk about your differences and expectations in an open forum conversation. In order for a relationship to blossom, it is vital for you both to be on the same page. Do not fear the word "marriage" early on in the relationship, especially not at this age. Society expects a marriage at a certain age, and late twenties/ early thirties is the expectation. Sure, explain your "relationship timeline" and needs, but also let him explain his desires for what he sees in the future. 

 

Additionally, sex is a very important part of a relationship at this point. How much is too much? How much is too little? Really, there is no simple answer here, however, no matter how uncomfortable it is to talk about sex at an early stage, it is important to discuss your sexual needs, as well as his. Keep sex fun, also. Ask about your fantasies, and possibly play one out. Sex can kill a relationship, or it can make one blossom. The only way to keep sex fun for both is to be open about your sexual needs. 

 

With that all said, know that breakups are not always because of YOU! The other person could have issues you are unaware of, or that they do not want to divulge, but at the end of the day, do you want to be with someone who does not share with you their ups and downs? Of course not! The healthiest relationships are honest, and open. No one has time for someone who is not willing to open themselves up to all they have to share. As the kids say today "Aint nobody got time for that!"

Roy's Relationship Corner

 

“What Kind of Partner are You Planning to Be?"

 

 

 

Roy Biancalana

Author and Relationship Coach

 

 

 

Part 1

 

Are you ready for a real relationship? Though we all want to be in a great relationship, most of us haven’t thought about or devoted ourselves to a set of commitments or behaviors that form the foundation for authentic intimacy.

 

In my relationship coaching practice, I often work with my single clients on 8 different commitments that make them the kind of partner the opposite sex dreams of being with.

 

Over the next eight installments of this newsletter, we’re going to cover these critical commitments. It’s my hope that you’ll deeply consider each one and say to yourself, “This is the way I am going to function in my relationship.” If you have questions, or if you want to work with me on any of the commitments, my contact information is below. Ok, here is the first commitment:

 

The Commitment to Openness

 

“I commit to revealing rather than concealing my thoughts, feelings, choices and actions, especially the ones I fear might threaten the relationship.”

Though these commitments don’t appear in order of importance, this probably is the most important one of all. True intimacy can only occur if you commit to living out loud, sharing your inner conversation with your partner. They need to know what you’re thinking, feeling and doing. There can be no secrets—about anything. Openness must be the primary characteristic of your relationship and you must discuss the issues you fear talking about the most.

 

Please reach out to me if you want to talk about any of things mentioned in this or any article I’ve written. I offer a complimentary 30-minute session to anyone interested in working with me. 407-687-3387.

 

 

FREE Dating Teleseminar:

"If I'm Such a Great Catch, How Come I'm Still Single?"

 

 

 

With Rosalind Sedacca and Amy Sherman, Authors and Life Coaches

 

 

~FREE~

 

 

Tuesday, March 5th, 2013

 

8:30PM EST

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

In this Free Teleseminar You’ll discover:

 

  • What causes so many singles to repeat the same mistakes again and again.
  • The most common challenges all singles face that result in struggle and disappointment.
  • Success strategies that can make dating more fun and fulfilling.
  • How to hone in on partners more aligned with who you truly are.
  • Ways to become the great catch you really want to be!

 

 

About Our Speakers - Rosalind Sedacca and Amy Sherman:
 


Rosalind Sedacca is a Dating & Relationship Coach, a Divorce & Parenting Coach and co-author of 99 Things Women Wish They Knew About Dating After 40, 50 & Yes, 60! She is also the founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network for parents and author of How Do I Tell the Kids About the Divorce? Rosalind is an Expert Blogger for The Huffington Post, an Advisor at ParentalWisdom.com as well as a Contributing Writer for Exceptional People Magazine and the 2008 First Place Winner of the Victorious Woman Award and co-creator of the Create Your Ideal Relationship Kit for singles.
 
Amy Sherman has a master's degree in counseling/psychology and is a coach, trainer and co-author of 99 things Women Wish They Knew Before Dating After 40, 50, and Yes, 60! Amy understands the needs, challenges and insecurities singles face in finding meaningful relationships and helps them avoid the disasters and disappointment they often experience when dating in mid-life.  She is also the author of Distress-Free Aging: A Boomer’s Guide to Creating a Fulfilled and Purposeful Life and The Joy of Optimism 10-Lesson eCourse, which offer strategies for overcoming adversity and other challenges of middle age.

 

 

 
***PLUS RSVP NOW TO RECEIVE THIS FREE BONUS***
 

 

 

All attendees will receive:

 

  • Rosalind and Amy will be giving all who sign up to this informative teleseminar, a free copy of their tips sheet: "A Simple Guide to Finding the Partner For You!"

 

Tuesday, March 5th, 2013

 

8:30PM EST

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 

 

 

 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit

www.Pre-Dating.com

 

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

 

You are receiving this Newsletter because you have either been to or registered for a Pre-Dating Speed Dating (formerly Cupid.com/PreDating) event in the past, have requested and currently receive our twice monthly event schedule notifications for your city, or have interacted with one of our Event Coordinators at a networking event, trade show, etc. and requested to be kept in the loop. We only send emails to those who request them (what's the value of sending stuff to people who never asked for it anyway?). If you no longer wish to receive our emails, follow the instructions below. Keep in mind by opting out of our National Newsletter, you also opt out of our local singles event schedule email notifications.

 

FREE Dating Teleseminar

March 5th

 

"If I'm Such a Great Catch, How Come I'm Still Single?"

 

 

With Authors, and Life Coaches, Rosalind Sedacca and Amy Sherman 

 

 

Tuesday, March 5th, 2013 at 8:30PM EST

 

– Free-

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

In this Free Teleseminar You’ll discover:

 

  • What causes so many of us to repeat the same mistakes again and again.
  • The most common challenges all of us face that result in struggle and disappointment.
  • Success strategies that can make dating more fun and fulfilling.
  • How to hone in on partners more aligned with who you truly are.
  • Ways to become the great catch you really want to be!

 

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 

Featured Testimonial

 

 

"Andrew and I met at the speeddating event at the Spaghetti Factory in Fairfield, OH back in October. We're still dating! I just wanted to let you guys know that long-term relationships CAN come from this! Much better and enjoyable than online dating."

- Andrea, Cincinnati, OH

 

 

 

To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit

www.Pre-Dating.com

 

 

877-i-PreDate

877-477-3328

 

 

 

 

EXPANSION NEWS:

 

 

New Pre-Dating.com Cities!


GREAT NEWS!  With the recent addition of Louise in Washington, DC and Shanta in Atlanda, GA; we now offer monthly events in over 80 US cities!
 
Work With Pre-Dating - Become an Event Coordinator

If you are interested in playing matchmaker and adding a new adventure and challenge to your life (part time).

 

 

Please apply online HERE!

 

(http://www.pre-dating.com/coordinator.php3)

 

We Are Currently Looking For An Event Coordinator in the Following Cities, and MORE! 

  

•    Lansing, MI
•    Chicago, IL

•    Fort Myers/ Naples, FL

•    Portland, OR

 

...And other event locations available!

 

 

QUOTE OF THE MONTH

 

 

 

"I also find it interesting that a lot of people in their 30s are not married and don't have kids. There are a lot of people in this age bracket that are out there dating and trying to find love. And I never thought that at my age I would be."

 

-John Stamos, Actor

 

 

 

CRAZY DATING FACT OF THE MONTH

 

An attractive online “About Me” section in your online dating profile often includes a brief description of what you are passionate about or thankful for, a couple of things your friends say about you, qualities you are looking for in a potential partner, the first thing people notice about you (other than appearance), how you spend your leisure time, five things you can’t live without, and the latest good book you’ve read.