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IN THIS NEWSLETTER:
Sent to over 180,000 Single Professionals!
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Q&A Forum From Singles Just Like You!
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Expansion News
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Featured Client Review
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Roy's Relationship Corner- Special FREE Offer for Roy's Dating Advice Website!
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FREE Pre-Dating Teleseminar: "The Pursuit of Intimacy" with Roy Biancalana
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Crazy Dating Fact of the Month
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Quote of the Month
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Q&A FORUM:
Questions From Other Singles Like You
Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them? Maybe just a relationship question in general? Some other people did as well and here are their questions to us.
If you have a question, simply email us at Questions@Pre-Dating.com and if selected for our next Newsletter you'll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.
QUESTION #1:
Hi Pre-Dating,
Well, another year has gone by and I am single on Valentines Day. I have tried a few events, and they were a hoot! But I didn't meet the man of my dreams. I have also tried online dating, and that was a bust. What's wrong with me?!
Answer from Pre-Dating
Dear "Wading in the Singles Pool",
Great question, reader! Look- dating is a numbers game, but those odds get better by meeting people that share similar interests and by meeting more people.
As far as singles events are concerned, they are a great way to meet local singles in a fun, and safe environment. However, going to niche events may be the way to go for you. I know Pre-Dating Speed Dating does host niche events in some markets. Those may include "Dog Lovers" events, or "Active and Fit" events.
Maybe those don't work for you, or, there are no niche events in your market. That's just fine, because guess what? I bet there are things around town to do that will peak your interest. If you're an art lover, check out a local gallery- you never know, you may find a single guy there that will peak your interest.
My best advice to you would be to dive into your true interests and get out there and explore those on your own. If you set aside time monthly to do a few events that are among your interests, you will soon notice a small pool of new friends and contacts. If none of them are relationship material, surly they have friends as well that you can meet.
In short, dating is 90% self-marketing and 10% luck. You have to market yourself in the environment that shows you off in your best light.
QUESTION #2:
Dear Pre-Dating,
I have come to a few events, and have not gotten picked! I am an attractive guy, I have a great job, and I consider myself a nice and easygoing person. What gives?!
Answer from Pre-Dating
Dear "Unlucky":
Great Question! I do have a few questions to ask you- what do you talk about? Is the conversation mostly revolving around you? How do you dress? And finally, what is your tonality? Let me break this down for you question by question, in hopes that we can find out exactly what is occurring here.
Let's start off with the question of what you talk about and if the conversation is mostly revolving around you. The reason I ask this, is the question you presented completely revolves around you and how great you are. No doubt you are a great guy, but people don't necessarily want to hear you gloat about yourself for 6 minutes- it's a HUGE turn off. The first thing you should do when you sit down with one of your daters, is compliment a certain physical trait about them, even if they are not your type; Look for something they obviously worked on. For example, if their hair looks great, or their makeup is well done, you might say something like "Wow, you look great tonight, your hair looks so healthy". This might sound a bit corny, however, you have immediately engaged this person by 1) complimenting them, 2) increasing their confidence, 3) sparked an interesting topic of conversation. Put yourself in the other persons shoes and think of how you would feel if you were on the receiving end of your conversation.
Now, how do you dress/ present yourself? Remember, as people, we make a physical judgment within 3 seconds of meeting someone. So, if you are not 'dressed to impress' or might still be 'living in the 90's' with your elastic waistband khaki's and Hawaiian button down, you might give off a bad first impression. If you are oblivious to the current fashion trends, I recommendasking for help. Most dept. stores have fashion experts that can help you reinvent your look. Go to a higher-end salon and have them give you a new hairstyle that is both appropriate for your age and professional stature.
Lastly, what is your tonality when you are talking to someone? Most people do not know what they sound like when they talk. In fact, recently, I helped afellow dater who was having the same problem as you! They were not getting any matches, however, the look was right, the subject matter was dead on, but his tonality was BORING. It was like listening to Ben Stein. What I recommended to him was to take a tape recorder and record his conversations through out a day in his normal life. He called me back the following day in horror, "I DO sound boring". He worked on this for some time, came back to an event, and to his surprise, he matched with every single lady at the event. Tonality is one of the most important aspects of communication. You may think you sound GREAT, but in reality, you may be giving the wrong impression just by the tone of your verbal delivery.
All that being said, the most important piece of knowledge I can share with you is "Be yourself"! Sure, change a few things here and there in order to better yourself, but do not be too dramatic about it. You may need a little polish, but you certainly do not need to change who you are.
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Roy's Relationship Corner
One of the reasons my newest book, Attracting Lasting Love: Breaking Free of the 7 Barriers that Keep You Single, has become a #1 best-seller on Amazon is because in the book I present a new and radical way of dating and relating, something I call, The Dating Manifesto.
The Dating Manifesto is a call to change the culture of dating. It's a challenge to stop playing games and date consciously. So in The Dating Manifesto, I describe 7 commitments of conscious dating. And as I said, they're radical. But when you align your life with the 7 commitments, magic happens. Drama ends and love blooms. The Dating Manifesto is a blueprint for conscious dating and they will help you attract a healthy, lasting relationship.
I'm going to share one of the 7 commitments in each of the next seven newsletters. (If you miss any of them, email me at roy@coachingwithroy.com and I'll send them to you.)
Now, in order to make this fun, I'm not only going to present each of the 7 conscious commitments, but I'm also going share their evil twins, or their opposites. Unfortunately, these counter-commitments describe "the game," how most people normally date. Choosing the conscious commitment over its "evil twin" is the key to enjoying your dating experience and attracting lasting love.
So far, we've discussed Responsibility, Curiosity, Authenticity, Allies, Enough and Source. The 7th commitment in The Dating Manifesto is Story. Here's how I describe it.
CONSCIOUS COMMITMENT #7: Story
"My story is just a story." I commit to seeing that the opposite of my story is as true, or truer, than my original story. I recognize that I interpret the world around me and give my stories meaning.
Now, here's its "evil twin." This is how most people date …
COUNTER-COMMITMENT #7: Reality
"My story is not a story. It's reality." I commit to believing that my stories, and the meaning I give them, are true. I commit to insisting that others agree with my stories. I commit to interpreting events as "proof" that my stories are, indeed, true.
"All the good ones are taken or gay." "Men want younger women." "If a person's over 40 and never been married they have commitment issues." "Men are intimidated by strong women." On and on we go, telling stories. We do it all the time. Clients often tell me, "It's impossible for a woman in her 50's to find a good man." When I say that's just a story, they insist on it being true. Then I say, "Did you know my wife met me when she was in her 50's?" Silence.
The most dangerous and self-sabotaging thing a single person can do is to think their stories are true. It not only shapes your attitudes and actions, but more importantly, stories become self-fulfilling prophecies. If a strong woman thinks she intimidates men, she'll interpret a man's behavior as being proof that her story is true. "See! He didn't ask for a second date because I'm intimidating!", when, in fact, it had nothing to do with that.
Here's your 4-part homework assignment (but don't worry, there's no math). [1] Create a written list of your stories about yourself, men, women, dating and relationships. [2] Write down the exact opposite of your story. (For example, "All the good ones are taken or gay," becomes, "There is an abundance of quality, available partners.") [3] Close your eyes and ask yourself the following question until your heart opens: "Am I willing to believe that the opposite of my story is as true, or even truer, than my original story?" [4] Open your eyes and notice how the world has changed. Low and beyond: the earth isn't flat after all.
If your love life is not satisfying, then take advantage of The Attracting Lasting Love Complimentary Coaching Session™. It's a 30-minute free conversation where I help you discover the primary issue that's keeping you single and what to do about it. Email me at roy@coachingwithroy.com or call me at 407-687-3387 to set up an appointment.
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FREE Dating Teleseminar
March 1st, 2016
"Dating, Sex, Relationships and Marriage- The Ultimate LIVE Dating Q&A"
With Relationship Coaches, Roy Biancalana and Michael Clarke
Tuesday, March 1st, 2016
8:30PM EST
RSVP HERE NOW!
In this crazy new world of dating, we know you have tons of questions that need answering! So, we're taking a different approach on March's Teleseminar, as we have realized that you, the audience, want to ask questions on an array of different subjects and topics! Instead of our typical 45 minute guest speaker presentation, this month- Relationship Coach Roy Biancalana and Pre-Dating C.O.O., Michael Clarke will answer your questions directly through a constructive and informative seminar built to help you succeed in finding a lasting, emotionally and physically fulfilling relationship.
What you need to do to be fully prepared:
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Write down a few questions that you would like to have answered, no questions are off the table!
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Bring an open-mind
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And that's it!
About Our Speakers
Roy Biancalana: is known as "The Intimacy Guru," and is a nationally recognized leader in the field of attraction, intimacy and conscious relationships. He appears regularly on Fox35 TV in Orlando, FL as their relationship expert and is the author of the book, "A Drink with Legs" sold worldwide.
Roy is a certified relationship coach, spiritual teacher and was a PGA Tour player. His passion is working with men and women who are committed to awakening to their true spiritual nature and experiencing the love life they most desire. He specializes in supporting single people in attracting the love of their lives and also helping those who are in committed partnerships experience a deeper level of intimacy. He has clients all over the world and coaches by phone, Skype or in person.
Michael Clarke: has been working with singles over the last 9 years on both the business end of two of the largest singles companies in the world as well as one-on-one through his coaching business. Michael's main focus within his coaching is to help people absolve any past relationship struggles, and to help his clients turn their focus on themselves and how to be the very best person they can be before stepping back out into the dating scene.
Michael has been interviewed on dozens of radio stations, including "Date Therapy with Dr. Tranquility", "The Dating Jungle Live" with Tara Richter, as well as Tampa Bay's Fox News, and many others.
***PLUS RSVP NOW TO RECEIVE THIS FREE BONUS***
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30 minute Free Coaching Session with Roy Biancalana
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Raffle for Free Dating Events
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Raffle for 1 of 5 Free Books from Roy Biancalana
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...Plus more!
Tuesday, March 1st, 2016
8:30PM EST
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FREE Dating Teleseminar
March 1st, 2016
"Dating, Sex, Relationships and Marriage- The Ultimate Q&A"
With Relationship Coaches, Roy Biancalana, and Michael Clarke
Tuesday, March 1st, 2016 at 8:30PM EST
– Free-
RSVP HERE NOW!
What you need to do to be fully prepared:
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Write down a few questions that you would like to have answered, no questions are off the table!
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Bring an open-mind
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And that's it!
RSVP HERE NOW!
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Featured Testimonial
Matt,
I meant to email this summer but time flies. I remember our host saying at the event we went to that you wanted to know if we ended up in a relationship after one of pre dating's events. Well we met at Amber 3 1/2 years ago and got married last spring so it did work for us.
Jen and Jon (Seattle, WA), December 2015
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To Check Out a Speed Dating Event Near You Simply Visit
www.Pre-Dating.com
877-i-PreDate
877-477-3328
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EXPANSION NEWS:
New Pre-Dating.com Cities!
GREAT NEWS! With the recent additions of Adrienne in Washington DC, Kathy in Philly, Quinyatta in Little Rock, AK, JoJo in Reno, NV, and Cindy in Tucson we now offer monthly events in over 90 US and Canadian cities!
Work With Pre-Dating - Become an Event Coordinator
If you are interested in playing matchmaker and adding a new adventure and challenge to your life (part time).
Please apply online HERE!
(https://www.pre-dating.com/coordinator.php3)
We Are Currently Looking For An Event Coordinator in the Following Cities, and MORE!
• Los Angeles, CA
• Portland, OR
• San Francisco, CA
...And other event locations available!
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QUOTE OF THE MONTH
"It is an extra dividend when you like the girl you've fallen in love with."
-Clark Gable (Actor)
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About Pre-Dating
Pre-Dating Speed Dating is the world's largest Speed Dating service for busy single professionals with monthly events in over 90 cities. If you have a busy life and don't have time to meet new people, don't like to date clients or co-workers, and are not interested in the bar scene then try Pre-Dating Speed Dating.
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