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August 2015

 

                                        

 

 

 

 

IN THIS NEWSLETTER:

 

Sent to over 170,000 Single Professionals!

 

  • Q&A Forum From Singles Just Like You!
  • Expansion News
  • Featured Client Review
  • Roy's Relationship Corner- Special FREE Offer for Roy's Dating Advice Website!
  • FREE Pre-Dating Teleseminar: "3 Golden Keys to Free Yourself From Any Fears" with Guest Speaker, Sally Stubbs
  • Crazy Dating Fact of the Month
  • Quote of the Month

 

 

 

 

Pre-Dating to Supply You with More Valuable Advice!

 

Watch for emails from Pre-Dating.NET

 

For quite awhile, many of the single professionals who receive our event emails and monthly newsletter have been asking for MORE. Asking for Dating and Relationship tips and useful information and resources to help them in today's hectic and often confusing dating environment.

 

In the coming weeks, as a benefit to being on our list, you'll start getting a dating and relationships tips / resources email direct to your inbox multiple times a week. You'll be able to discontinue receiving that valuable content any time you want. Although some people may opt-out once they enter into a relationship, the emails you'll be receiving will have a solid amount of relationship advice for newly coupled people as well.

 

Keep an eye on your inbox for our separate, free, Dating & Relationship email series from pre-dating.net (our events are on pre-dating.com as usual, the .net is for our advice site)!

 

 

Q&A  FORUM:

 

 

 

Questions From Other Singles Like You



Wondering about Speed Dating events or how Pre-Dating does them? Maybe just a relationship question in general? Some other people did as well and here are their questions to us.

 

If you have a question, simply email us at Questions@Pre-Dating.com and if selected for our next Newsletter you'll get a complimentary ticket to one of our events.


 

 

QUESTION #1:

 

Hi Pre-Dating,

 

Is it possible to turn a casual sexual relationship into an actual, meaningful and loving relationship? 

 

 

Answer from Pre-Dating

 

Dear "Eating Dessert First",

 

In my opinion- yes, a casual sexual relationship can in fact turn into a loving and meaningful relationship. There are several aspects of this though that you must recognize prior to moving forward.

 

The act of sex, though fun and exciting, can bring feelings out in someone that may be unexpected. Those feelings, or chemistry can be very confusing as you may not know if it is purely sexual chemistry or if there is emotional chemistry involved too. The only way to really find out is to explore an emotional relationship with the other person. 

 

That said- does the other person want the same thing? Hold the phone! Do you want to throw away a good thing because you want to explore something more fulfilling? This is a question you have to ask yourself- how will you react if they do not share the same feelings or thoughts? We've all been there, and it is a terrifying thought. Rejection is simply the pits! 

 

The best way to approach this age old issue is being sincere with the person and letting them know that you're not sure if there is more there, but that you would be open to explore that if they are. This way- if they are not, though it may hurt- it's clear that they simply are just sexually interested in you, and not interested in an emotional connection. Sure- it'll sting- but why put in your head that there may be something there all while not knowing what the other person feels. The opposite can certainly happen and they are delighted that you want to explore a deeper connection with them. In reality- it's a win-win here. Knowledge is power my friend!

 

Look, to know one way or the other for sure, someone has to have the courage here to broach the subject, might as well be you!   


QUESTION #2:

 

Dear Pre-Dating,

 

I am consistently getting no matches from the events, and I am not sure what I am doing wrong. What are your thoughts here? I think I am a nice looking guy with a lot to offer someone. I do tend to be a little nervous when talking to women and sometimes I lose my train of thought during conversations. 

 

Answer from Pre-Dating

 

Dear "Unlucky":

 

One of the best parts about our speed dating events is that you get to meet more people in one evening than most meet in week or even a month, but sometimes, dating is simply a numbers game. There are a few items though that may help you increase your chances of landing a date after the event though. 

 

1) Attire- Are you dressing the part? Be sure that you are dressed in clothing that suits your body type (there's nothing wrong with any body type- just be sure to accentuate the "best parts"). We recommend that men wear button downs or polo's along with a dressier pair of jeans, or slacks/ khaki's along with a nice pair of dress shoes to tie the outfit together. Suits are not needed, but if you would prefer to wear one- that's excellent! If you need assistance in this department, most, if not all department stores have an in-house fashion consultant that can help you pick out an outfit that suits your look and body shape. 

 

2) Smile- A smile is your calling card, and shows confidence. 

 

3) Embrace her conversation- As you're sitting down and talking to your potential matches, it is important to engage and embrace what she has to say. Relate to her interests with interests of your own and share your insights on the things she talks about. Women love to feel as though their topics are being listened to- not just heard. 

 

4) Practice makes perfect- Think of topics you want to discuss prior to coming to the event- if you feel as though you may stumble- write down the topics you want to discuss and simply tell the person "I am a little nervous, so I wrote down some ideas for a good discussion". What this does, is it shows your vulnerability, something some women go gaga over. It's honest, and there is not one women out there that would think any less of someone simply being honest about their nervousness at an event. Heck- half the time we are nervous when hosting the events and speaking in front of a large group of people! 

 

Hopefully this has given some insight to your struggles and that you can utilize these strategies at an upcoming event with us! Who knows- maybe we'll have a success story from you to post soon! 

 

Roy's Relationship Corner

 

 

 

 

The purpose of my relationship coaching practice is to help single people attract lasting love. Over the years, I have seen 7 issues that consistently sabotage people and keep them single.

 

That's why I wrote the book, Attracting Lasting Love: Breaking Free of the 7 Barriers that Keep You Single. I want to help you avoid these 7 self-sabotaging issues and create the relationship of your dreams.

 

This is the ninth and final part of a series of articles in which I'm addressing each one of the 7 barriers and I'm doing so by sharing an excerpt directly from the book. (If you missed the previous articles, email me at roy@coachingwithroy.com and I'll send them to you.)

 

This month, I'm sharing an excerpt from the book where I get down to the nitty-gritty by talking about how to approach, or be approached, in public.

 

An excerpt from Attracting Lasting Love:

 

"When you do find yourself in a "target rich environment," as Maverick (Tom Cruise) put it in Top Gun, here are 4 principles to consider when approaching someone.

 

Principle #1: The Masculine Approaches but the Feminine Chooses.

 

One of the most memorable things my coach, Diana, ever said to me was an off-handed comment about dating. She said, "Women always choose the man. It's just that the smart women make the man think it was his idea."

 

She was saying that although it's traditional for a man to initiate and physically approach a woman, she's far from passive in the process. In fact, she's choosing him first, non-verbally.

 

The Feminine is a genius at non-verbal communication and she can influence a man's behavior through subtle and almost subliminal things like smiling, lingering eye contact or a slight gesture like twirling her hair or a tilt of her head. She's saying, "come talk to me" without saying it. Men don't always consciously pick up on such subtle invitations (they're not nearly as attuned to the energetic level as women are), they just start to feel confident about approaching her, not knowing that she's already chosen them.

 

Years later, when they're married and someone asks them how they met, he'll say he bravely walked up to her and started a conversation and she'll smile, knowing full well that she chose him.

 

Now, this is not to say a woman cannot or should not walk up to a man and say, "You're really handsome and I'd like to buy you dinner Saturday night and get to know you better." A woman can do that. There are no rules. However, by doing that, she's in her Masculine (initiating and presenting a plan is Masculine no matter what gender does it), which will force him into his Feminine, and if he has a Feminine essence and she has a Masculine essence, they will be extremely attracted to each other. But if that's not true, she'll either get shot down, or worse, a slow depolarization will begin and the relationship will probably fizzle out in a few weeks and wind up in the Friend Zone.

 

So, the Masculine does the approaching, but the Feminine does the choosing in her wonderfully seductive and subtle ways."

If you'd like to learn more about the 7 barriers and how they might be sabotaging your ability to attract lasting love, you can preview and/or purchase the e-book or the paperback by clicking HERE.

 

 

Special FREE offer from Pre-Dating's relationship coach, Roy Biancalana:

 

 

It is very challenging to find your ideal partner in today's dating scene. That's why Roy and Pre-Dating.com have partnered together to bring you THE ATTRACTION FACTOR VIDEO SERIES absolutely FREE!

 

In this series of 5 short videos, sent directly to your inbox, Roy will walk you through 5 critical factors that will help you find "the one."

 

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FREE Dating Teleseminar

Sept. 1st, 2015

 

"3 Golden keys to Free Yourself From Any Fears"

 

 

With Relationship Expert and Psychotherapist, Sally Stubbs

 

Tuesday, Sept. 1st, 2015

 

8:30PM EST

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

In this Informative Teleseminar, you will learn:

  • How our fears hold us back from being our self & relating Joyfully.
  • Where our fears come from & how we can thoroughly deconstruct them
  • "Golden key One": why we need self-worth in our important relationships and how we can develop the right kind of self-worth
  • "GoldenKey" Two: How self-worth creates healthy and vital 'boundaries' in our important relationships
  • "Golden Key" Three: Gaining the essential Power Balance in an important relationship – and Restoring your own 'MoJo'

 

About Our Speaker- Sally Stubbs

 

Sally, from being a young child was enthralled by the power of the individual mind, particularly the Unconscious Mind. From the age of 10 she was reading as much as she could to learn about the mind and the potential of every individual mind. She studied Psychology and para- Psychology, also studying extra curriculum from Ancient Traditions and our amazing Neuro Sciences. She went on with formal education and Qualified in 1982 as a Licensed Psychotherapist and Clinical Hypnotherapist MBCP Snr. Accred., FACH, CNHC, NGH. Her Passion and rigorous research over the past 33 years has been focused on how to have: Authentic, lasting Harmonious Relationships. She has Worked successfully with 1,000's of people from around the world, is a published author, and is much sought after for her Unique & Authentic Therapeutic strategies.

 

Sally has presented and has been a speaker in many countries. She worked during the 1990's as a Consultant to the Juvenile Justice team. She has written many articles for Professional Journals and has been a BBC Radio Presenter as an 'Agony Aunt' – resolving relationship issues. Above all that, Sally would like to share with you how she, from being a very nervous, withdrawn, and fearful child freed herself from her own fears, 'found' her own 'Mojo' – met and married Mike, and has lived in a loving, adventurous, harmonious relationship that Rocks- for nearly 25 years!

 

 
***PLUS RSVP NOW TO RECEIVE THIS FREE BONUS***

 

  • Deep discounts on Pre-Dating Speed Dating Events
  • Sally Stubbs Protocol: "Find your 'MoJo' – and have Great Dates & Harmonious Relationships" ($18.97 Value)
  • A Chance to win one of 6 Free 1 hour Therapy Sessions ($236.00 Value)

Tuesday, September 1st, 2015

 

8:30PM EST

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

 


 

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FREE Dating Teleseminar

Sept. 1st, 2015

"3 Golden keys to Free Yourself From Any Fears"

 

 

With Relationship Expert and Psychotherapist, Sally Stubbs

 

Tuesday, Sept. 1st, 2015 at 8:30PM EST

 

– Free-

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

Would You Like To Have The Power To:

  • How our fears hold us back from being our self & relating Joyfully.
  • Where our fears come from & how we can thoroughly deconstruct them
  • "Golden key One": why we need self-worth in our important relationships and how we can develop the right kind of self-worth
  • "GoldenKey" Two: How self-worth creates healthy and vital 'boundaries' in our important relationships
  • "Golden Key" Three: Gaining the essential Power Balance in an important relationship – and Restoring your own 'MoJo'

  

 

RSVP HERE NOW!

 

 

Featured Testimonial

 

 

I Just wanted to let you guys know that on July 11, 2015, I married the guy that I met at a pre-dating event in Seattle three years ago! We are very happy and grateful!

 

Arla (Seattle, WA), August 2015

 

 

 

 

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EXPANSION NEWS:

 

 

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GREAT NEWS!  With the recent additions of Stacie in Ann Arbor, MI, Judy in Akron, OH and Emily in New Orleans, LA- we now offer monthly events in over 90 US and Canadian cities!
 
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We Are Currently Looking For An Event Coordinator in the Following Cities, and MORE! 

  

•    Portland, OR
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•    San Francisco, CA

 

...And other event locations available!

 

 

QUOTE OF THE MONTH

 

 

"Not all journeys are as to be expected. Not all stones will be un-turned on your first trek. Nor will everyone walk with you. And that's OK- life is yours to make. Make your own path, your own mark, your own decisions and dream your own dreams."

 

-Michael Clarke (COO- Pre-Dating Speed Dating)

 

 

 

CRAZY DATING FACT OF THE MONTH

 

According to a TED talk by David McCandless (link is external), most breakups are announced on Mondays, most breakups occur right before Spring Break and right before Christmas.

 

SOURCE: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-mysteries-love/201503/20-random-facts-about-dating-sex-breakups-and-divorce-0

 

About Pre-Dating

 

Pre-Dating Speed Dating is the world's largest Speed Dating service for busy single professionals with monthly events in over 90 cities. If you have a busy life and don't have time to meet new people, don't like to date clients or co-workers, and are not interested in the bar scene then try Pre-Dating Speed Dating.

 

 

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